Day 1: I'm out running errands around town in a sweatsuit. You know how it is,,,hit wal mart, the library, and then stop and grab something to eat. In this case I go to Chili's. I have grown tired of eating fast food, so i order something healthy. Of COURSE I spy a cute chick eating alone. She looks over and gives a very brief muted smile and looks away. She isnt beautiful but she is attractive.
I look down at myself. I look like a slob. This always happens. I go out of the house looking ratty and make eye contact with a cutie. Oh well, I have wit, charm, and attitude and I can turn this around. Besides, girls dont necessarily pass on you as long as you look masculine.
On my way to the restroom I walk right past her table and say (spontaneously without planning out an opening) "you know you better finish your vegetables!".
She smiles. Dang I just pulled of a good, funny, normal opener spontaneously. I like those kind of challenges. NOTHING works as well as a heartfelt opener even if its corny.
We wander into a normal brief conversation about what we're eating, and I briefly mention "darn, I always meet someone interesting when I'm out running errands around town!"
This gets a cursory giggle. Women can relate to that one.
The conversation is normal and unforced. Remember guys, you dont have to come across as incredibly wittty on the first conversation. Just normal, intelligent, confident, and all that.
I sit down for a few minutes and talk. This is to break the ice on "who I am" game. So I give her a little bit. I work as an Accountant, I'm from Florida originally, yada yada.
This gives her a tiny bit of social proof that she needs. I'm heading for the all important phone number. I need to get a LITTLE further though.
I make her laugh again, and then turn briefly serious about some topic. This shows more social proof. Im not some yoo hoo. I have strong thoughts and opinions of my own.
I stand up (without being invited). I've gotta go, but GIVE ME YOUR PHONE NUMBER and ill buzz you up sometime. (This shows that your not some clingy bastard who is going to bore her for long)
She writes it on her business card. She has SOME interest at this point, but i intuitively know that its not high. Ive gotta turn her.
ONE WEEK LATER
I finally call her. First thing outta my mouth is "this is john. Are you still eating your vegetables??"
Laughter.
I made myself memorable with that one, and then got some more mileage out of it later to be recognized. More points.
We have a brief conversation that i keep light. Im not really going to ASK her out on a date yet. I want to bring her a little higher first.
I get the email. I send her the office website about our accounting business with some pics of me there at work with another cute secretary.
I DONT CALL HER. Ive already set the hook.
FIve DAYS LATER
She calls me.
I saw your website. Why didnt you call me???
Moral of story. Dont act in a hurry. Be casual. Be funny. Show social proof. Make her laugh. Get her to ask YOU out.
And develop a website of your own if you dont have one. Useful....
I look down at myself. I look like a slob. This always happens. I go out of the house looking ratty and make eye contact with a cutie. Oh well, I have wit, charm, and attitude and I can turn this around. Besides, girls dont necessarily pass on you as long as you look masculine.
On my way to the restroom I walk right past her table and say (spontaneously without planning out an opening) "you know you better finish your vegetables!".
She smiles. Dang I just pulled of a good, funny, normal opener spontaneously. I like those kind of challenges. NOTHING works as well as a heartfelt opener even if its corny.
We wander into a normal brief conversation about what we're eating, and I briefly mention "darn, I always meet someone interesting when I'm out running errands around town!"
This gets a cursory giggle. Women can relate to that one.
The conversation is normal and unforced. Remember guys, you dont have to come across as incredibly wittty on the first conversation. Just normal, intelligent, confident, and all that.
I sit down for a few minutes and talk. This is to break the ice on "who I am" game. So I give her a little bit. I work as an Accountant, I'm from Florida originally, yada yada.
This gives her a tiny bit of social proof that she needs. I'm heading for the all important phone number. I need to get a LITTLE further though.
I make her laugh again, and then turn briefly serious about some topic. This shows more social proof. Im not some yoo hoo. I have strong thoughts and opinions of my own.
I stand up (without being invited). I've gotta go, but GIVE ME YOUR PHONE NUMBER and ill buzz you up sometime. (This shows that your not some clingy bastard who is going to bore her for long)
She writes it on her business card. She has SOME interest at this point, but i intuitively know that its not high. Ive gotta turn her.
ONE WEEK LATER
I finally call her. First thing outta my mouth is "this is john. Are you still eating your vegetables??"
Laughter.
I made myself memorable with that one, and then got some more mileage out of it later to be recognized. More points.
We have a brief conversation that i keep light. Im not really going to ASK her out on a date yet. I want to bring her a little higher first.
I get the email. I send her the office website about our accounting business with some pics of me there at work with another cute secretary.
I DONT CALL HER. Ive already set the hook.
FIve DAYS LATER
She calls me.
I saw your website. Why didnt you call me???
Moral of story. Dont act in a hurry. Be casual. Be funny. Show social proof. Make her laugh. Get her to ask YOU out.
And develop a website of your own if you dont have one. Useful....
