"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Destroying Approach Anxiety? (Last Part)

MisterNigma

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As we were leaving the mall we passed a stand with an HB9 working there. We walked right past it, and then WestCoast1492 got me to go back and engage her. For a few days now he’s been talking A LOT about doing his first direct approach. I haven’t done any direct approaches either, mostly because I don’t think they are that good to use unless you can automatically generate attraction based solely on your appearance, smile, whatever . . . He tempted me with a reward, him taking care of a car for nyc for the coming Friday (Friday the 24th should be an amazing night).

We walked back to the area of the stand, but the girl was busy with some asian guy who was interested in buying something. So we went to an adjacent IPOD store to watch. It was actually 2 stands, right next to each other. One had the HB9, the other one had an HB7, and there was a guy, who clearly worked there as well floating around the two.

After the asian customer walked off, and the HB9 was sitting at a tall chair by the cash register I went in. As I walked up to the stand, the guy who was floating around kind of tried to get in front of my path, so I sped up a little and walked by him to the HB9…

Me: Hi.
HB9: Hi How are you? (all smiles, but then she is doing sales…)
Me: Good, you?
HB9: Good.
Me: I couldn’t think of anything good to say, but I just wanted to meet you.
HB9: (She had a very bid smile plastered on her face now, WestCoast1492 even saw this from some distance) What’s your name?
Me: Mike. (Just locked eyes and extended my arm for a handshake)
HB9: (Shook my hand) **she said her name, but I forget, I heard a lot of names that day, I think she said** Mika. We have a lot of salts and products from the dead sea here (waves her hand at the stand).
Me: From where? ( I didn’t hear her clearly)
HB9: The dead sea.
Me: Oh that’s cool, I was there in January, went swimming with a small cut on my arm. It stings. Where are you from? (I detected and accent, and I was 90 percent sure she was Israeli)
HB9: Israel.
Me: That’s so strange, you’re the third Israeli I met today. (yeah, probably not the best line to have used at that point, but it was true)
HB9: Blah Blah Blah (starts talking about the stuff on the stand)
Me: ( Cut her of in between words) I don’t really care about this stuff (wave my hand towards the stand) I was more interested in you.
HB9: Oh thanks, I have a boyfriend.
Me: I’m not interested in your boyfriend either.
HB9: (Continues to smile as the guy who was floating around the two stands comes up behind her. He was standing behind the stand on the opposite side from me, so I assume he heard pretty much everything)
Me: Well listen it was a pleasure to meet you.
( Walked off.)

I definitely came on a bit too strong on this approach. It was my first direct approach though, and I’m not sure it’s possible to come off not telegraphing so much interest on a direct approach. I would have definitely stayed in the set if the guy didn’t show up. This was by far the most interesting approach of the night for me.

Throughout the day, I did a few other approaches as well, but they were pretty uneventful and went pretty much the same way as the ones I’m posting.

I think the day went well for me. Very well in fact. WestCoast1492 is suggesting it, and I agree, I need to step up my game to another level. I’m not sure how to though, and would appreciate any suggestions.

I definitely come off as very confident, unfortunately because of my size, I think this also makes me rather intimidating. Smiling helps to ease things along, and also the fact that I never approach from the back, and very rarely head on, I always try to approach at an angle.

My specific question is this, how do I generate more attraction? This might seem easy to some people, or to be something that they do without realizing, for me though, it is somewhat of an issue. Confident I can do, attractive though?

Also any suggestions on innocent ways to ask for a girls number? Ones that can be turned on them if they refuse?

This is my first post, on this forum or anywhere else for that matter. (at least about the game). I hope you enjoy reading it, and I will welcome any suggestions and help.



P.S.- This post is much longer then I wanted it to be, but it barely covers the day. I think On next posts I’ll try to stick a lot more to just how the approaches go.

10000 character limit, I'm gonna need to write shorter. :cool:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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