Did I do the right thing guys?

[forgottenDreams]

Hello guys,

I live about 40km from this girl that I'm dating. We've only met once so far.
3 days ago I setup a 2nd date with her and we agreed she takes the bus to the station near where I live and then we go to this place that is close to where I live. I drive and she doesn't.
2 days ago she messages me saying she feels we should hang out in her area a few more times before she goes to new areas and that it's a girl thing.
I guess she meant she wants to feel safe first.

Being a gentleman I agreed and we picked a spot near where she lives. I'm divided between thinking this was considerate of me or being weak.

If you have any input please share, and also most importantly please advice on how to proceed with future dates...thanks guys.

 

[phillies]

She could be just be being cautious.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Hello guys,

I live about 40km from this girl that I'm dating. We've only met once so far.
3 days ago I setup a 2nd date with her and we agreed she takes the bus to the station near where I live and then we go to this place that is close to where I live. I drive and she doesn't.
2 days ago she messages me saying she feels we should hang out in her area a few more times before she goes to new areas and that it's a girl thing.
I guess she meant she wants to feel safe first.

Being a gentleman I agreed and we picked a spot near where she lives. I'm divided between thinking this was considerate of me or being weak.

If you have any input please share, and also most importantly please advice on how to proceed with future dates...thanks guys.

There are really two ways to look at this. If you're asking if agreeing to meet in "her area" will stop you from getting laid.. then the answer is: not necessarily. If you're asking if it makes you look weak.. also.. not necessarily.

My advice is just DON'T DO IT AGAIN. Why? Because of the slippery slope. If you compromise your terms on one thing, then wants next? The more a woman can get you to give into her wishes the more she controls the relationship.

Its manipulation. There is no reason a GROWN ADULT can't meet you in a neutral place you pick. She just wants to meet you at her convenience to minimize investing too much too early. Nothing wrong with that. Its a smart move on her part, but not necessarily good for you.

She also wants to avoid being in a situation where YOU have too much control. You see.. women always look out for themselves.. while men usually look out for the woman. This gives the woman 100% control.

For instance.. if she comes to your place and refuses to f*ck you.. then you will likely tell her to "find her own way home". IF you live in a sketchy area.. this might be dangerous for her.. so she will be at your mercy. If you come to HER area.. then she is in control. This is why its always a good sign when a woman agrees to come to YOUR place. You know she is open to getting pounded. :woo:

 

[PlayHer Man]

The video I posted below says it best. Remember men: Its YOUR happiness vs. HERS. Who is more important?

Only deal with women who are willing to play your game. Don't play HER game.. make her plays yours. If she won't play your game.. WALK AWAY

Link--> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fCpHHJAk_zE