"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Destroying Approach Anxiety

DumbBell80

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Show me a man who has never faced approach anxiety, and I'll show you a man who prefers adoption to procreation.
Everyone faces it , but only a few emerge victorious.
If you think spending $50 on a new ‘guaranteed system’ is the way, I want you to log out right now.
Now that we’ve separated the boys from the men, here’s how to do it.



Remember these two words. Make them part of your identity.

Chant it like a mantra.

HAVE FUN.



Girls are fun. That is the only reason I game.
Girls are fun to talk to.
They are fun to dangle from your arm.
They are fun to laugh at when they’re *****y.
They are fun to bang till the neighbors call you to complain
about the moaning sounds emanating from your room.
They are fun to dump when they have shown you that they
are not worthy of your attention.

All the short term goals of the brain are pleasurable – eating, drinking, sleeping, sex,flirting.

Why the hell would you be afraid of approaching something which is so much fun?
This is the biggest mistake I have seen aspiring PUAs do.
You don’t have to do 10, 30 or 50 approaches.
Its not a household chore.
Get the goddamn numbers out of your head.
If you’re not having fun, she’s not having fun.
She didn’t come to the party to listen to your super secret attraction routine.
She’s there to have fun.
Go shoot the **** with her.
Tease her about the 1 mm mole on her cheek.
Tell her she’s so naughty you want to handcuff her.
YOUR ROUTINE WILL NEVER WORK IF YOU’RE NOT ENJOYING DOING IT.




DO NOT REHEARSE THE APPROACH

Do you talk like a girl? If yes, then you have bigger problems than approach anxiety.

If no, then you have no idea what the girl is going to say.
So I want you to stop playing the incredibly feminine game of ‘what if’ .
There is only one way for a man to find out what she’s going to say.
And that is to actually GO AND FIND OUT.
Girls are unpredictable.
You want to spend your time showing her that you’re the best thing on the planet after dark chocolate, why spend that time thinking about what her response is going to be?

You know what I say when newbies ask me ‘What is her response going to be?’
I say – ‘Its nothing I cant handle.’

Damn straight.
THERE IS NOTHING A GIRL CAN SAY THAT YOU CAN’T HANDLE.



I think that’s enough to lubricate your brain for today.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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