Depression

[ubercat]

In yourself I think the key is to be working on something most days. Agree totally with ztime that one day a week off is essential. E.g. work is crazy for me right now. But losing weight is a long-term goal. So this morning went for 20 minute walk while listening to my language CD. G/f wanted me to come over. Nope I have to get in early and will do my shadow boxing tonight in front of TV. So it was a typical day of keeping frame and pushing ahead where I could. And that's what it's like small steps on the busy days big steps when you have time. Don't set big unrealistic goals. And don't beat yourself up when you can't make the big steps just take another small step. Anyway got to go just finished my shadow boxing and now it's phone sex with the girlfriend, hey a girl has needs too.

 

[Nicolito]

When you start giving a **** in what she is saying to you, you will start feeling better. At least, that was my case.

She is not better and stronger than you are.

Sounds interesting.

Did it just happen or you decided to ?

 

[Nicolito]

I'll leave this for you because you seem to genuinely want help.

I like to think of my Sunday's as a day off. I live in a very sunny climate. On my day off I like to wear shorts, a t shirt, and flip flops. I'm comfortable that way.

When I go out on a Sunday, people perceive me as normal.

When I go to work I wear a suit.......A nice fvcking suit! I stand different, my confidence level is higher, I have more confidence.

Now picture yourself naked. Picture your skin as the way you dress. Do you feel good in your own skin? Or did you let your skin (fat) go.?

If you did, start to work out.

My Sunday's used to be filled with parties. I worked for companies at slave labor wages, until I spent my free time studying and building my own companies.

Do you feel good in your job, or destined to do something greater?

If it's the greater, where can you start?

Spiritually I was lost, until I found on Wednesday nights I could go to Buddhist meditation classes (no religion implied), now my mind is clear.

How does your soul feel??

I will die as will you. I feel that I want my legacy to continue. Not having kids, but touching and teaching others to find the right path.

How's your legacy going??

Notice one thing. I've never asked about a chick you're dating. They're irrelevant. Choose if others are right for you when YOU choose to be right for YOU.

Be blessed on you journey little brother. No poster here can help you before you choose to help you.

Thank you,man.I really understand your point,i have read this post several times.

 

[Nicolito]

If you really have depression and have been (whatever the medical community considers) "diagnosed", pills are a short term fix to change the chemical imbalance in your brain and keep you coming back for more. They won't help you long term.



Therapy won't help you either. You feel good about yourself for 10 minutes and then you are back to normal. It's a short term fix. Someone "listening" to your problems isn't going to prevent society from absolutely destroying you if they want.



What does you loving your girlfriend have to do with you being happy?



Bro you seem to be very confused. You say are absolutely depressed about life, its challenges, its obstacles, its setbacks, its unfairness and therapy and pills are not working very well.

And then you describe how your girlfriends looks? What if she was a movie star with a nice body and a pretty face? You would snap out of the depression? Something is off.

Nope,the description is mine.

Although your views on therapy are a little oversimplistic,i somewhat agree in the sense that someone who doesn't give a ****,doesn't give a ****,even if he is a trained proffessional.They can't change your life.

I have to make a really BIG sign above my bed "you don't need a woman to be happy"