Depression?

[Remulak]

I don't know but something is definitely not right with me. First off I'm extremely paranoid I always think people are talking behind my back. I took an online personality test an it came up very high for paranoia. I have some pretty bad mood swings, not violent or anything just going from extremely sad and hopeless to pretty content in a matter of seconds. Does anyone have anything like this because I'm pretty confused by it.

 

[musclyjerk]

Lay off the weed.

Do you have a regular income?
Do you have your own place?

Anxiety about the future is common at our age I think. You're not that much younger than me and if you don't know exactly where you're going in life or what you want.. or have a regular income etc it can feel pretty hopeless and the slightest thing can make you angry.

Ride it through if that's the case, call yourself up on paranoid thoughts when they enter your head since you're aware they're a problem.. or seek professional help.

The Muscly Jerk

 

[Remulak]

A little background:

I smoke weed very rarely (once every few months) because I can't take the level of paranoia unless I'm by myself, I'm extremely paranoid normally not under the influence of drugs. I don't have a lot of friends because I have an avoidant personality I get extremely nervous in social situations, in turn because I'm shy and don't talk much people assume I'm an assh0le. I do have my own apartment and I'm in the process of looking for a new job. I'm a college student and I'm nervous about school and getting into a graduate school. I'm currently taking 6 classes and having a lot of financial issues. My father ignores me and doesn't answer my phone calls and my mother is always working.

 

[DarkLight]

To a degree... thats most everyone's story.

Everybody has some degree of social anxiety. Its a matter of accepting yourself, integrating all your unconcious issues. Just a matter of growing up, and becoming more concious. But such is the path of all...

So embrace it.
See it as a good sign, that your aware of such phenomena, and are here trying to figure out how to process it... getting to a higher place of comfort, peace, confidence and happyness.

What things do you do... that bring you happyness? (or any form of positive emotions/qualities)

Sounds like you should make a few friends, and push passed some these social issues. As well figure out... just why are you so paranoid? What does it stem from?

I'd seriously reccomend, engaging some social activities. Some groups, some people. Maybe get a job that will prompt such interactions. It would make you face (thus heal) many of these uneasy feelings. As well as put some coin in your pocket, relieving some financial stress as well. With regards to school... just stick to your guns man. Read, study, stay on top of your work... and you'll come out positive. Talk to some of your professors, if need be. Alls good.

Just engage your life. Live as a warrior, handling the baby-steps as they come. I'd also seriously look into a practice of meditation. You'll systematically be healing the neurotic issues of "mind"... allowing for greater comfort and relaxation into yourself. Naturally, this will only make others more comftorable around you as well, and be all that much easier to spark conversations/interactions/relationships.

Join a gym, take up some martial arts, and mack a few cuties.
You'll feel a world more relaxed, positive, confident.

Go for it!

 

[Remulak]

Thanks for the advice Darklight, I'm going to work on my social anxiety which is the root of my problem. This is the only place I can turn to when I need to get something off my chest because of my avoidant personality issue. It's comforting to know that others have a level of social anxiety because I was starting to think I was crazy.

 

[jonwon]

Further from darklights post which is a good solid advice thread.

A few things I am curious about:

Why do you think people are focusing on you?
What is it about you that would draw people’s attention and make you be aware of them checking you out?



Also I am going to post this here.

This is fact remember it, even though I doubt it will make little difference until you resolve the above problem.

People in general go about there lives thinking about thier lives. When they see a stranger in the street no matter how odd, they may look and depending on the odd'ness, pay it attention for x amount of time.
An Extreme example would be a man who is deformed, people would pay it attention.
But:
When they pass by they forget about what they have seen, since there life is there focus! and if they do think about the stranger it is simply in a small thought zone that’s would last about 1-2mins. If the event was worth a conversation then they may have a conversation about it, but after that it would be forgotten about.
Meaning regardless what people see to any degree, means nothing since, it is simply not as important as what is going on in there life. If they even want to look or can be bothered over the magnitude of thought the average person as on there own life.

Even work relations may hold the person in conversation, but in reality it is there life they are concerend about, as people really do not care about strangers as they are focused on there own lives and people in it.
So a random man in the street is simply not important regardless of the effliction. So most wont even give a sh** about your problem or paranoid state.

Simply ask: how many people do you see out with a typical affliction, say wheelchair bound and i bet you dont even know as you simply in reality do not care as you forget as soon as you see what ever it is, as it is simply not important in the shape of things.


Also what some people don’t grasp is every one of us as a little quirk we hate and are paranoid about. It could be a big nose, a funny walk e.t.c. The fact is it is never important to anyone else as much as it is important to you.
And just remember as much as some one is paranoid about say having 1 leg missing or a scar on there face, the person facing you is 100% certain to have something they are paranoid about, its just you don’t know it!!!
Makes you think now doesn't it, if each person is paranoid about something and you did not know it, then does that make the thing you are paranoid about null and void? simply yes it does.
But it is only a BIG concern for you, even if it is a very bad thing it is never ever as perceived as bad for some-one else.

Also the best way to get rid of a paranio of some kind of ailment is to get rid of it or reduce it. If you can’t get rid of it, then learn to accept it as who you are! and if others don’t like it, it is simply there problem to deal with! as you are what you are, others can live there life regardless, it should not really matter.

So paranoid is in all of us, just some control it better then others, but it always there. Social acceptability is a powerful thing indeed.

Simply controlling your own mind is something most find hard to do, but i would suggest if this is needed then make it prority as i have seen people swollowed up in there own world and let the real world slip by due to some warped up sh** that is all in the head.

A way to win women over is knowing this concept and seeing most people have issues and even the sexiest girls have hangups and are never ever truly 100% confident no one ever really is!

 

[donpepot]

positive thinking and eject all the negative thoughts

 

[MisterNigma]

We All Have It...

We all suffer from social anxiety

We all have fears, hopes, and dreams,

and many of us are paranoid.,

BUT just because you're paranoid, doesn't mean you aren't being followed.

As far as I'm concerned fear, anxiety, and paranoia are all good things. They keep you on your toes, and give you an edge, a certain sense of hyperawareness.

You shouldn't allow these feelings to control your life though. Even though you might feel very afraid, or anxious or paranoid, act like you're not.

ACT AS IF you don't feel any of these things. Eventually you will forget to feel the way you feel now.

Anyway, drop the negativity. If you can't do this by yourself, get some anti depressants, and if that doesn't help, seriously consider counseling.


-E.Nigma

P.S. - I'm probably in the minority, but I really do believe that paranoia is a good thing . . .

 

[jonwon]

apart from the great advice.

i would suggest no one take anti-depressents!

They have a very bad history, not withstanding suicide rates.

I am a firm believer in control over your own mind, how you do that is upto you.

Maybe start with researching the world and changing your views then the ones you have already.

I can imagine alot of depression is from people trying to fit into slots that where simply not designed for them, by religions/sociaty/friends or even parents. I think a great step to get rid of that junk is do your own research on the world and come to your own conclussions about what you think you know.

No pills in the world can replace knowledge, even if some say its a chemical imbalance! seems odd how this imbalance is prevalient in our sociaty currently. I am a firm beliver depression is a product of our environment and a way to change that is to learn about what your environment is.

Google videos, google, search englines, wic' enc' are great places to ask questions on religion e.t.c and see the controlling aspects of our sociaty that restricts people and makes them less of themselves without them even knowing it.

Then they give pills which imo never ever work and just create an extension of the problem.

Learn to combat this, not take a lazy route option. You have to learn to break depression. There are many ways to do this, its upto you to find what works for you and no avoid pills!!

Strange how if you put Truth after every search string you can come up with some very intresting arguments.

Example.
911Truth
Christianityexposed or Truth.

E.t.c you get the picture.
Search enjoy and realize it is not all as black and white as it seems to be.

 

[MisterNigma]

apart from the great advice.

i would suggest no one take anti-depressents!

They have a very bad history, not withstanding suicide rates.

I am a firm believer in control over your own mind, how you do that is upto you.

Maybe start with researching the world and changing your views then the ones you have already.

I can imagine alot of depression is from people trying to fit into slots that where simply not designed for them, by religions/sociaty/friends or even parents. I think a great step to get rid of that junk is do your own research on the world and come to your own conclussions about what you think you know.

No pills in the world can replace knowledge, even if some say its a chemical imbalance! seems odd how this imbalance is prevalient in our sociaty currently. I am a firm beliver depression is a product of our environment and a way to change that is to learn about what your environment is.

Google videos, google, search englines, wic' enc' are great places to ask questions on religion e.t.c and see the controlling aspects of our sociaty that restricts people and makes them less of themselves without them even knowing it.

Then they give pills which imo never ever work and just create an extension of the problem.

Learn to combat this, not take a lazy route option. You have to learn to break depression. There are many ways to do this, its upto you to find what works for you and no avoid pills!!

Strange how if you put Truth after every search string you can come up with some very intresting arguments.

Example.
911Truth
Christianityexposed or Truth.

E.t.c you get the picture.
Search enjoy and realize it is not all as black and white as it seems to be.

While I would not advocate anti-depressants as a long term solution to depression. It certainly helps to have a ladder to climb out of the gutter. Same with anti-depressants, they aren't always needed, but they certainly make things easier.

As far as suicides related to anti-depression medication, there is a link there, but it is not what most people assume. Many of the people who commit suicide shortly after taking anti-depressants do so because the anti-depressants give them the will and energy to act. In most cases these people are too depressed to do anything more then sleep. They don't even eat in a lot of cases. So when they do get a little boost of energy,and will to act, they sometimes find their lives in such disorder that they they take the easy way out. This is usually only the case with major depression, and people who are very far gone.

As far as the truth? 911truth, christianityexposed? If you believe alot of the theories floating out there, you are in far more of a delusion then if you don't.

Yes there are things we don't know about these events, but there is also overwhelming evidence to suggest that for the most part these things are as they appear to be.

Unfortunately I have go get back to work, but come on? THE TRUTH? What the he!! is trugh, I don't know, but I know with certainty that neither does anyone else.


-E.Nigma

 

[jonwon]

While I would not advocate anti-depressants as a long term solution to depression. It certainly helps to have a ladder to climb out of the gutter. Same with anti-depressants, they aren't always needed, but they certainly make things easier.

As far as suicides related to anti-depression medication, there is a link there, but it is not what most people assume. Many of the people who commit suicide shortly after taking anti-depressants do so because the anti-depressants give them the will and energy to act. In most cases these people are too depressed to do anything more then sleep. They don't even eat in a lot of cases. So when they do get a little boost of energy,and will to act, they sometimes find their lives in such disorder that they they take the easy way out. This is usually only the case with major depression, and people who are very far gone.

As far as the truth? 911truth, christianityexposed? If you believe alot of the theories floating out there, you are in far more of a delusion then if you don't.

Yes there are things we don't know about these events, but there is also overwhelming evidence to suggest that for the most part these things are as they appear to be.

Unfortunately I have go get back to work, but come on? THE TRUTH? What the he!! is trugh, I don't know, but I know with certainty that neither does anyone else.


-E.Nigma

Probably so.

But having lived with some one with depression and having a brother who suffers from it, i know anti depressent dont work as perscribed by the usual hype and as for related deaths, well there are homicides to related to this stuff you cant ignore.

As for the truth this is a matter of context!

But in each scenario of depression witnessed it is normally a product of some mental thought pattern attributed to cage like qualities derived from various sources. Some sadly are controls on the person's mind to there perception of the world, it was mearly a challange to be criticaly thinking and look out of the box and see a different picture and question the world around us that is all. Some consider it a healthy dose of rational when faced with opposing beliefs and then people can make there own mind up and assume! which to me is a big part of depression. One aspect of feeling out of control and not able to have the strength to break free from the mental bonds.

So again i am a firm believer in depression can be tackled if there is enough research into the person and there trigger for it. It may be sociaty or it my be religious or it may be simply other stuff, what ever it is the first step is to try to understand the depression and its source and challange it to break the tend (or even with drugs there is no guarantee of relapse) Otherwise those pills that give strength can easily make some one with depression do some warped stuff with there emotionless state these pills put you in.

research the condition and there are many alternatives.
some being:
Learn the factors around it.
Exercise to release chemicals that make you feel good, there is strong evidence that a session at the gym can produce feel good emotions.
Even the praise and joy of another.
Or changing beliefs, spirtual or social, these only help to break down a few walls and hopefully try to come to some rational with the truth for the person.

One of the reasons why sites like this exist for people to break there conditoning about the opposite sex and come to learn truths about them that may help attract or for a person to see its not all about tying the not, as even this concept is bred from an engineered state.

Too many people judge there worth on stuff they are projected with and i believe to alot it is simply trying to put a square peg in a round hole! People will in relation to that get depressed when there world reflects what they may see as lie (but not truly see it) and who can blame them?

Just a option to see the influnce and then question it as not everything is as black and white as it appears.

As for those things i posted you will find there is as much evidence for the truth or not as you wish to look for, the purpose was to illustrate the cages people build up are mental barriers that can be broke down due to reasearch and learning and then motivation without guilt! Sadly this sociaty is all about making people feel bad for even the simpliest of things that are inherently good, i.e. sex for one.

We get raised as a high % to think sex is bad and when we challange that it cause mental conflicts and no wonder people get down about it all.

I say sod all that BS and make your own path, learning is a great tool to find out where you want to be and when you discover the source of the depression the true sorce then challange that also no matter how big it first appears to be.

 

[MisterNigma]

Probably so.

But having lived with some one with depression and having a brother who suffers from it, i know anti depressent dont work as perscribed by the usual hype and as for related deaths, well there are homicides to related to this stuff you cant ignore.

As for the truth this is a matter of context!

But in each scenario of depression witnessed it is normally a product of some mental thought pattern attributed to cage like qualities derived from various sources. Some sadly are controls on the person's mind to there perception of the world, it was mearly a challange to be criticaly thinking and look out of the box and see a different picture and question the world around us that is all. Some consider it a healthy dose of rational when faced with opposing beliefs and then people can make there own mind up and assume! which to me is a big part of depression. One aspect of feeling out of control and not able to have the strength to break free from the mental bonds.

So again i am a firm believer in depression can be tackled if there is enough research into the person and there trigger for it. It may be sociaty or it my be religious or it may be simply other stuff, what ever it is the first step is to try to understand the depression and its source and challange it to break the tend (or even with drugs there is no guarantee of relapse) Otherwise those pills that give strength can easily make some one with depression do some warped stuff with there emotionless state these pills put you in.

research the condition and there are many alternatives.
some being:
Learn the factors around it.
Exercise to release chemicals that make you feel good, there is strong evidence that a session at the gym can produce feel good emotions.
Even the praise and joy of another.
Or changing beliefs, spirtual or social, these only help to break down a few walls and hopefully try to come to some rational with the truth for the person.

One of the reasons why sites like this exist for people to break there conditoning about the opposite sex and come to learn truths about them that may help attract or for a person to see its not all about tying the not, as even this concept is bred from an engineered state.

Too many people judge there worth on stuff they are projected with and i believe to alot it is simply trying to put a square peg in a round hole! People will in relation to that get depressed when there world reflects what they may see as lie (but not truly see it) and who can blame them?

Just a option to see the influnce and then question it as not everything is as black and white as it appears.

As for those things i posted you will find there is as much evidence for the truth or not as you wish to look for, the purpose was to illustrate the cages people build up are mental barriers that can be broke down due to reasearch and learning and then motivation without guilt! Sadly this sociaty is all about making people feel bad for even the simpliest of things that are inherently good, i.e. sex for one.

We get raised as a high % to think sex is bad and when we challange that it cause mental conflicts and no wonder people get down about it all.

I say sod all that BS and make your own path, learning is a great tool to find out where you want to be and when you discover the source of the depression the true sorce then challange that also no matter how big it first appears to be.

While I would never call into question your own knowledge of anti-depressant medications, I do have to point out one factor to you. You observed your brother go through depression. I very much doubt that you have experienced what he did, atleast as so far as emotions are concerned.

Unfortunately I've experienced depression first hand, and later as an observer. Since then I have also developed a backround in psychology, and counseling.

Anti depressants aren't a simple thing. Most of the people who take anti depressants, and then find themselves feeling better the next day are experiencing nothing more than the placebo effect. Most anti-depressants take about 4 weeks to begin working, and actually take about 8 weeks to show full effects. Even after 8 weeks, regrettably many of them do not work.

Just as with any medications there are drawbacks, and some people are treatment resistant. Bottom line is, if someone is in a state of mild depression, low risk medications such as wellbutrin could be a simple way out, that does not require the person in question to alter their life style. There are highly productive people who suffer from depression in a regular basis. Why would it be an issue for them to take medication to relieve their problems? Is it any different from a person who takes allergy medication to deal with red eyes, and itchy nose and sneezing every spring?

What I always propose is not to limit options. Anti depressants are a valid option, and a very time and cost effective one. It should be explored.

I also agree though that a supportive environment, a certain routine, and an exploration of the causes for depression are important. In some cases though, all it is, is a neuro-chemical imbalance.

Basically, I agree with everything you posted, except the part about anti-depressants.


-E.Nigma

 

[diablo]

Moved to AE.

 

[X_DonTrini_X]

Weed & Depression does not mix well...

Nothing gets does unless you become active (workout) do things you love..

 

[Berlex]

wack off to some good porn