"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Determinating high il vs. low IL

European-DJ

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Hi fellow DJ's, some time since last question.

I have been seeing this girl 'regularly' for the last month or so, and simply cannot determinate her level of interest.

When she is around my 'hood', she will be calling me and arranging meetups, when I meet her at the clubs she will grab me
And kiss me. She Answer my texting and calls...

But the red flags are as follows:
- we went to the Lake, and she had an assumption that her ex would be there, so i was that if we met him, we should agere to tell him that we was nothing more than Friends.
Another annoying this is, that she is to manipulative by her friends, so I tend to get ****blocked by the end of a clubbing session!

No question that I am starting to cath feelings... The question is, should I protect my heart, or should I go for her despite the red flags?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Subology

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It seems to me, she see's whatever you two have as pretty casual. If you don't see it the same way, you may get hurt.
 

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Withdraw immediately...its over you caught feelings. Im petty sure she dosent feel the same way you do. Go mess with other girls before you catch oneitis and get hurt or ****ed over.
 

Desdinova

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European-DJ said:
I have been seeing this girl 'regularly' for the last month or so, and simply cannot determinate her level of interest.
The easiest way to find out is to ask her out on a date. If she agrees, her IL is high enough to go out with you.

This isn't fvcking rocket science, people.
 

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Espi said:
In my opinion, don't analyze a girl's interest level. It doesn't matter.

All that matters is what YOU think. If you like her, just go for it. Don't try to figure out if she likes you; doing so will only make you more tentative about pursuing her.

Just go for it and let the chips fall where they may. You'll know soon enough.

Espi is right. Women hide their true feelings.

Desdinova also hit another nail on the head..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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European-DJ said:
- we went to the Lake, and she had an assumption that her ex would be there, so i was that if we met him, we should agere to tell him that we was nothing more than Friends.
That's a pretty damn big red flag.
 

youngmack

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Zerro said:
That's a pretty damn big red flag.

Exactly what i was saying.....I dont understand why would you want to pursue someone like this...Its a no brainer.Maybe if you didnt catch feelings for her and you just wanted to beat the poons up then yeah..but i dont think you should emotionally invest yourself in someone who is an attention wh0re like this and from the looks of it.. is just bored and stringing you along/gaming you.
 

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:yawn: Oh my! Judge nismo cringed reading this.:mad:

The best way to gauge a woman's IL is to just go for it. If she's interested, she'll make it known.

If you catch feelings, you're gonna get hurt. Does she care? F**k no!

If you analyze too much, you'll reject YOURSELF.

Never catch feelings for a woman. :nono: That's a great way to get strung along, teased, and friendzoned.

AFAIC, there's no good in this that is for you.

You are guilty of catching feelings. That comes with a trip to C0ckteasefield, Vermont. You will also be flown to Dry Vaginas, Arizona.

Go spin more plates and stop worrying about this girl. Court's orders.

Case closed. Back to rest. :yawn:
 

European-DJ

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Thanks for the replies guys.

Sometimes one is blinded by "love" (Feelings)... And then you start overanalysing, and start seeing things no one else sees...

Always great with some external advice!
 
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