Denying Girls

[falconslax89]

Well theres this girl im interested in...a legit 9. she very pretty, really nice..all that stuff.

anyway before 2 weeks ago i had never really talked to her. i knew who she was through friends, and always thought she was sexy and all, but she had a long time boyfriend, and this guy and i never got along, so i didnt even bother talking to her even as a friend.

well she breaks up with her boyfriend, and like 2 days later sends me a little chat thing on facebook.

i end up hanging out with her and her cousin the next night, so its not really a date or anything. were just chillin, drinkin, smokin . so we hang out that night and its cool, she texts me the next day saying she had fun bla bla bla.

she invites me to a party the next night that i dont really want to go to, but do anyway. it was a bunch of people she graduated with last year, but i went to a different school and dont know any of them and the ones i do know im not really friends with. so i leave, and tell her im going to meet up with my friend who just got into town from school for xmas break. i really just go and hangout with this other girl. which i later admit. she texts me throughout the night saying things as as 'you left me!' i dont reply

we dont really talk for a few days. like 3 days later i ask her to hang out, but she says a friend is in from out of state and she cant blow them off. i just say ok. she says i cant get mad bc i blew her off the other night. i assume shes talking about the party i left.

few days later i text her hang out with me tonight. she says she made plans with her cuz. i say so...leave her. she says she cant and that i just want her to show me up in smoking again. i just text her 'your full of it.' she replies with 'if by that you mean u dont think i could show u up then your crazy.' i said thats not what i mean. she says'about me having plan? lol' and i dont reply

she texts me a couple times the next day or 2 and i dont reply. she chats me up on facebook, but i show minimal interest. i see her thing went back to"in a relationship" so i figure..well thats over. she then asks when we are gonna hang out. i say whenever... she says ok.. i figure maybe shes in a relationship with a friend, bc girls do that on facebook, i guess they think its cute. but idk.

so last night she texts me saying 'i need to smoke right now.' i feel this is where i would usually mess everything up, tell me if im right...

usually i would say ok well we can smoke if u want, and i would go pick her up and probably buy us some dank. instead i reply with 'what a stoner...'

she says 'i know right...but for real.'

i say 'you want johns number?' ..(my friend we got our weed from the first time we smoked)

she says' ha no. so i could smoke by myself lol'

i say'oh im sure he will smoke with u'

she says'its ok thanks anyway'

this is all probably around 1am.

she then texts me at like 230 saying'wanna hang out tomorrow' i dont reply because i didnt see it til this morning.

i get on facebook when i wake up and she starts chatting me. she says wanna hang out? i say when? she says whenever...today, tonight, tomorrow.whenever u want. i say i cant today, (thats a lie, i just dont want to jump on the chance as soon as she offers.) but i might see you tonight huh? (were supposed to be at the same new years party) she says 'yup'

was it a good idea to not hang out with her. i really wanted to, but i figured it was in my best interest to show her i can play that game too. plus tonight im sure she'll be there and we will both be at a drunken party where i am sure to have *****es all around me throughout the night which should only increase her wanting me. im still not sure what is up with her relationship status...but if she were back with her bf i would assume she wouldnt be talking to me like this. several people have told me they would get back together though.

what do you guys think of this. what could i do better. am i infact pushing her away by doing this?? i just want some opinions. thanks.

 

[sodbuster]

Did you ask her to leave the party WITH you,or did you just leave and not tell her? If a girl I was interested in just left me at a party, I'd call a lack of respect. I'd have to punish her a bit.[maybe like she just did to you]

 

[shaunuk]

sodbuster, I don't think there's any lack of respect etc. . .


Mate, she keeps asking you to hang out. She's constantly hitting you up, initiating contact, wanting to hang out etc. . . and you keep doing this "act aloof" thing. This only works for so long. To actually get with a girl, you have to actually do the come on eventually. She txted you at 1am, asking for the two of you to smoke ALONE. I know it seems like denying them in the "cool thing" but she's giving you very real come-ons here man, and you're fvcking them up by using "game".

In my opinion & the bottom line - stop the aloof act thing now, organise hanging out with her (weed smoking would be a good one, just you two), and escalate. That's all you need to do. Any more of this denying sh1t is probably counter-productive and she will close the window that she's offering you.

 

[Ice882]

sodbuster, I don't think there's any lack of respect etc. . .


Mate, she keeps asking you to hang out. She's constantly hitting you up, initiating contact, wanting to hang out etc. . . and you keep doing this "act aloof" thing. This only works for so long. To actually get with a girl, you have to actually do the come on eventually. She txted you at 1am, asking for the two of you to smoke ALONE. I know it seems like denying them in the "cool thing" but she's giving you very real come-ons here man, and you're fvcking them up by using "game".

In my opinion & the bottom line - stop the aloof act thing now, organise hanging out with her (weed smoking would be a good one, just you two), and escalate. That's all you need to do. Any more of this denying sh1t is probably counter-productive and she will close the window that she's offering you.

Totally right http://www.sosuave.net/forum/images/icons/icon14.gif

You can't get wrapped up in the game like that. It doesn't take too much gaming to get a girl as long as she's interested - you've built the interest - go get the girl!

 

[seano99]

falcon, you're doing awesome man. good work not letting her use you for weed. keep it up

dont ruin your efforts by overthinking this.

i'm a bit concerned at the responses to this post. why does everyone need to pick apart every aspect of this guy's game when it doesnt need to be picked apart? why can't people recognise when something is going well. probably because it's mainly the guys with girl problems that come here.

so far the girl is keen and got keener after falcon didnt cave in and let her use him for weed. in fact giving her the dealers number and suggesting she hang out with him was the best move ever!

i can see has the potential to go anywhere falcon wants it to, could be high sex on tap.. sweet

 

[Ice882]

falcon, you're doing awesome man. good work not letting her use you for weed. keep it up

dont ruin your efforts by overthinking this.

i'm a bit concerned at the responses to this post. why does everyone need to pick apart every aspect of this guy's game when it doesnt need to be picked apart? why can't people recognise when something is going well. probably because it's mainly the guys with girl problems that come here.

*palm to forehead*

We're not picking apart his game....not at all. It is going well for him, but he's close to over-gaming. He's done a good job getting the interest level up - we're telling him to seal the deal. That's not being a hater or whatever...that's encouraging him and cautioning him.

I do NOT have girl problems, trust me.

 

[seano99]

*palm to forehead*

We're not picking apart his game....not at all. It is going well for him, but he's close to over-gaming. He's done a good job getting the interest level up - we're telling him to seal the deal. That's not being a hater or whatever...that's encouraging him and cautioning him.

I do NOT have girl problems, trust me.

I appreciate your reply. He had to do everything he's done though. He's only known her for 2 weeks, and she's potentially flaked a few times - if he gave her weed or took her up on her next invite to see her at the NYE party, she'd be completely controlling when they hang out.

I agree with you that his game is going well. We dont know if she's back with her ex or not, but my guess is the more she hangs with falcon, the more likely they will break up again.

 

[shaunuk]

i'm a bit concerned at the responses to this post. why does everyone need to pick apart every aspect of this guy's game when it doesnt need to be picked apart? why can't people recognise when something is going well. probably because it's mainly the guys with girl problems that come here.

I don't feel that anyone's picking things apart - if anything, that's you. I don't have problems with girls anymore than anyone else. I do pretty good.

He is doing good. . . but in agreeance with Ice, I feel he may be coming close to over-gaming as such.

He is doing well, don't get me wrong mate. I have been in a lot of these situations before i.e. not realising that the time has come to just seal the deal. She seems to like him, he has her attracted, and now it's time to get his end away.