"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Desperate

Bronxtal112

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iight fellas here's what I saw today at the college I go to. A beautiful girl probably a 9 sitting with a bunch of guys. Her every word, her every motion was followed by every dude drooling over her. She literally had them (4 or 5 dudes) in the palm of her hand. If she said jump, they would have said how high? THIS IS NOT THE WAY TO GET WOMEN. It is really sad that men are still always getting themselves into that situation because they absolutely had no shot with this broad, and it sure showed. Please don't let it happen to you. I know this is kind of silly to point this out, but when you really see it in person with your own eyes you can really see how desperate men really look.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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becker

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Good point, it's amazing, but at the same time, good for us guys who don't do that. I don't think there will be a day when all the guys will not do that sort of thing. People will always see things differently, and some are so stubborn that they'll never get past their perspective, which may be AFC. Oh well, I'm not going to worry about it!
 

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In that situation, why not try to pretend your her boyfriend like in that gum commercial where you walk up to her and be like "i've been looking all over you", if she catches on it just might work. Tried it once but with someone I already knew
 

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There's a girl like that at my high school. Last year I saw her eating in the courtyard sitting at one end of a "discussion circle" formation of her and six or seven guys eating out of her palm. I took this as an opportunity to set myself appart. I approached, spoke slowly and paused a lot, and got her email/number right in front of these wusses.
 

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Originally posted by Just Another Bum
In that situation, why not try to pretend your her boyfriend like in that gum commercial where you walk up to her and be like "i've been looking all over you", if she catches on it just might work. Tried it once but with someone I already knew
no it won't. that advert is stupid

a general rule is you do not give your attention away to her easily. you are more concerned with yourself than with anyone else. as you've already pointed out, these guys are handing out their attention to this girl for free. what has she done to deserve it? look good. that's it.

good observation man. you'll notice them all leaning in, eye brows raised when she says something, asking her to repeat stuff if they don't hear her right, laugh at all her jokes, agree with everything she says.

one of my mates pissed me off the other day. we were with girls from the same halls as us (who were hot) at the pub. i already told one, 'we're getting a lift, and it looks like there's not enough room in the car'. then my mate goes over 2 minutes later "i'll tell you what, our driver can run you to the halls, then he can come and pick us back up after." some people say that would be general courtesy. it wasn't - it was fvcking desperation and it's something i'm just not going to give into
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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