Depressed - Advice?

[GreyedOut]

Ive been in a bit of a rut lately and can't seem to bounce back. I'm noticing there's rarely a moment in my day that I'm actually enjoying life or having fun...I've been getting a lot of attention from females lately but it's mostly for my looks/body. If I fake it hard enough to have fun these girls go crazy and fall in love with me. But I can't keep it up. The depressions gotten so bad that I cant even get hard with these girls lol. Reminds me of the movie "Yes Man" with Jim Carey.

I need to get my **** together and stop focusing on girls. So I'm wondering if you guys have fun without girls and what is it that makes life fun for you? The more descriptive you can be the better. Like how do you spend your week? I need a comparison to see where I'm going wrong.

 

[Zunder]

These a few threads on depression, eg I remember Colussus had one going a while ago........

I have suffered from Depression, crippling depression, and not that long ago.

If you care to give a bit more background as I am sure it has more to do with you just not being able to get "hard" for girls.

 

[lxr]

stuff for fun

There are lots of things you can focus on if girls are giving you trouble. The nice things about these ideas are that they can keep your mind off girls while still helping your value in the future

-play sports. I play soccer with friends at the part throughout the week.
-try to learn a foreign language. Get a cd or book or something.
-work out
-play with model kits. they're surprisingly fun for $15 bux you can get some sexy cars or something and put them around the house/on your desk.
-keep a journal! I have a paper journal in which i keep track of my health and personality.

these things are fun and when you get back on your feet you can not only look at yourself as happier but girls will find you more interesting as well.

 

[lxr]

stuff for fun

double post. wups, don't know how that happened...

 

[moneyisking]

i understand brother. i was in same situation after some heart break... been depressed, suicidal, destructive, felt sorry for myself, low self-esteem.. etc. one thing solved the whole situation though. I got laid and there's something about sticking a pen!s into a vag that makes man a lot merrier. after i lost my v-tag, i am basically happier every moment and feel like a damn pimp. i know it's hard to get laid with depressed mindset, but that's only thing i can tell you.

but other than that, i just go out and drink with my boys; girls can be there but if not, who gives a dam.

 

[bigneil]

Bicycling and swimming are good. Try an herbal detox kit like Zand. Consume Spirulina or some superfood daily. Try fasting. Organic diet. Lots of fresh citrus juice besides oranges. Valerian root calms the nerves.

After you improve by exercise and diet you will enjoy more women who will suddenly be appearing.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Stop being depressed and start being awesome.

 

[DonGorgon]

Ive been in a bit of a rut lately and can't seem to bounce back. I'm noticing there's rarely a moment in my day that I'm actually enjoying life or having fun...I've been getting a lot of attention from females lately but it's mostly for my looks/body. If I fake it hard enough to have fun these girls go crazy and fall in love with me. But I can't keep it up. The depressions gotten so bad that I cant even get hard with these girls lol. Reminds me of the movie "Yes Man" with Jim Carey.

I need to get my **** together and stop focusing on girls. So I'm wondering if you guys have fun without girls and what is it that makes life fun for you? The more descriptive you can be the better. Like how do you spend your week? I need a comparison to see where I'm going wrong.

challenge yourslef aim very high get you a rich sugar mommy or a celeb or model girl who can give you money and gifts..

 

[oneboy21]

Reading books, Yoga and any physical activity will help you keep your mind off.

 

[Scars]

i understand brother. i was in same situation after some heart break... been depressed, suicidal, destructive, felt sorry for myself, low self-esteem.. etc. one thing solved the whole situation though. I got laid and there's something about sticking a pen!s into a vag that makes man a lot merrier. after i lost my v-tag, i am basically happier every moment and feel like a damn pimp. i know it's hard to get laid with depressed mindset, but that's only thing i can tell you.

but other than that, i just go out and drink with my boys; girls can be there but if not, who gives a dam.

To be completely honest I have been pretty depressed lately as well. If you couldn't tell by my "cynical" posts. I've banged two new girls sense my break up and it hasn't really made things better at all. I just had a break up with a crazy BPD cvnt that just fvcked my head up. It's not that I miss her, I don't at all. I actually hate her and despise her. I just feel violated. Like she seriously took the life out of me and I'm not the same person anymore. Nothing seems fun or interesting anymore. I'm rude, and cynical and just don't really give a fvck. If it weren't for moments like this where I feel sad I'd think she turned me into a god damn sociopath.

But yeah. I remember when banging chicks solved all my problems. Now it just doesn't do it for me anymore. I hardly even have a sex drive anymore honestly. Something is wrong.

Perhaps I need to start looking into therapy. Eh.

-Scars

 

[Zunder]

Scars,

I just had a break up with a crazy BPD cvnt that just fvcked my head up. It's not that I miss her, I don't at all. I actually hate her and despise her. I just feel violated. Like she seriously took the life out of me and I'm not the same person anymore. Nothing seems fun or interesting anymore.

You are not alone brother. This is WORD for fvcking WORD what happened with me and my BPD cvnt in 2010.

I was so fvcked up, getting through the next 30 seconds was a challenge let alone a day, a week, a month. It took me all of 2010 to get over it - but get over it I did.

Now I look back and its like two different people. I honestly feel as painful as it was, I learnt a great deal about myself and it is going to put in good stead for the rest of my days. That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger - a cliche I know, but for me its the absolute truth.

 

[In2theGame]

To be completely honest I have been pretty depressed lately as well. If you couldn't tell by my "cynical" posts. I've banged two new girls sense my break up and it hasn't really made things better at all. I just had a break up with a crazy BPD cvnt that just fvcked my head up. It's not that I miss her, I don't at all. I actually hate her and despise her. I just feel violated. Like she seriously took the life out of me and I'm not the same person anymore. Nothing seems fun or interesting anymore. I'm rude, and cynical and just don't really give a fvck. If it weren't for moments like this where I feel sad I'd think she turned me into a god damn sociopath.

But yeah. I remember when banging chicks solved all my problems. Now it just doesn't do it for me anymore. I hardly even have a sex drive anymore honestly. Something is wrong.

Perhaps I need to start looking into therapy. Eh.

-Scars

Kind of feel the same way man. Feel more betrayed in what and how she did me in but... yeah i dont feel like me atleast for now...

 

[GreyedOut]

I got screwed over hard too but it was over a year ago. It's starting to get old really fast. My buddies can't get over it. Girls are throwing themselves at me and giving me countless chances and it doesn't matter. I'm too depressed to even fake it anymore. Last month the girl was a 7.5 but she was exactly what I want for a relationship. Just a quality girl. This recent girl was an 8.5, not relationship material but just sexy. Neither one could get me out of this funk and they did all the work!

Therapy's going okay but I think I need to consider meds for a bit to get over this. I'm trying everything else: gym, eating right, vitamins + fish oil, I go out every Friday and Saturday night to party, I spend time with family, Im trying new hobbies, works going great. The therapist says I need a "purpose"...echoes of the same message told time again on this website. I dunno, I think it's kind of bull****. We can't all expect to live glorious dream lives working the job we love. My grand parents worked crap jobs because they had to and they still managed to live happy lives. I have a good job that I kick ass in, has huge potential for a successful and lucrative future and girls love it. Lately every girl that finds out what I do goes crazy over it. Its almost becoming my go-to. Am I suppose to give this up to go live on an island making wicker baskets? Get real...I need to man the **** up. I make myself sick being so dramatic.