"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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deleting posts~~flame wars

Nocturnal

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first my suggestion, I propose that anyone caught flaming should be banned for 1 or 2 or 3 etc days. This way the thread can stay (and hopefully there will be no more flaming) and the flamer realizes if the gets out of line again he will be blocked again. I seriously think this could effectively elminate 80+% of the flaming going on that everyone hates so much (yet engages in themselves, that might be the only problem with this, so many people throw in an occasional flame here and there). of course, there would probably be a lot of banning at first, but i think once people started to realize that their childish insult is not worth the loss of a day or two at sosuave :D, they will get their acts together.

there was a post in the HS forum (i think it was something like "[discuss.me] Jewelry" or something, and i can't find it so i'm assuming it was deleted.

could you explain the criteria for deleting something? Yes there was a little flame war but it wasn't as extreme as others have been (which are still there, even if locked), and I feel that myself as well as some other people had some positive input. I was actually going to go find a mini-speech I wrote in there and post it in another thread discussing what I had talked about, but it has disappeared.

are there really any other options?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Demon

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Just remember folks... when you flame someone, you're really flaming yourself. Don't we have another term besides "flame"? Nocturnal says bad things about me so does that make him a flamer? ;)
 

Unbridled_1

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If there was no flaming, Demon would have nothing to post about, and we all live for Demon's posts.
 

flava

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damn didnt you guys know the term "flaming" has been changed to Demon. come on guys keep up with the changes.
 

Demon

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Intellectuals debate with or against me. Idiots are just against me. Eventually, I can just toot the pipe and lead the rats ride out of here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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