"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Another win because I deleted my Facebook.

HB: Do you have a Facebook?
Me: Nope, you will just have to give me your number:
HB: Gives number.
:rockon:

So easy. I still have no regrets about dropping my Facebook. Not to mention I have freed up a lot of time I would have otherwise spent on Facebook. Dropped another 10 lbs at the gym too..

If you are on the fence about Facebook, you should try disabling it for an entire week and see how you feel, it is not deleted until 14 days have passed with it disabled. The longer I go without social networking, the more success I am finding in my life. I can't explain it but it sure works.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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90% of my dates during the past 2 years started with Facebook. I definitely have no intention of deleting it.

Facebook is only a problem if you're addicted to it and generally wasting time on there with chat and games. I just use it to send emails.
 

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Well I did tend to mess around too much on facebook. For me every date I attempted to pull from facebook was a failure. Glad you have success on there, but many are like me and I suppose this advice would be geared more toward the one who jerks around too much on Facebook lol
 

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Ah, I see your point then. :) My problem is youtube. I start off watching one video, then start following the recommended vids and before I know it 10 hours have passed. Well, not quite, but too long for sure.
 

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"I start off watching one video, then start following the recommended vids and before I know it 10 hours have passed"

I call that falling into the ******* of youtube...:)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I got rid of my Facebook recently too, never looked back. I must admit, I never used it to get dates with girls. Fair play if you do, but I never really used it for that kind of thing.
I just got bored of the same rubbish people talk about on there day after day, so I got rid. Now I've got a lot of free time, and when I go on my laptop, I find myself just getting on with my work and not checking up on dumb notifications. People say to me, "but dude, Facebook is a great way to get involved with upcoming events"... Nah, that's what phones are for.
There was actually a survey recently in the UK... One in five Britons would rather use Facebook to get in touch with their friends/family than simply pick up the phone... How bad is that.
 

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I've deleted mine in the past, but it's the only way I can communicate with certain people. Especially when it's related to university, it's much too useful at this point.

Also, if I tell a girl that I don't want I don't have Facebook, I'd have to give her my number. Basically, I choose the girls I want to give my number to.
 

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Been FB free for about 2 months now and loving it. So much less drama, and I don't have to read all that feminist garbage everyday. I love getting asked about it now and seeing people's reactions when I tell them "I don't have one." People actually have to hit me up to know what's going on in my life. I get a lot more "I miss you!" texts etc, simply because none of my plates really know what's going on in my life except for what I want them to know. It's great.

-Scars
 

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I just deactivated my account there. It is the biggest waste of time ever in my opinion. I was thinking about it for a while, but this thread has just spurred me on to delete it
 

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I still have one primarily for networking reasons as a musician. Other than that, I rarely go on there anymore. I deleted mine before for about a month, but my schedule was getting all screwed up and I was forgetting about gigs until last minute.

Other than this, facebook is completely useless to me. It's just a ton of overly-dramatized garbage, as well as over-analysis. (IE: WHO ARE THOSE GIRLS WRITING ON YOUR WALL ARE YOU SLEEPING WITH THEM?!) **** gets annoying after a while lol..

It's so pathetic when I'm on campus and I see a dude or a girl walking around looking at facebook or some other stupid robot thing on their phone rather than recognizing their actual life that is passing them by each second they waste on there. It's like they're completely disengaged from real life.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Deleted mine 7 months ago.. no skin off my back.
 

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Jariel said:
90% of my dates during the past 2 years started with Facebook. I definitely have no intention of deleting it.

Facebook is only a problem if you're addicted to it and generally wasting time on there with chat and games. I just use it to send emails.
yes better looking men will be well served by facebook cause women love pretty pics of pretty dudes.. but if you are not that good looking facebook will hurt you big time.. cause females love approval form other females off their mates and if her friends say you are ugly you are done..
 

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It's funny I have to say I agreed with you. there is this girl from the past who would say she wanted to do things but would never give her number out. Saying she would send it on facebook. I totally agree with this idea. Only problem what about the people you don't see anymore.
 

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souperblitz99 said:
It's funny I have to say I agreed with you. there is this girl from the past who would say she wanted to do things but would never give her number out. Saying she would send it on facebook. I totally agree with this idea. Only problem what about the people you don't see anymore.
If you don't have their phone number or vice versa they aren't very important to you, why waste time with the inconsequential.
 

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I see the people I want to see, and if they want to see me they have to actually contact me.

I gave my number out on FB and said give me your number if you want to keep in contact, then I deleted it.

Like goons stated.. "why waste time with the inconsequential"
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I have no intention of getting rid facebook. I never actually had a woman yet give me fb info over there number. Generally i when woman ask me for fb info is after we screwed or she a coworker. I also never made attempt to pull woman off there either im good with my words so i prefer to talk than type. also my typing grammer generally horrendous.
 

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I just deactivated mine. The thing just seems like a time sink. If I want to talk to someone I'll call them on the phone.
 

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Attention *****s use Facebook and Twitter. If there is no benefits to you I suggest you to delete it. The time I don't use spending on Facebook and Twitter I go out and talk to girls knowing there is no backup plan. I'm not going to see her on facebook and use it as a crutch. Also when I'm on the computer I'm either looking for jobs, shopping because I got paid and chopping up game with the players on the net (trying to help other people as well as trying to improve myself).

People use facebook and twitter as a crutch seriously. I ask girls out the old fashioned way. Meet them in public. Get the number first time I see them. Chop it up with them then ask them to hang out. No exceptions.... no change in the game. I tryed POF for giggles but those girls need some therapy.

I tell you guys to delete your facebook and twitter for a month and see how much more you can accomplish with your life. It is definately a lifechanger. Plus it's always a plus to be a mystery.
 

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No one's saying you have to use facebook to network with women. I have about 50 friends on there, and they are family members that I don't see all the time, friends that I don't see often because we're both busy, or talking to my bandmates about the next week's rehearsal late at night when it's too late to talk on the phone.

You don't have to overuse it. It isn't facebook that's the problem, it's how you use it. Personally no new girl gets my facebook unless I'm dating her, not just some random chick I met. That's what a number is for.
 

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These social networking sites have killed pickup. Women are going out to the bars with more guy friends than ever; walking around with their face buried in their phone, updating their status every 10 minutes for additional attention. Facebook has turned regular everyday girls into wannabe socialites who think they're gonna be the next Kim Kardashian.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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