Destroy Oneitus NOW – A How to Guide
It has come to my attention that oneitus is the number one problem with almost every guy that comes here. It is a problem for AFCs and even some seasoned DJs alike. Here I will explain it in detail and tell you how to prevent in a way that actually works. I’m not just going to tell you it’s bad and to think that you’re the prize. I will teach you how to get rid of it permanently. How do I know how? Because I have defeated it myself. Oneitus is a thing of the past.
What is oneitus?
Oneitus is a disease that slowly creeps up on you at takes over your mind. Symptoms include desperation, neediness, frequent masturbation and in extreme cases depression. It destroys your game and results in you not getting girls. The cause? The cause is of course just a girl.
We have all had it at some time or another. For many of us it is what brought us here. I remember having this disease severely about 4 times, sometimes lasting years. Whenever I shook it came back with the help of a different girl. Unfortunately oneitus isn’t recognised as a disease by most people. In fact in a lot of cases it isn’t diagnosed because it is considered ‘normal’.
What isn’t it?
Is isn’t love. It isn’t real. It isn’t useful or good for anything.
Oneitus turns you into a needy, desperate emo little boy. This is perhaps the least attractive thing you can do. You don’t have a chance of getting the girl unless she is already attracted to you. So if you need a reason to get over it how about starting with the fact that it completely kills your chances with the girl you feel so strongly about? If you come across as desperate the girl gets the impression you can’t get another girl to save your life. Unattractive. You become very dependent on the outcome. You want to take something from her. You want to take value from her instead of give it. Very unattractive. You probably get nervous and inside your head around her, you aren’t yourself. See a pattern yet?
So how do we get it in the first place?
Oneitus can start creeping in as soon as you meet someone. It can begin with a simple thought like ‘hey she is cute’ or even more severely with ‘wow’. It is key to note that despite whatever you think you have onitus for, it is caused by her looks. Maybe you think she looks averaged but there is just something more to her. This is wrong. It may be the way she walks, her radiance when she is talking or even something that is purely in her head. It is just attraction, lust for her body that you can turn into something more if you don’t understand it. Even if you are good friends I can assure you that you aren’t attracted to her personality, at least not in that way.
Here is something that I will quote from Pook that I have quoted before and will probably quote again. Reading this was the single most defining moment that helped me overcome oneitus.
It’s more than that too. Like in the above quote you should have a bunch of girls on your ‘wall’. Even if you don’t have a lot of girls as friends just think of a bunch of girls that you see as ‘opportunities’. You don’t even have to know them. Here’s a quick exercise that helped me. Think of every girl that you know that you are attracted to. Don’t think about anything else but their looks. Lower your standards a bit, you aren’t looking for girlfriend material just girls you find attractive. You don’t even have to know them, just as long as you see them every now and then. Think hard. What about that girl? Sure she isn’t the best looking girl you know but you might give her a chance! I did this and very quickly got past 40. And I live in a small town! Doing this makes you wake up and realize there are actually attractive girls out there. Now pick some favourites. Put them up on your wall.
Ok now even if you are surrounded by beautiful women you could still potentially get oneitus. If you start thinking that ‘she’s special’ and ‘she’s different’ warning lights should be going off. Realize that you are drifting into the world of imagination. Think how well you know her. Lots of guys get oneitus for girls they don’t know, sometimes even girls they haven’t talked to! Hey I’ve been there. Think how stupid that is. You don’t even know her. Yet you tell yourself she is special... How the hell do you know!? What is actually happening is you are projecting traits onto her. What you don’t know you are filling in the gaps with what you want, not who she actually is. This is dangerous territory. You aren’t falling with her, you are just projecting that image of your dream girl you have deep in yourself onto her. You are falling for an image, a figment of your imagination.
Of course all this can seem very convincing. That image can give you real feelings. If you haven’t had much experience with girls before you are going to misinterpret those feelings for other things.
It has come to my attention that oneitus is the number one problem with almost every guy that comes here. It is a problem for AFCs and even some seasoned DJs alike. Here I will explain it in detail and tell you how to prevent in a way that actually works. I’m not just going to tell you it’s bad and to think that you’re the prize. I will teach you how to get rid of it permanently. How do I know how? Because I have defeated it myself. Oneitus is a thing of the past.
What is oneitus?
Oneitus is a disease that slowly creeps up on you at takes over your mind. Symptoms include desperation, neediness, frequent masturbation and in extreme cases depression. It destroys your game and results in you not getting girls. The cause? The cause is of course just a girl.
We have all had it at some time or another. For many of us it is what brought us here. I remember having this disease severely about 4 times, sometimes lasting years. Whenever I shook it came back with the help of a different girl. Unfortunately oneitus isn’t recognised as a disease by most people. In fact in a lot of cases it isn’t diagnosed because it is considered ‘normal’.
What isn’t it?
Is isn’t love. It isn’t real. It isn’t useful or good for anything.
Oneitus turns you into a needy, desperate emo little boy. This is perhaps the least attractive thing you can do. You don’t have a chance of getting the girl unless she is already attracted to you. So if you need a reason to get over it how about starting with the fact that it completely kills your chances with the girl you feel so strongly about? If you come across as desperate the girl gets the impression you can’t get another girl to save your life. Unattractive. You become very dependent on the outcome. You want to take something from her. You want to take value from her instead of give it. Very unattractive. You probably get nervous and inside your head around her, you aren’t yourself. See a pattern yet?
So how do we get it in the first place?
Oneitus can start creeping in as soon as you meet someone. It can begin with a simple thought like ‘hey she is cute’ or even more severely with ‘wow’. It is key to note that despite whatever you think you have onitus for, it is caused by her looks. Maybe you think she looks averaged but there is just something more to her. This is wrong. It may be the way she walks, her radiance when she is talking or even something that is purely in her head. It is just attraction, lust for her body that you can turn into something more if you don’t understand it. Even if you are good friends I can assure you that you aren’t attracted to her personality, at least not in that way.
Here is something that I will quote from Pook that I have quoted before and will probably quote again. Reading this was the single most defining moment that helped me overcome oneitus.
Oneitus can come from a lack of social contacts. Just being in contact with a lot of girls will help prevent it. You see if you are only friends with one girl you will start to fall for her. It won’t be intentional but it will happen. As a man it is natural to be drawn towards the opposite sex, the survival of our race depends on it. Ironically oneitus destroys you chances with whatever girl you have it for. The solution to this part of the problem is rather simple. Hang out with a lot of girls, be around them. It doesn’t matter if you are just friends with them. It will let you know there is more than one girl out there.
It’s more than that too. Like in the above quote you should have a bunch of girls on your ‘wall’. Even if you don’t have a lot of girls as friends just think of a bunch of girls that you see as ‘opportunities’. You don’t even have to know them. Here’s a quick exercise that helped me. Think of every girl that you know that you are attracted to. Don’t think about anything else but their looks. Lower your standards a bit, you aren’t looking for girlfriend material just girls you find attractive. You don’t even have to know them, just as long as you see them every now and then. Think hard. What about that girl? Sure she isn’t the best looking girl you know but you might give her a chance! I did this and very quickly got past 40. And I live in a small town! Doing this makes you wake up and realize there are actually attractive girls out there. Now pick some favourites. Put them up on your wall.
Ok now even if you are surrounded by beautiful women you could still potentially get oneitus. If you start thinking that ‘she’s special’ and ‘she’s different’ warning lights should be going off. Realize that you are drifting into the world of imagination. Think how well you know her. Lots of guys get oneitus for girls they don’t know, sometimes even girls they haven’t talked to! Hey I’ve been there. Think how stupid that is. You don’t even know her. Yet you tell yourself she is special... How the hell do you know!? What is actually happening is you are projecting traits onto her. What you don’t know you are filling in the gaps with what you want, not who she actually is. This is dangerous territory. You aren’t falling with her, you are just projecting that image of your dream girl you have deep in yourself onto her. You are falling for an image, a figment of your imagination.
Of course all this can seem very convincing. That image can give you real feelings. If you haven’t had much experience with girls before you are going to misinterpret those feelings for other things.
