Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
True although I wouldn't say it has killed pickup I would say it has made it HARDER.These social networking sites have killed pickup. Women are going out to the bars with more guy friends than ever; walking around with their face buried in their phone, updating their status every 10 minutes for additional attention. Facebook has turned regular everyday girls into wannabe socialites who think they're gonna be the next Kim Kardashian.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I believe the politically correct term is "flaming homo gay".Zunder said:I proudly dumped one large smelly turd on my Fcebook account some 6 or 7 months ago. I miss it NOT ONE IOTA.
Facebook is GAY.
Good for you and how long did it take you? How much time did you waste on Facebook in order to get a couple of lays? Months?thebrownman said:I wouldn't delete mine. Ever since I started practicing game(cuz I still suck compared to some DJ's here) I've sexed up a few girls that LJBF'd me in HS. Man was it sweet victory. I do hate that people cry and put their private information there and then complain about it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
its been my observation as well on campus..they will have their stupid headphones on and heads facing downward on the phone screenAlex DeLarge said:It's so pathetic when I'm on campus and I see a dude or a girl walking around looking at facebook or some other stupid robot thing on their phone rather than recognizing their actual life that is passing them by each second they waste on there. It's like they're completely disengaged from real life.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.