Ok so this is something i kind of have trouble with. I'm usually always the funny quirky guy cuz that's my personality. However i think that because of this girls see me of lower value because i tend to see the humor in things, even confrontation. I'm not really one to start sh!t with others, and when sh!t comes along i tend to make a joke out of it. Anyway, what are things i could say or do to demonstrate higher value that don't make me come off as an a**hole? I say this because people know i'm not an a**hole and acting like one isn't going to help anything.
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I say the best way to demonstrate higher value is stand with your beliefs, don't take crap from a woman and be serious when the situation calls for it. But i think high value people don't care for being high value. They just do what they please even if people criticize them about it for subjective reasons.Biggie said:
I can relate to this...i use to giggle about everything but when things were serious, i got sh1t for it...even when i tried to not laugh and found the situation serious, it was more or less a nervous habit of mine at times.
You can be as funny as you want, It doesn't have anything to do with your value. The key is to make sure your funny because you want to be, NOT for attention or approval.
As for establishing value, I recommend taking the long route instead of figuring out ways to establish social proof quick from a few lines. Focus on your career or something you like and become the BEST at it. You'll see your confidence start growing naturally. When you work on your inner game, everything else gets better unconsciously.
And also, make sure your not laughing or smiling ALL the time. There's nothing wrong with being a comedian, but if your always smiling you'll come off as a goof. Smiling constantly is a bad characteristic, often done for approval or to show that your non-threatening. I e; you'll notice how alot of guys when they're talking online say "lol" like 5,000 times during a 10 minute conversation.
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As for establishing value, I recommend taking the long route instead of figuring out ways to establish social proof quick from a few lines. Focus on your career or something you like and become the BEST at it. You'll see your confidence start growing naturally. When you work on your inner game, everything else gets better unconsciously.
And also, make sure your not laughing or smiling ALL the time. There's nothing wrong with being a comedian, but if your always smiling you'll come off as a goof. Smiling constantly is a bad characteristic, often done for approval or to show that your non-threatening. I e; you'll notice how alot of guys when they're talking online say "lol" like 5,000 times during a 10 minute conversation.
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There's nothing wrong with being as funny as you want. The key thing to remember is that you have to be funny because you want to be funny, not for approval or attention
To demonstrate value, you need to have value. There are alot of ways to create social proof. Be accompanied with other girls, Show Alpha male characteristics, etc etc. You should also focus on something outside of girls like your career and work to be the BEST possible. If your really doing something in your life, you'll see that confidence will naturally grow within you. Inner Game Breeds Alpha Male Mentality.
Lastly, one thing you should be aware of is smiling/ laughing to often. Alot of guys do this because they want approval or to show that they are non-threatening. This is why guys sometimes say "lol" 5,000 times during a 10 minute online conversation.
To demonstrate value, you need to have value. There are alot of ways to create social proof. Be accompanied with other girls, Show Alpha male characteristics, etc etc. You should also focus on something outside of girls like your career and work to be the BEST possible. If your really doing something in your life, you'll see that confidence will naturally grow within you. Inner Game Breeds Alpha Male Mentality.
Lastly, one thing you should be aware of is smiling/ laughing to often. Alot of guys do this because they want approval or to show that they are non-threatening. This is why guys sometimes say "lol" 5,000 times during a 10 minute online conversation.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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Here's the thing, there are guys focusing on stuff outside of girls all the time, still having a lot going for them but still suck with women. Also, no need to be accompanied by other girls. Sure it helps but its not needed. Going to up to girls in itself will give you social proof, especially if they respond well and her friends do. I'd say the only alpha male characteristics that are necessary is just doing things on your terms and not caring how others perceive you THAT much(Within reason). You can be goofy and easy going but still be an "alpha male" which i think is an outdated term in itself.