"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Destroying anti slut defense

Bombshell

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Ok guys there is a chick I been with for quite a while now, we are unoficially going out (it looks like we are but im keeping us as just friends so i have more power in the relationship) anyway she is into me a lot but she is really shy in school when she is around me. In fact she is fairly shy around me in most cases, we kissed only about three times and they were just like quick and sneaky on a get to gether with some other friends. We do a lot of kino and flirting with each other at school, and I kept wondering why she wouldnt take it any further, then I realized she was scared to do things in public. This never would have occured to me before because I wouldnt care if I had a big make out session in the middle of gym class. Its only a PDA. So I tried talking her. I asked her why she was so shy around me in public, and she said "I dont know"..... anyway later next hour she was laying on the floor in health class and I came on top of her and she was like .....wow this really looks good... and I told her that she shouldnt worry about what other people think and that I wasnt ashamed to be with her (kissed her on the cheeck) all she said was I know with a smile, and then we talked about PDA's and stuff but i dont remember that part.

Anyway we do enough flirting with each other its dead obvious that we are into each other. I think her anti slut defense is probably extra strong because she definately has never been intimate before. (I dont even think she got many hugs from her last bf who she dumped when i made her attracted to me) and not even sure she had a boyfriend before. Also she is the overachiever type who has to be good at everything and gets a 4.0 gpa so I think that helps to. So what do you guys think i should do or say to get her to be more open and intimate with me in public?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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RaMar

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i don't think its an anti slut defence I think its just she doesn't want to be making out in public. For one other people in the room don't like it and she probably knows that. She is also embarrased to do it.

Try getting more intament in private and then she will come around in public :).
 

California Love

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Shes probably worried about the other girls hating and looking down on her.


If not, maybe shes just really conservative? Take things slow to open her up. Tease her like hell and make her want you so bad that she cant control it. Play around with different approaches and theres bound to be one that will hit the spot.
 

Boner da Stoner

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Making out in public is a bad thing, hardcore sexy sweaty heart throbbing sex is not a bad thing though. You just have to know where.

I know this is old, but :) I hope ya like it.

You can take control, and she'll know if its right or wrong, for the moment. When there are other people making out in public, bring her in the region.

Or you can respect her and let the issue go, she doesn't have to **** you in public, that's what a secret location is for. Play the mystery in her mind. from a social point of view, I love the girls that know you are flirting with them, but nobody else knows. You can 5 set some girls like this, they all know but they secretly have the desire to tear their clothes off for you, since they know their friends have no clue. All the while you feel like busting a nut in your pants, because you know if you reached out right there she would be in such of a trance that she would let you do anything.

Can the rest of you hear yourself as you type as well? I sound like a total ****, this, writing messages to eachother on a forum, is going in my playbook as a bad way to talk to people about something serious.
 
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