"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dhv

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Demonstration of higher value, this is the weakest part of my game. I'm solid at the approach, good at conversation, where I lose them is the DHV. Too often I try to dhv by negging them and it ends up blowing up in my face.

Anyone have some advice on how to dhv effectively, and how to walk that fine line between dhv and negging?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ready123

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yea get a new strategy, you should never be trying to DHV in real-time. DHV should just happen naturally as the result of having a positive frame

and I think the last time I proactively tried to neg a girl was in 2002. you don't need that sht at all
 

daygameguy

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dude you have lots to learn. So dont say my open is solid and what not. If your open is good, and you are good at conversation why the fvck would they leave??

post a usual FR so I can point out your mistake. Then I will tell you how to neg and DHV.
 

Sandow

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Like Ready said, If you have a confident, positive frame, DHV will come out naturally. You shouldn't rely on negs as DHV. Negs are more part of a flirty, C&F routine. Yea it's fun doing it but it won't get you laid necessarily.

What are your goals? Your ambitions? How about a funny story? Telling a good story is another way you can DHV, just make sure it makes you look good, like you're the prize.

But remember, you have to be a natural DJ. Don't just spew out a bunch of lies, I hope that you are working on yourself first then it will come out naturally.
 

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Dhv is a lot of things. U talking to a girl in the club and other girls can see u is a dhv (pre selection). U acting like u lead the groupur out with (tribal leader) U can tell stories with dhv spikes like "ijust got back from the cayman islands (dhv) for my business and some traveling(dhv) so on my way home from the airport I was at a redlight and this girl who I kind of talk to on and off (dhv) was trying to give me head, u know I have a high sex drive but still(dhv) we were at a stop light and these two girls were trying to get my attention (dhv) I was a little disracted obviously but the light turned green and the girls were still trying to talk to me and when they started driving they smashed into the car ahead of them.
Hb says what??
Yea I had to pull over basically wiht my pants down and make sure they were alright(dhv ,care taker) until the ambulance came. Blah blah
Hb says so what business do u do?
Oh real estate(dhv)
That story is outlandished but u get the picture
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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