shaken_not_stirred
Don Juan
ok, i'm frustrated. i have a friend who is about 31 and single who i go out with sometimes to meet chics. i'm 26, similar level appearance-wise, if anything better physique...i work hard in the gym. we both dress similarly (yes, i know these are less important factors).
the thing is, when we go out, he gets the majority of attention. its pissin me off so much. last week, this attractive girl we've been hangin out with says she needs to ask me a serious question. then proceeds to ask me if he's "available". i'm tired of this shvt. i can't figure out what i'm doing wrong.
my friend is more extraverted than me. he tends to have diarhea of the mouth. whereas i have more of an introverted side to me... actually think about what i'm saying too often. he talks so much he says stupid crap sometimes and goes so far as to tell girls what brand of jeans he's wearing... who does this? when he tries to be funny sometimes its just so cheesy its almost like he's trying too hard. anyways, some of his behavior such as that seems almost AFC to me, but what does it matter, i'm feeling like the AFC by the end of the night.
i'm guessing that all his rambling actually makes girls feel more comfortable. i've been trying to watch his body language to see if there is something he is doing there. i just don't get it. i honestly "feel" like i have more game than him, but the results do not back that up. then i start to see that, get discouraged, and just let him do his thing.
i'm working on being more extroverted, but sometimes it seems like there is only so much you can do within your personality. i can't really get to the point where i'm volunteering pointless shvt to girls like what brand of jeans i have on.
anyways, i'm frustrated sarging with him because i'm constantly ending up as the third wheel. thats not alpha male by any means. perhaps i need to go out sarging with friends who i feel have less game than me. i have a friend who would be perfect for this except i think he tends to scare off girls he is so bad socially with them. at least it would build my confidence up though.
i know that i'm probably the best one to analyze the situation i'm in, but i'm frustrated. any guesses as to what i could be doing wrong?
the thing is, when we go out, he gets the majority of attention. its pissin me off so much. last week, this attractive girl we've been hangin out with says she needs to ask me a serious question. then proceeds to ask me if he's "available". i'm tired of this shvt. i can't figure out what i'm doing wrong.
my friend is more extraverted than me. he tends to have diarhea of the mouth. whereas i have more of an introverted side to me... actually think about what i'm saying too often. he talks so much he says stupid crap sometimes and goes so far as to tell girls what brand of jeans he's wearing... who does this? when he tries to be funny sometimes its just so cheesy its almost like he's trying too hard. anyways, some of his behavior such as that seems almost AFC to me, but what does it matter, i'm feeling like the AFC by the end of the night.
i'm guessing that all his rambling actually makes girls feel more comfortable. i've been trying to watch his body language to see if there is something he is doing there. i just don't get it. i honestly "feel" like i have more game than him, but the results do not back that up. then i start to see that, get discouraged, and just let him do his thing.
i'm working on being more extroverted, but sometimes it seems like there is only so much you can do within your personality. i can't really get to the point where i'm volunteering pointless shvt to girls like what brand of jeans i have on.
anyways, i'm frustrated sarging with him because i'm constantly ending up as the third wheel. thats not alpha male by any means. perhaps i need to go out sarging with friends who i feel have less game than me. i have a friend who would be perfect for this except i think he tends to scare off girls he is so bad socially with them. at least it would build my confidence up though.
i know that i'm probably the best one to analyze the situation i'm in, but i'm frustrated. any guesses as to what i could be doing wrong?