"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Deleting numbers... how long do YOU wait

slitherjef

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So I deleted yet another number from my phone tonight, the last girls number anyway from my other store. Figured why the hell have it in my phone taunting me anyway, this chick never texted me or called me and I had only a brief amount of talking to her on the phone anyway and that did not work. So I deleted it from my contact list. Had 2 dates, got shot down the next two times I attempted date 3 so the hell with it.

So, I was just curious how long do you usualy hang onto a number?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It's time to delete the # when you call her and she says you have the wrong number.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Microphone Fiend

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I keep em in my phone as a reminder. Out of sight = out of mind so regardless of whether she is in my phone or not I could care less. When Im scrolling through my phone it gives me a laugh about a situation that didnt work out or a chick that missed her chance. It's kinda like avoiding chicks after they reject you: whats the point? Then you are a loser that has to go out of his way to appear normal.
 

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I wait until they blow me off twice or don't answer their phone twice. Then I say NEXT! Its more like a two strike rule rather than three.
 

War Against Betaism

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If I need to clear some space for new numbers. There's really no harm in keeping a number you got, like if one day you're bored, and there's a girl that you haven't talked to in a couple months, just have a normal friendly conversation. It's not like you need to strike up a date for every girl you call. Sometimes you will get a date.
 

Lust

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I can't remember who posted it, but there was a decent article about a text "D-day".

Where all the numbers in your phone that you don't often use, the girls that seem disinterested now. Send 1 last text. The same thing, sent to 20-30 girls.

If then respond great, if they don't stick them in a Microsoft Excel Spread sheet and delete it from your phone.

If they do call for some reason, you can at least answer with "Who's this?" and mean it.
 

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If I had not received any contact from her in two weeks she's out of my phone. Like Lust, though, I keep the numbers on a file on my computer, mostly as a collection.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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slitherjef

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I still have the last girls number wrote on a peice of paper and shoved into a drawer. I still have that hot moms number too laying around some place
 

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I don't have very lenient standards for when to keep a number in my phone.

If a girl ever plays the "too busy" card without offering to reschedule, it's time to delete.

If a girl doesn't return my phone call, I'll keep the number in my phone a couple weeks or so to see if she'll initiate some kind of contact. If she does, I'll try again. But if for any reason the second attempt doesn't yield a date, the number is GONE. Kinda like Gray Fox's two-strikes thing.

For me, the whole "keeping a number as memorabilia" thing doesn't work out too well, because each time I see the number it'll remind me of the rejection. I find it better to just make a clean break with it.
 

Interceptor

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It doesn't eally matter.

My general rule is I don't burn bridges.
And once a woman doesn't reciprocate attraction or interest I no longer pay attention to them.
I have a woman's number in my phone right now who flaked once.
I never called her again.
Ask me if I 've called her.
can I delete it right now and not even care?
Yes, of course.
But like I said, I always keep my "options" open.
I strive to be in Win/Win situations, and strive to never END anything on a 'bad note."


I don't need to delete anything. I am not needy or desperate,so to me, I couldn't care if the number is there or not.
I wonder if the lack of options is seriously affecting the minds of our fellow men on here. I think if you NEED to delete a number, you act out of desperation and lack of options and will give in and call her again.
Don't be like that, guys. Just saying

I have the discipline to just not give in.
I don't pay attention to nor give special behavior to a woman who does not reciprocate.
If I see her in public I am always a gentleman and am polite and courteous. But I don't go around asking and pleading , begging for her attention, man.
No way...
You gotta be nuts if you think I'm going to be chasing some woman who flakes on me or doesn't return my calls.

Never go looking for validation form a woman. She will rarely give it to you, and if she does, she will probably end up resenting you for it in the end. Don't place that responsibiltiy on her.
It's your responsibility.

Never move upon a woman in fear, scarcity mindest, lack of options mentality,need of constant reassurance, need for validation, desperate for female attentaion.............
Never never ever ever.

The more you NEED from a woman, and act as a "TAKER", the less she will GIVE TO YOU, and THE FASTER SHE WILL RUN AWAY FROM YOU.
 

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I never delete my numbers. Isn't it priceless when you hand your phone to a women and she goes through your phone book only to notice that you have 100 numbers and about 80 of them are women. That's priceless. It shows you are pre-selected and you'll notice she will work a lot harder to get your attention. ;)
 
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