Guys please help me. I am broken hearted. I feel like an empty shell of what I used to be. I never used to give a **** about women. I used to be into myself, I lived life, made money, lifted weights, I did everything *I* wanted to do. Now here I am, sitting with tears welled up in my eyes, feelings weak--thanks to a GIRL. This girl was totally my type, shy timid, gorgeous, super smart...just everything I want in a girl.
You may have read my other thread on here in regards to this girl..long distance story. For reference:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=153466
Well long story short, I flew down to meet her twice. The last time was for 4 days, and we both had a great time. It was never an issue for me to fly down to spend time with her..monthly.
The problem is this girl does not have much friends at all..just her roommate, and her ex who all live on campus. She is super super shy. Well a week after I left from my last trip, she continued to text me but they were non-flirtatious. She also stopped calling as much. I found myself to be the one calling first, but she would always answer/call back.
Well today I called her after a couple days and we talked. After 10 minutes she said "there is something I've been meaning to tell you", in a really nervous voice. I knew what she was going to say so I just flat out said "let me guess, you don't want me to call anymore". Well thats when she said "I decided to give it another try with [ex]".
I did ask her why, and she said that her ex gave her an ultimatum. This girl does not have friends so her ex has been inviting her over to his dorm to watch movies, do homework, and what not with his and his roomie. According to her, the ex said "I don't think we should spend any more time together, unless we are dating". She had no choice..and she said yes and decided to give it a try. Well her ex is a senior and she is a junior. This means he will be gone in a year...I asked her what will happen at that point. She said that they decided they might break it off at that point.
She said if we lived closer things may have been different. I told her, that I may be applying to schools in her area, and she did give me a positive response to that. She said she wants to still keep in touch. I do not know what to do..I am feeling helpless right now. I've never cried since I was a child. Right now I feel like a 22 year old child. **** me.
EDIT:
She just sent me this text, I don't know how to respond. God I wish I could sit her down and talk to her. Should I ask her to meet up just to talk to her face to face? I have air miles so the flight won't cost me anything.
"Hey Neal. so im sorry if my decision to date [ex] kind of hurt you. Things might have been different if we lived closer but that just isn't how it is ya know. Im not sure if I made the right decision but I felt like I should try it again for some reason. Anyways have a nice day and we'll keep in touch."
You may have read my other thread on here in regards to this girl..long distance story. For reference:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=153466
Well long story short, I flew down to meet her twice. The last time was for 4 days, and we both had a great time. It was never an issue for me to fly down to spend time with her..monthly.
The problem is this girl does not have much friends at all..just her roommate, and her ex who all live on campus. She is super super shy. Well a week after I left from my last trip, she continued to text me but they were non-flirtatious. She also stopped calling as much. I found myself to be the one calling first, but she would always answer/call back.
Well today I called her after a couple days and we talked. After 10 minutes she said "there is something I've been meaning to tell you", in a really nervous voice. I knew what she was going to say so I just flat out said "let me guess, you don't want me to call anymore". Well thats when she said "I decided to give it another try with [ex]".
I did ask her why, and she said that her ex gave her an ultimatum. This girl does not have friends so her ex has been inviting her over to his dorm to watch movies, do homework, and what not with his and his roomie. According to her, the ex said "I don't think we should spend any more time together, unless we are dating". She had no choice..and she said yes and decided to give it a try. Well her ex is a senior and she is a junior. This means he will be gone in a year...I asked her what will happen at that point. She said that they decided they might break it off at that point.
She said if we lived closer things may have been different. I told her, that I may be applying to schools in her area, and she did give me a positive response to that. She said she wants to still keep in touch. I do not know what to do..I am feeling helpless right now. I've never cried since I was a child. Right now I feel like a 22 year old child. **** me.
EDIT:
She just sent me this text, I don't know how to respond. God I wish I could sit her down and talk to her. Should I ask her to meet up just to talk to her face to face? I have air miles so the flight won't cost me anything.
"Hey Neal. so im sorry if my decision to date [ex] kind of hurt you. Things might have been different if we lived closer but that just isn't how it is ya know. Im not sure if I made the right decision but I felt like I should try it again for some reason. Anyways have a nice day and we'll keep in touch."