Did i do something wrong

[Ztr1der]

Hey guys im having a small problem here

Anyway i went to this dinner party tonight like 11 of us 2 guys including me.So im sitting there i am very loud(naturally)and people are telling me to turn the volume down but everytime i try i cant,im telling stories keeping eye contact everyone is laughing having a good time then later on we go and walk around for a bit and everyone is trying to avoid me but they were always smalling and laughing at whatever i said but they all seemed kind of cold near the end like they ran away from me and tried to ditch so i hung out with some other chicks they still came and hugged me goodbye and stuff.Do you think they did this because i was too loud and didnt give a fvck what any1 though


Thanks

 

[Hughman]

11 ppl, two of which are guys?

Under normal social conventions the two guys would be see as GBFs. (2 players/PUAs/DJs with their women is a massively rarer sight) If you aren't acting to these norms, you're going to spook people initially.

Equally, being too loud, too much, and people may think you can't handle your drink.

 

[Ztr1der]

The thing is we werent drinkin

 

[Analyzeit]

Probably coulda been quieter sometimes the loud guy just gets to much to be with all the time.... I get to loud myself, just tone it down a bit. You don't have to be loud to show that DJ confidence

You weren't even drinking you don't even have an excuse to be loud haha.

They probably did it because they don't hate you or anything they just want a break from your loudness, i mean people were actually telling you to be quiet, just try your hardest to keep an eye on how loud you are and sooner you'll just keep it down naturally. it worked for me anyway.

Just try tone it down a bit it just another crinkle that needs ironing.

And they didn't come hug you because you were so loud and didn't give a fvck what anyone thought, they did it because they do like you, they just need a break from your loudness.

 

[Ztr1der]

haha thanks for the replies and advice...when i tried to speak softer i couldnt even hear myself! maybe i have hearing problems