"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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HELP i am extremely despressed, i know its afc to be whining and still holding on, but i just broke up with my LTR gf, my world feels like its crashed, i feel poinltess living now. I have nothing to do all day cause were on holiday, this depression is killing me, what should i do other than go to the gym
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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go get another girl...its really the only way...i mean i've never had a LTR but i'm just saying if I did and I felt that way I would just get another girl and just realize that life goes on
 

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hey pal u can die tomorow... so get ur ****in ass up and go there look 4 other girls... and dont fall in love until ur 27-28 OK?
CARPE DIEM (sieze the day)
Keep ur head up, research for attraction techniques, and GET LAID.

LIVE [
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Keep the chin up holmes:D

It's one girl, she's not special, learn and move on
 

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she is special when i picture my dream girl, she had most of the qualities, i cant believe i let this slip through my fingers, i cant eat, i havent smiled in days. AHH
 

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Bud.

Occupy yourself and engrain in your head that the past is gone. Strive for the future and take hold of your feelings. It's a normal reaction to have loved and lost, the point is you have to recover...or you'll never find anyone just as special.

Live and learn!
 

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Originally posted by Hockey Playa
HELP i am extremely despressed, i know its afc to be whining and still holding on, but i just broke up with my LTR gf, my world feels like its crashed, i feel poinltess living now. I have nothing to do all day cause were on holiday, this depression is killing me, what should i do other than go to the gym
Dude. You're feeling sh!ty because you feel sorry for yourself. Deal with your own self-pity by yourself. Don't ask anyone here on the forums to suck your own d!ck to make you feel better.

Live your life; and yes, move on. It's just ONE girl. Clearly if something happened in that short of a period, it would not have lasted. You're looking at things negatively. Clearly, you and this girl, aren't for each other if it fell apart after two months, so you just saved yourself much more pain and agony if your wish came true (her calling you back and getting back together). All you're doing is extending the fuse to the barrel of gunpowder. It will still fvcking blow up in your face.

And the longer you wait, as you slowly watch it approach doomsday, you'll be in more pain as it tears you apart slowly. So stop your b!tching, woman. Be happy you saved yourself some Kleenex, and go out and enjoy your life.

Happy New Years

Love,

Fitch <3

P.S. You don't like the answer you're hearing? Don't post your problems in a public forum.

Oh, and do you really have to make two threads revolving around the same topic. I know you're hurt, but this won't help you.
 

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Originally posted by Hockey Playa
she is special when i picture my dream girl, she had most of the qualities, i cant believe i let this slip through my fingers, i cant eat, i havent smiled in days. AHH
Bullsh*t. When you picture your dream girl and think you see her its all a fasade of youre mind. She was what you had, you just qualified her to fit the model of your "dream" girl. No one feels sorry for you, we've been in your shoes. Pull your sh*t together and dont cry.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Im so sorry guys, i know id be pissed off if i was feeling great and some guy posted about how depressed he is. I was ****ing scared i might even do something stupid to myself. The problem is Everything and i mean Everything reminds me of her, the inside jokes we had, commercials from movies we went to, clothes i wore with her, even her smell. Im trying to stay positive, im trying to stay busy. It feels like someone is always knocking the wind out of me, i cant eat, sleep, my breathing pattern is even a bit messed, this is all non-conscience, How do i dissociate her with the things she touched my life with
 

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You want advice?

Well here it is:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search...d=470267&sortby=lastpost&sortorder=descending

or

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search...d=470285&sortby=lastpost&sortorder=descending

or

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search...d=470295&sortby=lastpost&sortorder=descending


It's called the search button.

EDIT: I have no idea what happened to those links but those aren't the desired forums I was looking for.

Nonetheless, search:

oneitis

depression

broke up

Then you will get the desired search pages.
 
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Dont worry, its common for most people to get depressed around the holiday season anyway your break up could of triggered your depression , Im thinking it will go away soon. I used to get depressed around this time too, But I know now that the holidays are over I can get back up on my feet again. :) Hopefully now that its a new year you will see things in a different perspective. Hang in their and eventually you will be back the way you were before, trust me. your going to get tired of being depressed and wake up and say to your self ''WTF am I doing here depressed?'' its just a matter of time till You feel better.

EDIT: Besides going to the gym you can always find another girl
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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