Diary of a Madwoman (BPD ex makes unusual offer)

[Atom Smasher]

I've gone through my share of crazies, and I've only learned one thing: doesn't matter whether you understand them or not. They're crazy.

You can't bring logic or understanding into an irrational battleground. What does the OP have to gain from dissecting the life and times of this woman that he has already (theoretically) kicked out of his life?

That's exactly my point, that he should stay away, (but he already gets that, as he stated).

You're exactly right about the irrational battleground. We come into those battles brsitling with weaponry and yet in reality are completely unarmed.

Finally, you've got your "crazies", and you've got your "BPDs". The BPD brings crazy to an entirely new level, as she will often completely detach from reality.

 

[Atom Smasher]

These BPD chicks are addictive, which is why most guys on here will tell you to stay away.

They are like a catalyst for a chemical reaction. We think that the reaction is going to be fun, excitement, and an incredible life together. The stuff that WORKS is unbelievable! She scratches every place that you itch.

But the stuff that doesn't work is devastating. And there is no way under the sun to get a handle on the situation and control it. It's like trying to grab a handful of air or a handful of light. There is no rationality, no substance there. She is a mirage.

The BPD woman is mentally ill and is lost, but her illness doesn't show itself until you are swirling around in her vortex. She has no way to understand her predicament. It's very sad, really. My understanding is that very, very few, if any, are cured.

Now of course I'm speaking of dyed-in-the-wool BPDs here. I believe that most women display some BPD tendencies, but the official ones are monsters that will consume you while telling you how much they adore you.

 

[snowdog]

A good friend of mine has a girl that has what I suspect BPD, because she drives him nuts. I can just tell she's very deliberate about the things she does and says and how it just messes with his head.

He wants to break up with her, but every time he's about to do it, she does something amazing (like getting him a friggin' car) that drags him back. From an outsiders perspective, it's clear that she's ****ing with his head. I tried to tell him this many times, but he just can't bring himself to take that step. She used to be hot, too, but now years later she got fat and dropped out of college. There's nothing attractive about her anymore.

Worst part is they live together still. He tells me he would feel guilty about breaking up with her and ****. I wish I could just do it for him but I can't control someone else's life.

Watch out with this girl, man. It's just pure evil ****. Good guys don't need to suffer from BS like this. Try to move on, you'll thank yourself later.

 

[snowdog]

The worst part is, she and I have always had a connection. I actually predicted that she would write to me just hours before she did (when I hadn't heard from her in nearly 4 weeks).

I assume you have lost a loved one at some point in your life by now. It hurt like hell when it happened, but you managed to deal with it eventually, right? Be strong, man.

 

[bigneil]

They are like a catalyst for a chemical reaction. We

That's true - and happens instantly. The first time I saw her, her body was oozing sexuality.

It's like trying to grab a handful of air or a handful of light. There is no rationality, no substance there. She is a mirage.

Brilliant.

 

[bigneil]

It's not exactly like the debt ceiling debate

The debt ceiling is a much simpler problem than a BPD woman offering her high school diary.

 

[loveshogun]

The debt ceiling is a much simpler problem than a BPD woman offering her high school diary.

It's not. Just say no to the woman. Everyone wins.

 

[Atom Smasher]

All that being said and the dangers recognized, it would indeed be fascinating to read her ramblings.

But don't let that make you reconsider, bigneil! I can see that you already know that this would be playing with fire, so I'm preaching to the choir here. BUt I have a feeling that reading the diaries of a BPD teenager would make even the jaw of a jaded old warhorse drop to the floor.