You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
so now I have less of a chance of her coming back? If I didn't say anything, we could get back together more naturally? Would I be telling her the same thing you're saying even if i didn't get the last word in?EvilSpirit22 said:Yes it does. You are not suppose to leave a door open for your ex for reconciliation. She still thinks you're waiting for her or would let her back in your life. But what you can do is block her on every social networking platform like facebook etc and if someday she decides to contact you then she'll get a surprise and then you can tell her that I am sorry but I can not waste my time on you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
'Last words' and 'effective no contact' are a contradiction in terms so I'm thinking the answer would be no.mrpickles666 said:Has anybody ever got the last word in like I did and still had an effective no contact?
I just said "let me know when you wanna get together" and left it at that. I'm not gonna contact her ever again unless she reaches out. So my no contact is fvcked?:-) said:'Last words' and 'effective no contact' are a contradiction in terms so I'm thinking the answer would be no.
Yes. But only in your head. Like I said. Once you stop giving a sh1t none of this will matter. As long as you care what others think you will always be the doormat that others walk all over whether it's men or women.mrpickles666 said:SO I MADE IT LOOK LIKE IM WAITING AND SHE WALKED ALL OVER ME AND WILL NEVER GET RESPECT BACK? Honest answer please.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Do you still think I could get a shot even with that phaggot beta b1tch "let me know when you wanna get together?":-) said:Yes. But only in your head. Like I said. Once you stop giving a sh1t none of this will matter. As long as you care what others think you will always be the doormat that others walk all over whether it's men or women.
Let me make this crystal clear to you. With your current mind set you have absolutely NO CHANCE. You care too much. Am I getting through to you?mrpickles666 said:Do you still think I could get a shot even with that phaggot beta b1tch "let me know when you wanna get together?"
(This is mrpickles666) But a lot of it doesn't apply to my situation, she never ignored my calls and never disrespected me. We only went on a couple of dates and were supposed to each other again a week after the second date and dangerous weather hit. Sh1t got in the way from is seeing each other and without quality time together, it could weaken which is part of it. I contacted her too much without giving her space to contact me which I know was a mistake for her IL. She even invited me to her to something nice and I declined saying "coming to my house." I could have accepted her invitation and rekindled. She didn't do anything that bad and I think you're being way too black and white about it. I still admit my mistakes though.EvilSpirit22 said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
(Mrpickles666) Why does it have to be that cold? I'm not saying I'd chase her but if she hits me up and I feel like seeing her again, why the fvck not? We had fun and good chemistryAlvafe said:first it don't amtter how you end it or if you had teh last word or not, no contact is about you forget about this girl and move on, to ignore all msg she send you after if she does(that make the last word you want void), you don't look for info on her, delete and block her from all media(cellphone, facebook, e-mail whatever else you had her on), and move on.
what you are trying to do is to force her think she needs you and making her miss you. and that will not work. no contact is not about the girl, is about you, you moving on, you learning from your mistakes and meeting new people without wasting time on her, to make your mind forget about her. I did heard some people saying doing so make they girl come back but I never did remember anyone saying they never break up again
Why the fvck not? Why the fvck are you going NC in the first place? Why the fvck are you even here asking advice? That's why the fvck not.Giantsfan88 said:(Mrpickles666) Why does it have to be that cold? I'm not saying I'd chase her but if she hits me up and I feel like seeing her again, why the fvck not? We had fun and good chemistry
Grow the fvck up? Mental case? I fvcked up and yeah I'm done with these forums for good. You don't know who the fvck I'm meeting, what I'm doing, anything about this girl's actual interest level, the situation, or sh1t about me other than I realize and just cant digest my mistakes right now and I'd rather vent here that than hit her up again. Everything here is or it isn't and maybe if I just went with my natural instincts her interest would have increased rather than relationship/dating "geniuses" feeding me negative bullsh1t from the beginning that fed my overthinkingLMFAO said:You care too fvcking much about a girl you had a second date with. A second date means NOTHNG. You are caught up in some disney romance with a girl you barely know. You do realise how pathetic it sounds? Grow the fvck up.
Sh1t happens you didn't see each other again plus she's not interested. Who the fvck cares. Stop posting about it. Go and improve yourself and meet new women and stop making yourself look like a complete mental case on here posting the exact same thing a thousand times.
To me it sounds mad butt hurt and blantatly ego driven for me to ignore her completely if she hit me up being nice and genuinely interested. She didn't do anything bad and whenever the time comes, I'll be a better guy and start fresh. And if another girl/girls are around at the time, I'll make MY choice:-) said:Why the fvck not? Why the fvck are you going NC in the first place? Why the fvck are you even here asking advice? That's why the fvck not.
If she's DTF though absolutely no reason not to hit it. But will you hit it, is the question.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.