"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Edit: screw this place.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Tazman

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My only response has been to approve her friend request.
Why? For more of the same nonsense?
I don't know why she won't let it die already.
YOU won't let it die. You keep hanging on believing that you'll get your chance and she makes you look like a fool every time. Even if you run into her in public, you don't owe her anything and you're not obligated to have a conversation with her. You can be polite, say hi and leave it at that. No more calls, no more hanging out, etc. Unless you like being toyed with and made to look like a desperate chump who has no other options but constant teasing from a girl who has you wrapped around her little pinky.
 

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Yeah, **** it. I kinda figured this wasn't the right place to ask. I get someone with a bent **** telling me how I feel. Forget it.
 

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nah man i know exactly where your comin from but with me.. I catch on slightly quick... lol not super fast but you know... if I spend a week with a girl and she dosnt want to **** me... I ditch her.... nothing personal but after a week she isnt giving it up... saying she did already give it up I basicly figure she is just trying to eather get money from you or stroke her ego... eather way I wouldnt wana be somones tampon.
 

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Yeah, **** it. I kinda figured this wasn't the right place to ask. I get someone with a bent **** telling me how I feel. Forget it.
Ouch!!! What would you like to hear, that she's just playing hard-to-get and she really wants you and you're almost there? Why can't you direct your anger towards this girl who is playing you instead of at someone who's honestly trying to help you? I'm not telling you how you feel, you obviously can't take hearing the truth.

You know, I missed several opportunites because of my insecurities, but these women actually "wanted" to go all the way, I wasn't being teased to death and used for attention.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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