"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Depression for no reason it seems like.

montybrown

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How do ya'll deal with Depression? I have no idea why I'm feeling depressed right now -- I have such awesome friends who I'm thankful they invite me out when they do and I have an amazing time. The problem is, when the night's over and I see myself at home, I'm bummed out as hell. Anybody else have had a problem like this? Feels like I don't know what else to do. Having such a great night out then the feeling that it's over and/or wondering if I'll ever have such a great time out again.

I guess it doesn't help that I was spinning plates with 2 girls and now both are done with me. But I don't think that could be the problem, because when I go out and I interact with other women, I still feel the same way.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Evolution said:
Sometimes i don't know why when everything is just doing great , i feel down and baffled.
Maybe i have some memories and states i must let go.
Memories that may be sweet, tough or sad.
I can't be living in the past sitting and hoping all day that things will turn out how i want it to be.
I'll have to stand tall.
I have to clarify my visions.
Yes it was my way.

The boy must die, the man will live.

i'll take lead
i'll maneuver paths
i have dreams and targets
i can't stop now under any circumstances
i ain't shambling a little going through
i'll show you what i am made of apparently.
time will prove everything.
Sounds familiar no? This is powerful motivation advice.
 

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montybrown said:
How do ya'll deal with Depression? I have no idea why I'm feeling depressed right now -- I have such awesome friends who I'm thankful they invite me out when they do and I have an amazing time. The problem is, when the night's over and I see myself at home, I'm bummed out as hell. Anybody else have had a problem like this? Feels like I don't know what else to do. Having such a great night out then the feeling that it's over and/or wondering if I'll ever have such a great time out again.

I guess it doesn't help that I was spinning plates with 2 girls and now both are done with me. But I don't think that could be the problem, because when I go out and I interact with other women, I still feel the same way.
This is happening because you base your "happiness" around females too much. I admit, I'm a victim of that and in the process of changing this once I realized it. Try being happy without female attention first, then start spinning plates again and see the difference not only in your happiness, but in your success with the girls.
 

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I have been in situations like this with myself. It is mostly your mindset and attitude. You just need to change it and put yourself in a good mood. Do things you enjoy when you feel this way.

Now, I'm not trying to get into religion or convert anyone. But, when I was in high school I told a good teacher who I could trust I thought I had Depression. He gave me a book called; "Run baby, Run" It was about a teenager who was in gangs getting in fights, drugs, murder, ect... Anyways, he later on found Jesus Christ and started to learn about him. He completely changed his life and told his fellow gang members to stop killing, selling drungs, and all that bad stuff and start following the bible.

Anyways the moral of my rambaling is that this book taught me somethings and helped me get through my "depression" stage. It is all what you make things to be. If you think you are depressed you will feel depressed. You just always gotta have a positive attitude. If something bad happens to you just keep ur chin up and go forward.
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
I have been in situations like this with myself. It is mostly your mindset and attitude. You just need to change it and put yourself in a good mood. Do things you enjoy when you feel this way.

Now, I'm not trying to get into religion or convert anyone. But, when I was in high school I told a good teacher who I could trust I thought I had Depression. He gave me a book called; "Run baby, Run" It was about a teenager who was in gangs getting in fights, drugs, murder, ect... Anyways, he later on found Jesus Christ and started to learn about him. He completely changed his life and told his fellow gang members to stop killing, selling drungs, and all that bad stuff and start following the bible.

Anyways the moral of my rambaling is that this book taught me somethings and helped me get through my "depression" stage. It is all what you make things to be. If you think you are depressed you will feel depressed. You just always gotta have a positive attitude. If something bad happens to you just keep ur chin up and go forward.
This is some good advice - thanks for sharing this experience.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I actually suffered a severe depression, it lasted 3 months. Worst 3 months of my life, I wasn't suicidal, but all I thought about was death and I was a lifeless being. Being around friends actually helped me get out of it. That was completely irrelevant to the topic lol, it just reminded me of it.

You're feeling this way because you have nothing to go home to. Like someone else said it's all mindset and attitude. Find something that you enjoy, if you like video games buy a bunch that are incredibly addictive that make you not want to hang out with your friends. Okay, don't go that far, but you should find a balance between having fun at home and having fun going out.
 

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I thought I was depressed for a long time...it turned out I was just really bored.

Sure fire cure for depression...Go down to Hertz, rent a GT500, find a deserted stretch of highway. Do what comes naturally. You will feel better, unless they try to charge you for a new set of rear tires. :woo:
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
I have been in situations like this with myself. It is mostly your mindset and attitude. You just need to change it and put yourself in a good mood. Do things you enjoy when you feel this way.

Now, I'm not trying to get into religion or convert anyone. But, when I was in high school I told a good teacher who I could trust I thought I had Depression. He gave me a book called; "Run baby, Run" It was about a teenager who was in gangs getting in fights, drugs, murder, ect... Anyways, he later on found Jesus Christ and started to learn about him. He completely changed his life and told his fellow gang members to stop killing, selling drungs, and all that bad stuff and start following the bible.

Anyways the moral of my rambaling is that this book taught me somethings and helped me get through my "depression" stage. It is all what you make things to be. If you think you are depressed you will feel depressed. You just always gotta have a positive attitude. If something bad happens to you just keep ur chin up and go forward.
The gang member in question I believe is named Nicki Cruz.

He told a story on TBN otherwise known as the blasphemy network of how he once tried to convert a guy to believe in Jesus at either knife point or gun point.

Anyway glad his story helped you break through the depression but always remember to take TBN's brand of Christianity with a grain of salt.
 

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monty,
perhaps what you are going through is not exactly depression.
perhaps you are growing as an individual and somewhere in the back of your head, you feel that you will out grow fun times in the process, or loose your friends.
if that is it, then perhaps this is more of a state of mourning over your youth as you evolve more into the man you are becoming.
it is part of the process.
but rest assured, you will not out end up in the world alone with no friends.
it is perfectly ok to come home and veg out and wonder what you will do tomorrow.
 

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I've been there man, for a long time. And it totally sucks! I didn't do anything but sit in my room and watch movies, play video games and get fat, which only contributed even more to my depression.
I was able to get out of it by setting some goals and working towards them. I got outside in the sunlight, worked out, and spent more time with family and friends.
A big key for me was also not allowing myself to be isolated too often or for long periods of time.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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