Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
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Alright guys, I have an interesting situation that I'm sure happens often among the fellows learning here, and has happened to all of you more advanced DJ's in your life's experiences.
Rick H. is right, "No good deep goes unpunished". Always remember this when it comes to handing money to women you are or want to be romantically involved with.
Background:
Always been a FB (fvck buddy), and she knows it. Known this one for about 5.5 years, yet there was no contact for about 2.5 years because she got herself an afc boyfriend, who ended up threatening to commit suicide when she recently broke it off. She practically begged to get back on my team and is not really in my starting rotation. I would put her category as being in the bullpen, in long relief.
She's a single mom, 29 now, who likes to go out with her friends and party, drink, smoke, and get guys to buy drinks and food for the whole group of girlfriends. She tells me how guys pay for everything, even guys she's friend zoned are willing to give her gas money and buy her drinks to go chill with them at their pad. Doesn't matter to me. In years past, I was the guy she came to see right after clubbing and partying with her friends, on somebody else's dollar. These days I don't even take her past 12 or 1am, as I want to be able to get good sleep, so she accomodates me whenever I give her a chance to see me. Lately she comes see me before going out.
On Saturday afternoon, she sends me the following text:
"Hi... Hey i need a favor....my best friends mom just died... being three weeks of from work i have no money to help out....would u be able to help me..."
Was busy, so I didn't have time to think about how to respond to her that I wasn't going to be able to contribute. Right now I couldn't even if I wanted to, but this was more out of principle and what I thought was innapropiate for two people with the type of relationship we have. We are not good friends. Just casual friends. She's the perfect definition of a plate. Recently she was telling me about her stressing some over finances. But for now, I give her the benefit of the doubt, and pretend her situations is real.
On Sunday afternoon, before I had decided how to tell her I couldn't help her, she sends me another text:
"That sucks--i know ur not my man....but after so many yrs of knowing each other i thought i could count on u a lil in moments like this...what a shame inst it.."
She's known me, but she knows we are not close friends at all. She's a plate, an FB. She visits me for her own selfish needs. That's it. Now, at no point does she even consider that I might not be in a position to contribute (although not the point here), so I responded, as I thought she was pissed I didn't respond at all
Me:
"Where you trying to make me feel guitly? If so, you are talking to the wrong person. I find this second text from you totally unfai and innapropiate. For requests like that, you'd do better if you call people, not text them. You seem more upset that I didn't give you the response you wanted, than at my delayed response."
I was calling her out on her manipulating, trying to make me feel guilty, lame attempt.
She responds with more of the same trying to turn it around and make me feel guilty type of move. It is not registering that it was totally inappropiate of a request, in my opinion, and tacky. She sees nothing wrong and shows more of her true colors:
"Fyi this people is like fam to me... I am having a collection for them - n to b honest u were the first person i send a text to- not hearing back from u was rude awakeing thatu r only there for sex- n NOTHING MORE- it sadden me yesterday....n pist me off today... Yes i do enjoy our time- but so do you...some $50 would not kill u... its cool- enjoy..... Happy new yr.."
I see her working it. She DOES NOT know how much money I have or don't have. She decided I could part with that amount and if not, I was the a$$hole.
Of all people in her life, the guy who she really hadn't had any contact with in the past 3 years, besides 2-3 booty calls, is the first one she thought of. Not the afc orbiters that are her "friends", not her girlfriends sge goes out clubbing with, not any of her relatives. No, it was me. I live in a much nice part of my area, and have some nice things in my house, so she must think I do have the money. That part is irrelevant, though.
Now, her attitude and approach totally killed any chance of me wanting to help her out. She texted me, not phoned me. She could have called me, explain, and been appreciative and stated the amount. Then I would at least exercise some judgent, consider, and perhaps work something out. Instead, she has this entitlement attitude, and she turned it around and try to make me seem like the bad guy.
Initially I thought it was not a good idea to give her money. Now I am glad she proved why I shouldn't. A different approach would have gotten her further. I didn't even want to engage her. I was going to call her and put her in place, but she either doesn't see it or get it, or just didn't want to and acted up because she didn't get anything from me. If she asks to come over, I will tell her what I think in person, then either put her on probation or cut her off my team.
Any thoughts, observations, suggestions, similar experiences you guys have encountered with women, specially "Plates" or FB's wanting money from you? Please share.
Alright guys, I have an interesting situation that I'm sure happens often among the fellows learning here, and has happened to all of you more advanced DJ's in your life's experiences.
Rick H. is right, "No good deep goes unpunished". Always remember this when it comes to handing money to women you are or want to be romantically involved with.
Background:
Always been a FB (fvck buddy), and she knows it. Known this one for about 5.5 years, yet there was no contact for about 2.5 years because she got herself an afc boyfriend, who ended up threatening to commit suicide when she recently broke it off. She practically begged to get back on my team and is not really in my starting rotation. I would put her category as being in the bullpen, in long relief.
She's a single mom, 29 now, who likes to go out with her friends and party, drink, smoke, and get guys to buy drinks and food for the whole group of girlfriends. She tells me how guys pay for everything, even guys she's friend zoned are willing to give her gas money and buy her drinks to go chill with them at their pad. Doesn't matter to me. In years past, I was the guy she came to see right after clubbing and partying with her friends, on somebody else's dollar. These days I don't even take her past 12 or 1am, as I want to be able to get good sleep, so she accomodates me whenever I give her a chance to see me. Lately she comes see me before going out.
On Saturday afternoon, she sends me the following text:
"Hi... Hey i need a favor....my best friends mom just died... being three weeks of from work i have no money to help out....would u be able to help me..."
Was busy, so I didn't have time to think about how to respond to her that I wasn't going to be able to contribute. Right now I couldn't even if I wanted to, but this was more out of principle and what I thought was innapropiate for two people with the type of relationship we have. We are not good friends. Just casual friends. She's the perfect definition of a plate. Recently she was telling me about her stressing some over finances. But for now, I give her the benefit of the doubt, and pretend her situations is real.
On Sunday afternoon, before I had decided how to tell her I couldn't help her, she sends me another text:
"That sucks--i know ur not my man....but after so many yrs of knowing each other i thought i could count on u a lil in moments like this...what a shame inst it.."
She's known me, but she knows we are not close friends at all. She's a plate, an FB. She visits me for her own selfish needs. That's it. Now, at no point does she even consider that I might not be in a position to contribute (although not the point here), so I responded, as I thought she was pissed I didn't respond at all
Me:
"Where you trying to make me feel guitly? If so, you are talking to the wrong person. I find this second text from you totally unfai and innapropiate. For requests like that, you'd do better if you call people, not text them. You seem more upset that I didn't give you the response you wanted, than at my delayed response."
I was calling her out on her manipulating, trying to make me feel guilty, lame attempt.
She responds with more of the same trying to turn it around and make me feel guilty type of move. It is not registering that it was totally inappropiate of a request, in my opinion, and tacky. She sees nothing wrong and shows more of her true colors:
"Fyi this people is like fam to me... I am having a collection for them - n to b honest u were the first person i send a text to- not hearing back from u was rude awakeing thatu r only there for sex- n NOTHING MORE- it sadden me yesterday....n pist me off today... Yes i do enjoy our time- but so do you...some $50 would not kill u... its cool- enjoy..... Happy new yr.."
I see her working it. She DOES NOT know how much money I have or don't have. She decided I could part with that amount and if not, I was the a$$hole.
Of all people in her life, the guy who she really hadn't had any contact with in the past 3 years, besides 2-3 booty calls, is the first one she thought of. Not the afc orbiters that are her "friends", not her girlfriends sge goes out clubbing with, not any of her relatives. No, it was me. I live in a much nice part of my area, and have some nice things in my house, so she must think I do have the money. That part is irrelevant, though.
Now, her attitude and approach totally killed any chance of me wanting to help her out. She texted me, not phoned me. She could have called me, explain, and been appreciative and stated the amount. Then I would at least exercise some judgent, consider, and perhaps work something out. Instead, she has this entitlement attitude, and she turned it around and try to make me seem like the bad guy.
Initially I thought it was not a good idea to give her money. Now I am glad she proved why I shouldn't. A different approach would have gotten her further. I didn't even want to engage her. I was going to call her and put her in place, but she either doesn't see it or get it, or just didn't want to and acted up because she didn't get anything from me. If she asks to come over, I will tell her what I think in person, then either put her on probation or cut her off my team.
Any thoughts, observations, suggestions, similar experiences you guys have encountered with women, specially "Plates" or FB's wanting money from you? Please share.
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