Did I do the right thing?

[JoeyD]

Long history with an ex, so Ill sum it up in a few sentences. He broke up with me a few months ago(because I was too nice). We never really took a step back from eachother. He said a few days ago that he wanted to work on becoming a couple again.

Last night I went over to his place to go out for the night. He said that the guy we where going with (who hes attracted to but is in a serious relationship) would be staying the night at his apartment. I asked where he was sleeping, he said in his bed with him, leaving me on the couch. I told him I dont appreciate being disrespected.. he said we arent a couple. So, I pack up my stuff and leave, not in a huff or puff.. just because I didnt think I would have a good time with him and the friend that night.

Did I do the right thing or did I let my emotions get the best of me? Should I have gone out, had a good time and slept on the couch? How should I handle things now? Go with the idea that we arent a couple, start doing my own things? The ex has said a couple of times that he wants to be with me, but has a hard time with intimacy.

Thanks for the advice. I really feel like after reading all the stuff around the net Im finally getting this whole dating thing.

 

[Stuntmann]

In a gay relationship it appears you were submissive one. Now your partner wants to dominate you even more, by totally treating you like trash.


Question is, do you want to be treated like trash?



This is far beyond what DJ community is about. But there are freaks, perhaps. In my book your boyfriend is a whimp. If you were a woman you'd have a very low value.


Move out, move on, and that means forget. Circumstances suggest his IL will go up for you with time, meaning further contact with you. Moving on means never talking to that guy again and finding someone else.


This is rather interesting. You'd have to find someone else right away, to cover yourself and prove your worth to yourself. Yet, finding a quality person takes time. Start dating again.

 

[JoeyD]

Hes said several times that he likes being the "flower" in the relationship. I messed that up early on and thats why he broke up with me. Now Im trying to treat him like the flower while flexing some man muscle. I really dont want to cut him out of my life because I feel like there is something special between us.

 

[Stuntmann]

Don't matter if you straight, lesbian, gay, cat, dog, bird. Basic things still apply.


You have no 2nd chances. He (or she if that his role), has no interest in you other than a friend.