Did I Fuk Up Here??

[soulforge]

Long story short... i dumped my girlfriend of 4 months, couple of days ago..

I couldn't do with the drama and the games anymore... plus cummunication with her was terrible..



i sent her a text and ended it with her... i gave her a few reasons why i felt she was not right for me.. and told her behaviour was not suitable for a healthy relationship..


was it a mistake to have given her a explanation? Or should i have just kept it simple, with.. i,m sorry this is not working out?


do you guys prefer to dump, or just go ghost lol

 

[Redzky]

IMO, you don't have to explain crap. Just make sure that you are not picking weak-minded, crazy, obsessive types that might do something stupid to themselves because they get overly attached. Wouldn't want to be responsible for some dumb girl's suicide.

 

[soulforge]

Yeh i feel abit of an idiot for giving her an explanation and a reason, maybe i should have kept it short with, its not working with you.. its over

 

[soulforge]

I should have kept simple... but guess its the end result that counts.. she is dumped

 

[soulforge]

You should have done it in person with one simple explanation, not several. But it is what it is, now move on.

I didn't want to meet her in person, she was acting a cold bitcch towards me, playing the victim again... so why would i meet her to end it... she didn't deserve a face to face ending

 

[KingBeef]

The guys are right... just keep it short and simple. Whats most important is she's GONE for good. You don't own her anything...SHE COULDN'T EVEN RESPECT YOU, REMEMBER THAT... Thats why you broke up with her. You'll be fine.

It's the 1st of May, the weather in the east coast this week is suppose to be great.... Go out there and enjoy yourself...

 

[RangerMIke]

Don't give her reasons unless she asks, and don't break up with women over text. Sorry, that's just weak. Trust me on this, it is MUCH better to do this in person, let her vent, then it's over. Doing something like this over text just drags this sh!t out.

 

[soulforge]

The guys are right... just keep it short and simple. Whats most important is she's GONE for good. You don't own her anything...SHE COULDN'T EVEN RESPECT YOU, REMEMBER THAT... Thats why you broke up with her. You'll be fine.

It's the 1st of May, the weather in the east coast this week is suppose to be great.... Go out there and enjoy yourself...

i guess the most important thing is she is GONE.... no more games, no more playing the victim, and disrespectful behaviour towards me...

 

[stevo]

Make a thread about your question before the fact not after you've already done something, you learn better that way.

 

[BrainDamage92]

Well Ive pulled the "pack my bags and get on the morning train to the far side of the country" so dont whine. And you were together for just 4 months so it wont hurt that much.

You wanted it to end, and its over, so you did good. There is no way to end a relationship gracefully if you ask me. The whole task of explaining calmly the whole thing seems impossible, I mean you got a woman who is being dumped\walked out on, how do you have a peaceful convo with such a creature? Esp when youre the motherfuker walking out on her. You cant do it with grace. But you can do it with style.

I see many guys who are perfectly aware their thing is not working, who just stay couse theyre too afraid to end it, and wait for the girl to do it and then cry when she ****s half the town behind their back lol.

Now you still feel like she belongs to you which is understandable. When she finds a new fool that will pass too.


Dont dwell on **** much. Get drunk. Go to sleep. Wake up a new man. Text breakup is not bad, only women dislike it, couse it saves alot of drama and they thrive on it.

 

[soulforge]

Well Ive pulled the "pack my bags and get on the morning train to the far side of the country" so dont whine. And you were together for just 4 months so it wont hurt that much.

You wanted it to end, and its over, so you did good. There is no way to end a relationship gracefully if you ask me. The whole task of explaining calmly the whole thing seems impossible, I mean you got a woman who is being dumped\walked out on, how do you have a peaceful convo with such a creature? Esp when youre the motherfuker walking out on her. You cant do it with grace. But you can do it with style.

I see many guys who are perfectly aware their thing is not working, who just stay couse theyre too afraid to end it, and wait for the girl to do it and then cry when she ****s half the town behind their back lol.

Now you still feel like she belongs to you which is understandable. When she finds a new fool that will pass too.


Dont dwell on **** much. Get drunk. Go to sleep. Wake up a new man. Text breakup is not bad, only women dislike it, couse it saves alot of drama and they thrive on it.

That was my thoughts exactly.. i could see things was not going to work.. terrible communication on both our parts..

She was quite rude and disrespecful sometimes... and calling her out just led to her becoming the victim and sabotaging the relationship..

Hot and cold.. she made zero effort into sorting things out.. i could see thing was going to turn real bad very soon..

Followed my gut instinct and bailed