Did i do too much? And what happened?

[Bamaboi]

Met this chick 23 yr old Bi chick 3 weeks ago, we met 3 times the first week, the first day i got her number i set up for us to link , ..told her i was gone text her in a hour..got no reply back from her lol...so i still hit her an hour later and asked what side of town she on and she sent me a text saying " i had linked up with my girl"..(so before we even met she flaked lol) So I forgot about her forreal after that, she hit me up two days later, long story short we ended up kicking it 3 times that week i had to kind of force it ,like move quick ( we smoked nothing major, 3rd time we got a room). The Vibe was good i know it was, she knew it was. I dropped her off and went about my business.

A week later after me not hitting her up i got a text from an unsaved number at 10pm saying " This such and such"..it was her...(she got a new #)...Aint hit her back till the next day with " Yo"..she hit back like 10 min later with " Yeah"..i again didnt text her back till the next day with " When you gonna be able to link back up, let me know something"...she hit back like 12 min later with " Tomorrow"(Saturday), i never responded. So later that day she went "live" on her facebook saying she bored and whats the move, said she waiting on her homegirl to come get her , at the sametime random dudes commenting trying to link up and she entertaining it lowkey ( not my business but damn you aint tryna link with me till tomorrow lol).

So the next morning came (Saturday) i texted her and was like " Be ready around 5pm you hear me"..no response from her. Around 5pm i was on her side of town and called her phone , no answer. So i pull up to her crib like 15 min later and called no response..i texted and said im outside im leaving in 5 min, no response.


Monday came she finally texted back "anyways ill get me a room today"..(Like 15 min before that text she posted a status saying " Somebody come get me"..i hit her back 40 min "Where you at" she hit me right back and said " By my side of town"..i texted her back 12 min later " Where at"..she never replied.

Three hours later i texted her again " whats up, you need to quit wit these games and let me know something..you hear me"..she instantly texted back and said " Im just now getting up give me a min" (but like 10 min before that she posted a status on FB sayin " Single asf who wants to text" lol )..an hour passed..i texted and said " im about to head yo way get ready"..she instantly texted back " No"..i figured she was playin and being difficult on purpose..so i said " im gone text you when im outside"(it worked before).

I get there and told her to come out, then i called, she didnt answer. She then texted back and said " im not there thats why i told you no, listen the ****"..i hit her back and was like " Where you at then, you playin, then you talking crazy"...about 10 min later i looked back at my phone i see i had a missed called from her (She dont usually call, i knew then i was kind of doing too much/Overthinking) so i called back from my other phone and it just rung. So i let it be, then about 20 min later i said **** it ..so i called from my other number that she just called and she answered.

long story short i instantly asked her what she got goin and why she playin games and ****, she was like " i told you im not there, i said "No"..i told her that she gotta be real and let me know the whole thing..not no half ass texts, i can tell she felt that **** and she asked where i was at..i told her..she said she was just asking.. I asked where she was at and she said " Im in the car heading to the mall"...she also said i took too long. So i said " what i do i need to do"..it was quiet like she aint know what to say..she then randomly said " Ill hit you up around 9pm"..i then said " ight if i dont here none from you at 9 it is what it is"..she replied with " Okay" , she said it in a non chalant way as if she was saying " Okay i dont care, you acting stupid and what you saying dont make sense but okay ". 9pm came and no call or text from her. That was Monday its friday and i noticed all contacy from her end stopped.

I can see now i should have just been patient and let her hit me up instesd of pushing..my question is should i hit her up or let her hit me up? And also what do you guys think was going on.

 

[redskinsfan92]

You are meeting up too frequently. Alpha Male Strategies on Youtube explains this issue well. He says to increase the value of your attention to her. I will find the video and share it soon.

 

[HughJasolphd]

Welcome to the forum, bud

First thing first; you texted her waaaayyy too soon to set up a meet up, & the follow up an hour later totally gives the vibe of neediness & low value to a woman. I understand being amped to meet a cool new chick, but I'd at least wait a day or two before mentioning something about meeting her & setting up a date (example "was really cool to meet you the other day, Im free Thursday night, let's grab drinks). Waiting a day or two won't make her forget about you if the first interaction was solid and you left a good impression.

As far as the second paragraph & text exchanges, the one word answers isn't gonna get either of you anywhere in terms of making plans. When she said she was available tmrw, a simple "ok cool" would work. Not responding in this situation wont get a chick curious unless she has zero options. The fact she's getting sexual attention from other guys on her Facebook live stream shows she isn't exactly short of options. You ignored her, so she ignored you. Showing up to her house without an invite or plan when you only hung out a handful of times comes across as needy, or even creepy. Think about it...would you be ok with a chick you only hung out with a handful of times showing up to your crib unannounced unless you guys had great chemistry? Probably not.

If she's posting statuses about being single asf, she is looking for attention from just about anyone to get her fix. Her not being available when you found it to be a good time could be her not replying because someone acted while you played hard to get over a text message. This reason alone is why I'm not big on texting, if plans are made, they probably should be done over the phone.

For forcefulness of your tone in these texts ( "you hear me", telling her no when she says she's somewhere else, etc) & then asking her what you need to do in order to meet up with her is conveying two different messages. It's saying you're trying to come across alpha/ dominant but are still letting her dictate what happens with the whole "what do I need to do" thing. She got turned off if I was to guess & didn't want to put up with any bs when another guy would give her the validity she was searching for without all the text game bull****.

The play here is to go ghost. If the few times you guys hung out were good & she enjoyed herself, she will at some point probably pop up with a text or call. If that happens, make a plan to meet up & if she gives a **** answer, move on. It's not a contest of who can be the most nonchalant over a text message conversation. If neither of you are getting your needs/desires met, just look elsewhere brother. Plenty of em out there who won't waste time.

 

[backseatjuan]

This girl just wants d1ck, she is not feminine enough, she will not submit and do whatever you want tho. She want it whenever it's good time for her. There is absolutely no game to be played with her, because this is a sex hook up and she's down, but not with whatever you have to offer, she wants a living dildo at her disposal. This is quite simple, you just have to find out when she's down for some sex and show up on time, and when you text back and force, no waiting, instant.

Also, exploration needs to be done. 3some, dildos, anal, a2m. Good starting place is when you are with her ask her to put you a porno she likes.

Oh, and for when you are not banging her, you need to buzz off. Tho it's ok to write hello every now and then.