I've been talking to this girl for almost 7 months now. We've fvked a bunch of times already. But up until about almost a month ago, she flaked on me. SO I did the no contact thing and acting indifferent. Everytime she sees me at work, I would just be polite acting like the flaking didnt bug me and keep my hands to myself. Anyway after about 1 and a half weeks of no contact, she comes visits me and I'm polite and we talk for a bit. I didn't show her that I wanted her. So then she left after about 10 min of talking. Then I proceeded to continue not calling her and acting indifferent. The weekend of the week she visited me, she went to Vegas. Then after a week of NC and Indifference, she comes by again, which is today. I asked her how was Vegas, she said she didnt' do anything and that her friends was out and she just stayed in the hotel (i dont know if this was a result of me not contacting her she might have been troubled mentally and emotionally). The most she did was walk around during the day time and at night, stayed in the hotel. Anyway, she starts complementing me, touching me, playing footsies, etc etc. Then I proceed to help her bring some stuff to her car since she needed to go to school at night (college). Then I ask her if I can get a ride to drop me at my car. On the way to my car, she asked me if i wanted to smoke weed with her. I said no. I continued keeping my hands to myself and being polite. Then she says "you know what, you dont' want 2 smoke weed with me and have fun but yet you do other things to me that is fun to you" (i knew what this meant). When she said this, she put her hand on my chest and then I held her hand. Then we were right at my car, I proceeded to french her, i put my hand down her pvssy rubbing it from the outside. Then I asked her if she's still going to leave right now. She said yes. I was tempted to ask her to stay and let me fvk her really quick (a quickie), but instead, I stopped kissing her and said "good night" and see her tomorrow. Did I do the right thing? Is she trying to get me back to the way I used to be with her? (I used to be this with her: Always wanting sex, calling her from time to time (not everyday), texting her). After I left, I didnt' call her (i bet she was expecting me to beg her to have s3x with her). What you guys think?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Did i do the right thing? Was this a test?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Igetit!
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909pua said:[What you guys think?
YES!!! YOU FINALLY GET IT!
You finally understand what I'd been saying to you.
You were nearly flawless. Like DJ China said,your only mistake was asking her if she was still going to leave. Other than that,you did well,very well.
To be honest,I kinda surprised at how well you did.
You seem different,like you've changed or something. You seem like you have more self-control,more self discipline.
A couple of months ago,you would have been all over her like a moth to a flame
You must have the info in my sig memorized,because you followed it perfectly.
It's good to see that the forum actually does help out the members instead of just being a place for guys to come and complain about thier dating lives.
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hey IGETIT, I thought you forgot about me. Ya man, this forum has shed light on me. I was stubborn at first thinking that this forum doesn't yield results but it actually does. Ever since I've been talking to this girl and fvking her on the side, my confidence in myself shot up 200% after I realized that techniques in this forum do work. Now I'm talking to girls left and right and really dont give a damn if I get rejected. I've probably met like 5 girls since talking to this chick. But its too bad I only have one in my rotation right now. Im not worried, with patience it will come and now I have patience. Before I would be scared losing this girl but now, since my confidence shot up, I can talk to any girl anywhere w/o fear of thinking of what to say or do. YOu just have to act like the girl you are talking to is someone you already know. I guess that's the mind set that they say "assume the sale", right? Anyway, thanks for responding. And yes, no contact does work. It just makes you look different from all the weak guys thats out there that dont know jack sh$t about the game. At work, many females talk to me, and sometimes they say jokes, like some guy will try to hate. You know what I tell him? "Dont hate the player, hate the game!"
And ya dude, I shouldn't have asked if she "was going". Oh well, I'm not a horn dog like I was. I came to realize that acting like a horn dog will bury you in a deep hole and I'm not going thru that again. Next time I wont ask, I'll just go all the way.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.