did i come on to strong?

[private johnson]

so theres a girl i've known through my roomates gf for about 6 months. she's in the same circle of friends, and we all party together once every month or so. the last few time thats happened, we've both been really messed up (booze) and shes slept in my bed.
nothing happened those 2 times because either she was passed out, or throwing up (lol i know.)

i had a housewarming about a month ago, and that night (first night she slept in my bed) she was grabbing my ass and being very flirtatious.

i saw her soon after when we all went clubbing. we were dancing together and making out for a bit. she felt sick a little later so i took her home early b4 everyone else. i was high on mdma that night, and didnt really feel like hanging out with a near passed out drunk girl so i waited for a bit for my friends to get back. that was the last time she slept over, i drove her home the next day and got her #.

we had a good first date on saturday. i bought a bunch of stuff from the grocery store (cheese, salad rolls, sushi, bbq chicken, wine, etc) and had lunch on my wrap around patio over looking the ocean. we then went to the beach to meet up with my roomate as he was having a birthday party with a bunch of my friends.

yesterday i had gotten floor tickets to the kanye concert and took her (probably too nice but w/e.) we had a good time, and i was getting kino in. it seemed to be going well. she really likes kanye, and im glad i got a chance to take her to this show as shes a student and kinda broke.

 

[private johnson]

anyway, im going away for 10 days on thursday. i wanted to see her one more time before i left. we made a dumb contest last time i saw her and i lost so we were going to think up some kind of "consequence" as she said.
tonight i decided to get ballsy and texted her saying that that consequence should be her coming over here tomorrow and making out with me. she replied that she was slammed with work school for the next few days (shes a teacher and its
report card time.)
i texted her back, "alright. so ill see you when i get back."

she never answered.

do you think i came on to strong? there's clear signs of interest from her...

my backround: im 25, tall, probably an 8, well off and self employed.
i like this girl, but its not a huge deal or anything if things dont work out. going out to see my friend in a uni town with lots of girls so im covered either way.

 

[PrinceKong]

Do you not see your last text message?

"alright. so ill see you when i get back."

You stated YOU would talk to her again.
But if you dont mind me asking, whats MDMA?

 

[ARrocket]

Do you not see your last text message?

"alright. so ill see you when i get back."

You stated YOU would talk to her again.
But if you dont mind me asking, whats MDMA?

Yeah, if I were her I probably wouldn't have replied either. You kinda ended the convo yourself. Don't worry about it.

As for coming on a little strong...you didn't word it very well, and it was through text, where it is hard to read emotion. But, I wouldn't worry about it, she sounds interested

And yeah, what's MDMA?

 

[SilverSliver]

MDMA is Methylenedioxymethamphetamine
AKA ecstasy

 

[DJDamage]

tonight i decided to get ballsy and texted her saying that that consequence should be her coming over here tomorrow and making out with me. .

That wasn't ballsy that was cowardly. Ballsy would be to set up a date and then going for the kiss. Cowardly is to hide behind a text message for a stright up text message reply to varify if she likes you or not.

Also you overtly communicated to her what you wanted to do to her, instead of using your skills to increase her interest in you and then going "spontaneously" for a kiss close.

Next time do more and say less. There is a good chance you have already blew it with this girl because like it or not it was a rejection (nobody is that busy to have a couple of hours to spare and she choose not to spend them with you).

 

[private johnson]

yah you're probably right. i sent the text instead of calling cause i know she's busy and what not. she actually replied as soon as she woke up this morning saying she fell asleep (she's up @ 6am everyday.) she said we'll hang out when i get back from my vacation.

damage: ive already went on a couple dates with her and made out/kissed a couple times so i didnt think it would be a big deal.

i agree with the do more say less though. going to work on that.