"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Devastated after breakup

archon8692

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Fernando2826 said:
Thanks for responses all, much appreciated.

An additional note is that I removed her from FB post-dumping, only to receive a message after a few months saying how much I'd hurt her by doing so. She even said that she thought the breakup had been amicable.

It seems there's a split between her being young, therefore showing immaturity and selfishness, and being generally somewhat fvcked.

Here's what I think happened: she always seemed unsure as to whether she wanted a relationship when going to uni, but was in two minds. Got to uni, got consumed by it and inexplicably started flirting with another guy, perhaps as a rebound of sorts, then ended up in his bed after deciding our relaitonship was over.

Gets to me thinking she is going to be better with the next guy - at uni, part of her friendship group, can't fvck him over etc. - Beta-shlt maybe, but just bothering me.

Cheers again, chaps.
She's BPD or bipolar bro. Crazy. You are trying to rationally look at her actions...but she doesn't think like us. She will NEVER have a stable relationship.

I dated a girl like her that was bipolar on a bunch of meds. You'll go crazy as she doesn't have normal emotions or thoughts. Move on. Don't be a white knight.

Block her and never look back. You're young...date other girls and don'tsquander opportunities.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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