Depressed

[adpreston1988]

Well, I ended up going to a dance club last night again (I've gone 3-4 times this summer already) and pretty much the same thing happens everytime the following day: I feel miserable and down. I don't know if this is normal or not, but when I'm actually @ the dance club and dancing w/ the girls I feel great and am really happy. I guess for every high I get there is always the low that follows. It's like going on a trip or camp (where you have a blast the entire week) and then you feel all depressed when you have to leave. It's the same thing whenever I go dancing at a club. I guess the interaction is just different the next time I see them. I love dancing with the girls, but then when it's over even if I do see them a few days later I still feel down in the dumps. I guess it's because I don't know whether or not they got the same satisfaction out of dancing with me as I got dancing with them. Also, there is this one girl in particular who I love to dance with, but whenever we go dancing we always go in a big group and it's hard to watch her dance with other guys. Whenever she dances with me she makes me feel really special by grabbing my hands and such while dancing (by the way, I need some advice about what to do with my hands while grinding. Like what should I do when she starts grabbing my hands?) but then I see her do a lot of the same things with other guys as well. Anyways, if anybody can help me through this it would be much appreciated

 

[BluEyes]

Originally posted by adpreston1988
Also, there is this one girl in particular who I love to dance with, but whenever we go dancing we always go in a big group and it's hard to watch her dance with other guys as well. Whenever she dances with me she makes me feel really special...

Oneitis. Get interested in other girls there, make her jealous and striving to get your attention again. Do that, or watch her slip away out of your grasp...

What to do with your hands? haha, thats easy. It's a free excuse to get your hands in there..caress her abit, shoulders, arms, hands, her sides, hips..whatever feels good and whatever you are getting the greenlight messages from. Afew guidelines though, stay clear of the gear. dont grope her or anything, she might not pull away but its sort of uncomfortable for most girls on a dance floor. Stick clear of her t*ts and pvssy. Her @ss is fair game IF she's into it.

 

[adpreston1988]

Any other advice? Thanks.

 

[adpreston1988]

any other thoughts?

 

[Embrace]

Stop dancing with her before she stops dancing with you.

Dance with tons of other girls. Be interested in tons of other chicks.

You cant worry about losing a girl.. if you worry about losing her you wont get her

 

[NeW2TheGame]

What soniq said, INNER GAME is the uttermost important thing man.

 

[adpreston1988]

What are some tips to give over oneitis? I think this is a problem I tend to have a lot and I try not to get it, but I just can't help myself sometimes. Is there never a good time to focus on one girl?

 

[B-Lemond]

Well, I ended up going to a dance club last night again (I've gone 3-4 times this summer already) and pretty much the same thing happens everytime the following day: I feel miserable and down. I don't know if this is normal or not, but when I'm actually @ the dance club and dancing w/ the girls I feel great and am really happy. I guess for every high I get there is always the low that follows. It's like going on a trip or camp (where you have a blast the entire week) and then you feel all depressed when you have to leave. It's the same thing whenever I go dancing at a club. I guess the interaction is just different the next time I see them. I love dancing with the girls, but then when it's over even if I do see them a few days later I still feel down in the dumps. I guess it's because I don't know whether or not they got the same satisfaction out of dancing with me as I got dancing with them. Also, there is this one girl in particular who I love to dance with, but whenever we go dancing we always go in a big group and it's hard to watch her dance with other guys. Whenever she dances with me she makes me feel really special by grabbing my hands and such while dancing (by the way, I need some advice about what to do with my hands while grinding. Like what should I do when she starts grabbing my hands?) but then I see her do a lot of the same things with other guys as well. Anyways, if anybody can help me through this it would be much appreciated

Start a Seduction Journal.

When you feel down, you can just go back and read your succesful events and it will put you back into the mode you want.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=107787

 

[adpreston1988]

Start a Seduction Journal.

When you feel down, you can just go back and read your succesful events and it will put you back into the mode you want.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=107787

I've never been big on journals and I don't think having one would really help me.