"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This girl I've been going out with came over yesterday. It was a pretty gloomy day, very cloudy. We just kind of hung out on the couch together and later in my bed. There was lots of cuddling and play-fighting. Anyway, it seemed to me like she was having a good time. When it was time for her to go to work, I kissed her a couple of times outside in the hall and she smiled and told me to call her some time. Then today at work, I didn't even get so much as a hello. She was totally ignoring me. She wasn't even looking at me. This isn't like her at all but I didn't say anything. I just got my check and left. So what the **** is this?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Why didn't you f*ck her? That's what you did wrong.

Also she's testing you for panic and neediness. Don't sweat it.
 

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I didn't have sex with her because I'm not ready to have sex with her yet. It's as simple as that. I like her, but I'd like to get to know her a little better before I jam my **** inside of her.
 

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onemorerobot said:
I didn't have sex with her because I'm not ready to have sex with her yet. It's as simple as that. I like her, but I'd like to get to know her a little better before I jam my **** inside of her.
Alien concept to me, but different strokes for different folks and all that. Whatever the reason, women don't like being rejected any more than men, so that's why you're in the doghouse.

If you're going to be a c*nt-tease you have to be able to deal with the consequences.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I wouldn't be too worried about it.

Chicks have alot of sh1t going through their head all day long. She might feel that she does not want to be open about your relationship at work so people won't label her a slvt, or she is on her period who knows.

The point is that this behaviour did not happen on a date where the two of you are alone one on one. I would just ignore this behaviour and don't mention it next time you set up a date. If she starts acting flaky or giving you a hard time then you know its something serious and then it will be time to think things over.
 

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Well, if that's the problem, then she's just going to have to get over it, seeing as how she practically ditched me last weekend. Sorry, this wasn't in response to your post, Damage. Also, I can understand not wanting everyone to know. People tend to make a big deal out of everything, and right now it's not like we're a couple.
 

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is this the same girl you made a bet with?

(if it is)
get over it, you wanted to play games with her...she's playing them back.
 

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Nighthawk said:
Why didn't you f*ck her? That's what you did wrong.

Also she's testing you for panic and neediness. Don't sweat it.
Do women actually do this on purpose, or is a subconscious test that they do without even realizing it?
 

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specialed said:
is this the same girl you made a bet with?

(if it is)
get over it, you wanted to play games with her...she's playing them back.
Huh? Apparently you're thinking of someone else.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't assume anything. No biggie if she isn't talking at work... afterall she is at work. There is only a problem if she acts like that when you two are alone together.

Maybe she had mentrual cramps. Maybe she got yelled at by her boss. Maybe her ex-BF was there as well. Maybe she didn't have her contacts in....
 

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I understand that she's working. I don't expect her to drop what she's doing just to say hello to me. It just bothered me that she was standing right next to me at one point, and I didn't even get a "hey" or a "hi". Maybe it's because we're past that initial stage of flirting?
 
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