Firstly I’m not looking for a feel good answer. I want the truth.
Been with my girlfriend for over a year. Never cheated or even put myself in a situation to allow it to happen and have always expected the same.
My gf and I have an argument and it basically ends with me saying “screw this it’s over then”. She walks away. From this site and experience I know the best way to get over the end of a relationship and successfully go NC is to find another woman. So that night I head out with my friends and kiss another girl in a club.
The next day we reconcile and then she asks if anything happened the night before. Not thinking I did anything wrong I tell her about the girl from the club since she specifically asked me if I got with anyone. She then goes absolutely insane. I have never seen my gf come anywhere near close to this level of rage/grief. Basically in “her eyes” we weren't broken up so this “feels” like I have cheated. She was also distraught that I was “able to move on so quickly”.
Now this may be a double standard but if the situation was reversed I wouldn’t take her back. I just think guys are built differently. I can hook up with a girl without feeling any emotions but if my gf behaved this way I would assume she never really cared to begin with. Most girls who actually love their bfs can’t just jump on another guy. But I think guys can still love their gfs after the end of a relationship and hook up with other people because we can separate sex from emotion.
Going back to the story, I let her leave and eventually she calmed down. She was still very upset but we’re back together and have agreed that we should have a “cooling off” period of at least a week in the event of another “breakup”. Basically we agreed that even if we end the relationship then neither of us should get with other people for that time.
TLDR: Broke up with gf. Immediately got with another girl. Get back with gf next day. She gets mad.
Been with my girlfriend for over a year. Never cheated or even put myself in a situation to allow it to happen and have always expected the same.
My gf and I have an argument and it basically ends with me saying “screw this it’s over then”. She walks away. From this site and experience I know the best way to get over the end of a relationship and successfully go NC is to find another woman. So that night I head out with my friends and kiss another girl in a club.
The next day we reconcile and then she asks if anything happened the night before. Not thinking I did anything wrong I tell her about the girl from the club since she specifically asked me if I got with anyone. She then goes absolutely insane. I have never seen my gf come anywhere near close to this level of rage/grief. Basically in “her eyes” we weren't broken up so this “feels” like I have cheated. She was also distraught that I was “able to move on so quickly”.
Now this may be a double standard but if the situation was reversed I wouldn’t take her back. I just think guys are built differently. I can hook up with a girl without feeling any emotions but if my gf behaved this way I would assume she never really cared to begin with. Most girls who actually love their bfs can’t just jump on another guy. But I think guys can still love their gfs after the end of a relationship and hook up with other people because we can separate sex from emotion.
Going back to the story, I let her leave and eventually she calmed down. She was still very upset but we’re back together and have agreed that we should have a “cooling off” period of at least a week in the event of another “breakup”. Basically we agreed that even if we end the relationship then neither of us should get with other people for that time.
TLDR: Broke up with gf. Immediately got with another girl. Get back with gf next day. She gets mad.