Desperatley Trying to Break Approach Anxiety (daytime)

[Stark]

I go out and sarge malls during the day I really can't explain what my brain does to me. this goes for bars too. in truth 95% of interactions i have start with the woman initiating (i know lame)

my friend took me out and got me to open sets with the "my friend needs a gift what should i get her opener" in stores which i used about 9 times these past 2 weeks. none even really went badly. he told me i could have number closed 2 out of the 2 he saw me do and these girls gave iois.

(I have a journal in the journal section btw if people want to help me out and evaluate what i'm doing)

http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com...ng-as-afc-college-daygame-night-vt136381.html

even with the limited success however whenever i drive myself to the mall. my brain hijacks me and is an excuse machine. my sarge buddy isn't in town anymore

Theres too many people around this store

That girl saw me look at her

The employees will start labeling me as the guy that comes and hits on chicks

girls only give out numbers at the mall to be nice

that girl is too snobby looking or in a hurry

i'm too tired

I even am not concerned about what to say because i've gone over it with myself hundreds of times. I've read so many books and observed so much game online and in real life. I have the smarts and the strategy. I don't have the balls.

Is there any weird rituals that you guys do to break your aa? I am open to any and all ideas at this point. or link anything that helped you defeat aa? success stories would be awsome too.

 

[michaelvictory]

You're trying too hard-relax.

Hey,I think one of the main problems is that you're trying too hard. You're puting too much pressure on your self to succeed. For the next couple of weeks don't try to pick up women. Just practice saying "Hi." to as many women as you can. Don't worry about wheter or not they even return your greeting. Each time you speak to a woman you are building a solid fondation as the kind of man who easily takes the initiative.
Also,when you said you don't have the balls to approach them garuantees that you will continue to have approach anxiety. That's really negative self talk. You are actually programing your-self for failure. Try this instead.

• I am confident and at ease with myself around women
• I am a good and worthy man
• I meet women easily
• It is now so very easy for me to approach the women I desire

You can meet women anywhere. You don't want to become a mall junkie. You can meet women at the supermarket,the post office,dmv.walking down the street,etc.

 

[Stark]

thanks for taking the time to respond. Oh ya i definantly don't want to be the "mall guy" but i go to malls in an effort to practice my skills because its the most reliable location to find hbs during the day.

and provided i get over my basic aa the mall i live nearby has tons of hbs that would be worth closing

I don't know how to NOT put huge pressure on myself though is the thing. and i'm going to have to make an effort to go out during the day and make basic drills such as saying hello to people that walk past.