"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Deleted my dating profiles, modified my FB.

Warrior74

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About twice a week I get messages from okcupid, plentyoffish and match.com informing me of a new match or message. 90% of the time is some woman I wouldn't be caught dead with even in a Rob Ford drunken stupor.

It's annoying and I don't plan on putting in any work into online dating so it has to go.

As for FB. I manage two of my websites social media accounts. I decided to start using a social media management tool (hootsuite), to set up an automatic drip of posts and updates to my FB and twitter accounts. This way I only have to respond to people contacting me on my business pages and retweets.

I deleted or blocked all non-business people and non-family from my account. I kept a few friends who I actually use FB to talk to. I filled up my page with either important people I want to follow or services, information and news outlets that cater to my interests. Boom no more BS posts to worry about.

It feels better to have more control over my social media usage. If you can delete facebook, do it, for me it's part of a revenue stream so I won't abandon it, I'll moderate it.

From now on if chics ask if I have a facebook page the answer will be no.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Desdinova

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I've found FB to actually be a very useful tool with regard to dating. When I add a new woman to FB, she will spend HOURS going through my funny pictures and witty status updates. In my social circles, people will actually DISCUSS my latest pictures or status updates.

FB is really what you make it. If you use it to play games or whine about life, then don't expect any dates out of it. If you use it as a portrayal of your fantastic personality, you'll get chicks climbing all over you once you switch your relationship status to "single"
 

SecondHalf

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I have to agree with Warrior.
There are very few broken men who spill their guts to the forums that don't use a woman's facebook usage as a major complaint.
I see Destinova's point, but in my experience, a facebook hoe is ... just a hoe.
The only social media I use is LinkedIn and that because of it's business benefits, but no others.

My biggest irk with facebook, is that it is not a product, you are the product. Sooooooo much information available to the public, corporations. My second biggest irk is that it encourages narcissism at such a grand scale.

Bubbleheads (that would be most women) believe they have endless options because of the online attention they get.

SH
 

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I agree. I've been asked "so what's your Facebook?" and when I say "I don't use Facebook" the stares of a dead-eyed, blank girl still makes my chuckle to this day.
 

Desdinova

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I honestly think my game would suffer without my FB. I used it yesterday to put my plate's hamster through the spin cycle. I wrote the following on FB: "Sometimes I think I'm too picky, and then I remember that it's worth being picky in the long run." Now think of how that's going to affect someone you're dating. Then to make it worse, I get friends commenting on it as if I were talking about dating.

My date sends me a PM, asking "what are you picky about?" I let it sit with her for a couple of hours. Then I message her back with "The music I've been recording". Sure it's torture, but stuff like this gets women crazy about me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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