Deicide's FR Journal

[Deicide]

Today
I was in the rec center running when I noticed an HB 7 Petite Blonde stretching. Then, she started to run. I was doing sit-ups by the track, then I got up and approached her. I said "Hey, you sure did stretch for a long time just to run". She said that she does do that, and I told her I don't have to do things that much just to run. We talked for a few more seconds and then she left. If I knew I had my AA task to do at this time, I would've followed her out and tried to number close, but I let her go on her busy way.
HB 6 Blonde Sorority
I decided to go in the studio area at the rec center to do some push-ups with freeweights. I saw her doing ab work, and I said "Hey, we do some of the same positions you do in my abs class". She was interested in this, and we ended up talking about her going to a party the night before. I let her slip away with no number close, but this AA challenge should motivate me for tomorrow.
I called HB 7 Korean Petite to plan a date but she didn't answer. I saw her around and we talked for a little bit but decided we would talk later about date plans for the week. She hugged me, and I went in to kiss her on the lips and she gave me resistance, then I kissed her on the cheek. I don't know why these girls are giving me so much resistance.
I called HB 7 Taiwanese Smoker to plan a date, but she didn't answer and she hasn't called me back. I definitely need a number or two this week.

 

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Monday
All my information about Monday is in the Gladiators Approach Anxiety Thread.
I approached an HB 7 Middle Eastern Girl and choked because I was thinking about the anxieities of number closing.
I approached an HB 7/8 with the opener "Hey, I like your tan, but you must be a high maintenance girl with a tan like that", and it wa a good approach but she didn't give me her number.
I approached an HB 7 Brunette with the opener "Hey, you look like you're bored waiting for class", and it was a good approach, but she said her boyfriend probably wouldn't like it. I said "Let's exchange numbers and we'll talk some other time" to attempt to close.

 

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Tuesday
I saw an HB 7 Black girl in the gameroom and I told her "You look like you're about to fall asleep". I teased her about doing that and I talked with her friend a little bit too about the HB dragging her friend everywhere. It turned out this girl lives near my hometown and knows my sister! Wow, I didn't see that coming. But, we exchanged names, and she may be a summertime prospect when I'm away from college. I saw an HB 7 Redhead in my cycling class and since she was texting during our cycling class(haha), I told her "Hey, you couldn't stay off your phone on your bike" and she laughed about it and said she was doing important schoolwork on it. She left fast.
HB 7 Taiwanese Smoker told me she was busy this week, but that we can try to go out again next week. I'll see, I'm not liking this busy talk. All I ask these girls is to meet me once a week, it's not that hard.

 

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Wednesday
I saw an HB 6 Mature Blonde outside of class and I approached her with the "Hey, I've seen you around" opener, which isn't a good one, but my anxieites are quite high in the morning time. I teased her about her not being able to do or like her radio work. We exchanged names, but I don't even know if I want to number close her. haha
I saw HB 7 Asian American in the cafeteria and I talked with her briefly and rushed(it was my nerves and impatience) to say "Let's exchange numbers and we'll talk again sometime", and she said she didn't have her phone with her. This is uncertainty, but potential rejection.
I saw HB 7 Latina hanging outside her class and said "You look like youve been working out or you dragged your clothes out of the closet". I teased her about being lazy and not working out and I said "Do you want to go out with me? and she said she had a boyfriend.

 

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Thursday
I saw HB 7 Korean Petite and she acted like she was too busy to go out with me. She may be silently rejecting me. If that is the case, I need to let her know if we don't go out next week, we're finished. I'm more interested in her than she is in me and I think she knows that.
Which is why I got a number from another Korean girl(HB 7 Korean) today. Yes, I broke my own social circle rule, but I need numbers! I had talked to her a couple times(I mentioned her being a petite Korean that I approached while walking to class) I hadn't seen her in a month. I just talked about general things to begin with because I was out of breath after having done my power clean sets. I teased her about her not doing anything but studying and her nail colors not matching. I said "Do you want to meet again and hang out sometime?", and she said she was busy with stuff but I got her number anyways.
I saw HB 6 Chinese in the fitness center and she was smiling and happy to see me. We agreed to exchange numbers after her yoga class. But, she was on the phone with her boyfriend speaking in Chinese with him, and I decided not to waste my time since she has a bf. Pretty girl, but there are others out there.
I saw an HB 7 Asian American girl as I was walking out of the Fitness Center. I told her I thought I had seen around before and I teased about her not knowing what she wants to do with her life while taking such hard classes. We exchanged names, but went in separate directions.

 

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Thursday Evening
I went to a black fraternity party.
I approached HB 7 Cute Thick Black who I met at the previous black fraternity party. I teased her about her shirt and her name, and later on, she approached me to join in on a dance, so this wasn't so bad.
HB 7 Curly I approached her and teased her about wearing formal clothes to a party and she was laughing hard. Later on, I approached her to dance and she seemed pissed and told me "Leave me alone". She told one of the frat bros on me and he just came up to me and said that everything was cool, and she was his cousin. This confused me and upset me. I've never had anyone complain over me approaching, and the first approach was good! I guess alcohol does some crazy stuff to people.
HB 7 Tall Black I approached her and teased her about wearing heels to a party and I hinted at her being clumsy. My neg didn't work, but it's all about experience.
HB 6 Thick Black I told her "Hey, I like your shirt, it's almost my favorite color" and she said thanks. haha We ended up talking about staying uo late, and I teased her about her wanting to leave at a late time and saying it was early. She was laughing, and a friend of the girl below, so it's always nice to get to know the friends. haha
HB 7 Black Colored Hair I approached her and said that I liked her hair, and I asked her if she did it herself. I ended up teasing about her having no social life during the week and how she would be drunk soon, and she loved it! She was laughing hard at a lot of things I said. She ended up asking me some questions and we got on the subject of French, and I picked up on a phrase or two quickly and she gave me a high five and liked it. We ended up talking for a while until a certain group dance song came on and she went out on the floor. Later on, during a bass-heavy song(Juvenile's Back that Thang Up" haha), I went out on the dance floor and started dancing from behind on her with my hips touching hers. I got close to her and told her "I know you like it". When I saw she was about to leave I approached her and she hugged me. I told her "Lets'..." and she gave me her name and number, though it was hard hearing with all the music. So, I got one number through a cold approach today.

 

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Friday
After class, I sawe a cute HB 7 Brunette with glasses walking by. I said "Hey, I think I've seen you around. I like your glasses but you must not see too well without them. Then we talked about what classes we just had, Latin and Spanish, and we exchanged names as she was walking out the door(The approach happened down the steps as we were leaving for opposite directions).
Sunday
I was lifting weights when I saw a mature woman. As she finished working out I said "Hey, I like your hair, it's dyed like mine". She immediately started laughing and I asked her if she had done it herself and I told her that I'm a man, it's not my job to do that, She laughed again, but she left without exchanging names with me.
Monday
I approached an HB 7 Latina and completed my AA task for the week. I exchanged names with her. It was my first direct opener ever! I said "Hey, you look cute and you might be interesting to talk to." She looked surprised and said thanks and we talked about Spanish among other things.
I also saw HB 7 Taiwanese Petite in the hallway after not seeing her for 2 weeks. She remembered me, and I teased her about her accent and her lower level English class. We talked about Spring Break and what we were doing for it, and I got her phone number.
Today
I did a cold approach at the library in the morning after not having talked with anyone all day, which is a little crazy. I saw this decent looking black girl sitting down and I said "Hey, I thought you looked cute, and that you might be an interesting person to talk to". She immediately said "I have a boyfriend". Direct approaching is good, but unless I'm following someone or changing my complete path to talk to a girl, it may be best to use indirect, I'm not sure.

 

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On Sunday night, I made my calls. Everyone was either busy or said they would try to schedule something later.
I did talk to HB 7 Korean Petite on the phone and we're going to meet tomorrow for dinner at the cafeteria. Apparently, she has something to tell me, which is making me nervous. It could be 3 things I think: 1.She wants a relationship 2. She wants to stop dating me 3. She knows about me talking with other women(I did get a phone number last week from another Korean!). I don't know, I'll see what happens tomorrow. I guess it could be all 3. lol

 

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HB 7 Korean Petite
The Korean girl found out about me getting a phone number from another Korean and she told me she had a boyfriend in Korea. We're finished.

HB 5 Black
I actually met a decent looking black women yesterday by doing a dorm St. Patrick's Day activity. I just approached her with "Hey, you look like you've just got out of class", and I didn't even have to neg or anything. I just had general conversation and upon exchanging names, she hugged me.

HB 6 Blonde
Today, I saw a girl wearing fitness clothes in the computer lab, and I said "Hey, you look like you've been working out." and she said she was going to do that later but wasn't interested in talking with me.

HB 7 Middle Eastern Aero
I was at the Food Court looking for something to eat when I saw an HB 7 Middle Eastern girl. I told her "Hey, I like your jacket, it's almost my favorite color". Then we started talking about being tired of the cafeteria and being ready for Spring Break, and she left and I didn't get her name. After a comedy activity at my dorm, I saw an HB 7 Black Glasses girl and I approached her with "Hey, you look like you're hanging around here?", and she said no, she lives here. I then asked her why she didn't get up and perform and she said she didn't think she was funny(I missed out on a neg opportunity), then we talked about spring break and I tried to tease her about her telling me the wrong place, and I was wrong. She didn't seem interested. It is better to approach and fail than to not approach at all. But I have to get out of this fear of approaching in front of a number of people, it's tearing my game apart. If I can approach girls and tell them they are cute and that they look high maintenance, I can do good things with pick up. I just have to get out of this inner nice guy slump the past couple days. I think I'm worried about getting a bad reputation as a guy that hits on women a lot here, and it's affecting my game. I just have to not give a f*ck once again because I was on last week!

 

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Yeah, I'll go in and re-edit some stuff. Probably tomorrow.

 

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I did some approaches on my Spring Break vacation in Gatlinburg, TN. I went with my parents and my sister, so I was limited to approaching time and not having my own car or room to do things in or with.
Sunday
HB 6 Black
I saw her working at Cracker Barrel in Nashville and I told her "Hey, I like your hair, did you fix it yourself?", then she said that she did, and I explained how I had done my hair. Apparently she had said something about my Cowboys jersey on my way in and I hadn't heard who said it. She was nice and we talked about school, people that she knew at my college, her living and work situation, and I had to leave because of my family and she was busy with work so I didn't number close.

HB 5 Hispanic
I saw her at a convenience store in Sevierville and I was nervous about approaching her, but I did. I said "Hey, do you speak Spanish?", and she said that she did ut she didn't know English. I talked to her briefly but she was in line for food, so we didn't speak much and I don't know what she thought of me.

HB 6 Guatemalan
She was working at a restaraunt in Sevierville giving out sweets. I saw her and I was looking for sweets too. I was nervous for this approach.
Me: Hey, do you speak Spanish?
Her: Yes, do you speak it?
Me: Yes, I learned to speak it at college and it is my major. Where are you from?
Her: Guatemala.
MeBeing nervous and thinking she said Guadalajara). Oh, is that close to San Diego?
Her: No, it's close to Mexico.
Me: Oh yeah, close to Honduras and Nicaragua. I did take a Geography class too!
Then we got into talking about her family, and I teased her about her kids probably not having an accent like she has.
Her: Laughs, then she had a customer.
Then I went to see her one last time before i left with my family, and she said she was staying in Sevierville. So I was looking for someone to meet with in Gatlinburg. No number close.

HB 7 Brunette
She was my waitress at a restaraunt in Gatlinburg.
She had forgot something and messed up and I came in with perfect timing and said "Hey, have you been working all day long?" and she laughed and was saying that she felt like it. My Dad told me to quit macking on her until we got done with our meal. haha I approached her and talked with her for a bit and asked "Can we exchange numbers and meet again tomorrow or Tuesday?" and she told me she was married.

HB 6 Brunette
The dialogue between me and her is in the Gladiators Thread. I just said Hey with a smile as I was passing by and trying to approach wasn't even on my mind at the time. I ended up making her interested in me over me playing Ms. Pac Man of all things, though due to her college and work schedule, we never could get together.

 

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Monday(Last week on vacation) Yes, I've been lazy about my field report, but not my field work.
My family woke me up to go eat breakfast. I just had on some Nike shorts, a Testament shirt(80's Thrash Metal band), and I hadn't shaved or brushed my teeth. I saw a cute HB 7 Mature Brunette and she was sitting with her kids. We know what happens next.
HB 7 Mature Brunette
Me: Hey
Her: *Surprised look* Hey.
Me: You look like you just got out of bed. *Smiles*
Her: No, I didn't just put on my clothes.
Me: Are you staying here for the next couple days?
Her: No, I'm leaving today.
Then I ejected.

When me and my family were about to take the elevator, she decided to take the stairs. LOL I know I creeped her out, but that was funny.

HB 7 Redhead Glasses
I approached her sitting on a bench in public and said I liked her her hair and I asked if she fixed it herself, and she said yes. And then she got up and left.

HB 7 Latina Mature

I approached her by speaking Spanish with her, I told her "You speak Spanish well" in Spanish, and we had a long conversation of a lot of subjects and her daughter translated between us. She had a husband.

HB 7 Mature Dyed
I saw her at a museum and commented on her hair and We talked briefly about where we lived and what I was doing there on vacation. No number close, I was with my parents and she was with her kid.

 

[neghitzbrah]

Hey Deicide, you're really handling the cold approaching well. Doesn't seem like anything holds you back anymore. I wanna make a suggestion for the next few approaches. You've been doing this more than a few times and it looks like you have more success with it. Instead of opening with a comment about their hair or how they look, ask for their opinion on something. The more sophisticated/detailed it is, the better. This way you will get them to think about something you said.

I once used the line "Can I ask you ladies a question? Do I look gay to you?" Got positive feedback and hooks and worked 100% of the time. I suggest you try it out, at least for a little while. Not that line though... I was at a bar haha

 

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Tuesday(Last week on vacation)
HB 7 Korean
I saw her in line at a buffet and I said "Hey, what languages do you speak?". She said she was a born American but that she could understand Korean but not speak it. I teased her about being too lazy to learn Korean. We talked about her location and where she was staying. She gave me some bait with "I bet you thought you could speak Japanese with me?" and I went too in-depth on an answer. She wasn't interested as she went to get her food after a minute of conversation.

HB 7 Mature Brunette
I saw her at a purse store and said "Hey, you look like you've been working out" She said No, she was just wearing those clothes and I teased her about not working out. We talked briefly about our trips, and I had to go because of my family. She was with her kids, no number close.

HB 7 Latina
I went into McDonald's and saw her while I was getting my drink. I asked her if she spoke Spanish and she couldn't believe I could. She was laughing and was into our conversation and introduced her name first and asked for my name. Unfortunately, she wasn't staying in my tourist town so I didn't number close.

HB 7 Thai
I saw her working at an arcade and at first I just had to get through basic ordering info, thne I teased her about her accent and talked about where she's from, language, why she's here, our friends, etc... I got her number, but it was about useless since it was our last night there.

 

[Deicide]

Hey Deicide, you're really handling the cold approaching well. Doesn't seem like anything holds you back anymore. I wanna make a suggestion for the next few approaches. You've been doing this more than a few times and it looks like you have more success with it. Instead of opening with a comment about their hair or how they look, ask for their opinion on something. The more sophisticated/detailed it is, the better. This way you will get them to think about something you said.

I once used the line "Can I ask you ladies a question? Do I look gay to you?" Got positive feedback and hooks and worked 100% of the time. I suggest you try it out, at least for a little while. Not that line though... I was at a bar haha

Cool, thanks for the advice. I have AA just everyone else. I still think I hesitate too much and I'm a little afraid of doing 2-3 set approaches, so I'm not that great at all. "Does heavy metal attract women?" LOL I should do that wearing my Testament or Cradle of Filth shirt just for fun sometime. Though, I prefer to wear nicer clothing when gaming women. I should look for some more female related topics to ask. I got a ton of sports/fighting/rock,metal,rap to ask if I feel like it.

 

[Deicide]

I've been slacking on my journal the past 2 weeks, but not my field work. I'll update as a continuation of where I left off.
Spring Break Week Friday
I was at Wal-Mart near my home town when I saw an HB 7 Blonde in work out shorts.
HB 7 Blonde
I said "Hey, you look like you've been working out?", and she asked me if there was a problem, she was either too b*tchy(which I think), or didn't realize I was trying to pick her up. Getting blown out isn't bad at all.

Return from Spring Break(Now at college)
Sunday March 20
I was working out at the gym when I noticed an attractive blonde and I approached her.
HB 7 Blonde Athlete
I said "Hey, are you trying to get back in shape after a fun Spring Break?", and she said that she had stayed in shape as a soccer player over break. But we talked in-depthly over what we did, she went to X City and I went to Y place(she asked me where I went and how mine was), though she walked out the place without any name exchanges.

Monday March 21
HB 8 Black Athlete
I did this approach in the morning and I had seen this cute girl around. I just approached her and talked about basketball, her spring break, and her time doing the NCAA tourney.

HB 7 Black
I approached her in the game room and said "Hey, how're you? You just had to use your computer in the game room of all places?" She laughed and we started talking about things like Japanese, and I got her to speak what little she knew from it. I was teasing her along the way(dialogue is in the AA thread), but she rejected my number close saying "She didn't know me well enough".

Tuesday March 22
HB 6 Chinese
I saw her walking between buildings and I approached her there.
"Hey, what languages do you speak?" This turned into one of my best cold approaches ever! I did a lot of teasing and kino with this girl(Dialogue is in AA thread). I teased her accent and her trying to teach me how to say I Love You in Chinese. I got her number from this encounter.
Wednesday March 23
HB 7 Indian
I saw her walking out of the same building I have Japanese class in.
"Hey, you look Middle Eastern, where are you from?" Then she goes on to explain she is from India, though she is American(confusing? haha). I ask questions about herself and I tease her about studying over Spring Break after I ask my open ended question "So what interesting things did you do over Spring Break?" Towards the end, she asks questions about myself, though I number closed in the end,(And was saying Uhh and being a little hesitant) she rejected me. It's ok, I just have to be more confident.

Later that day, I went to the Rec Center to work out. I saw a 2-set while I was doing sit-ups.
HB 7 Brunette and HB 6
"Hey, I do the same thing in my abdominals class. Then they explained that they had never taken the class. And we talked about how our Spring Breaks went from fun to not so interesting coming back to our small town locations.

Korean mixed group set
I saw a Korean girl that I had cold approached earlier in the set, so I immediately singled her out as I went in. They were playing pool in a group of 4 people(2 girls, 2 guys). The Korean remembered me and I ended up kinoing her and teasing her about things. I approached the other Korean woman in the set, and kino'd her a little, and was asking questions about her life and major and she ended up saying "I'm here studying with my husband" LOL, she knew what was up. I told the other Korean good night and left the set.

Thursday March 24
I went to a forum hosted by a girl I may be potentially dating. I found another girl there though.
HB 7 Brunette Glasses
She ended up sitting near me, and I immiediately opened her with "Hey, how're you doing?" Then, as soon as she answered, the forum started. She ended up dropping her cell phone and temporarily losing it in the middle of the forum. This would be a good tool later on. After the forum, I approached her on the way out and said "Hey, did you ever find your cell phone?" She said yes, and I told her she was just a little bit clumsy for losing it. Then we get deeper into conversation and we're walking together, though she makes the move to cross away from me, and I just do the name exchange close at the end.

Lessons learned for this week: I could've done a couple more number close attempts for sure. This past week's field report coming up, my cold approach numbers were in the double digits!

 

[Deicide]

I've been so busy with everything including my Field Work that it'd be tough to chronicle every single approach I do. But, I'll do a summary of last week's field work.
Week of March 27-April 2
I did 17 cold approaches this week, 10 during the day and 7 during a party.
I decided to go to the public sector for a little day game at Wal Mart in between shopping of all things. haha My college doesn't have bookstores, a mall, or too many interesting sites for day game. I was more nervous than usual on Thursday when i saw:
HB 7 Mature Honduran
I opened with something about us having to wait in line then I asked her in Spanish if you spoke Spanish. I would've number closed until I found out she had a husband.

Friday
I had my date with HB Chinese 6, and it went very well. I initiated a lot of kino throughout. I ended the date with a kiss on the cheek.

I did a couple warm-up cold approaches to prepare for the party. Then I went to play pool and I got a number from a HB 6 Blonde.
After that, I got ready for the party. And despite being in a social state and all my preparation, I was nervous, and looking around and not approaching at the beginning. I was afraid to open mixed sets, and was lost for a little bit. But I was finally able to open some sets. I found that after a minute of conversation with a couple sets, I was lost about what to say. I couldn't maintain sets for more than 2 minutes, and I got blown out of my last set.

At that time, I was very tired, and I went home after that. So, my Night Game needs some serious work.

 

[Deicide]

Week of April 3-9
This was another busy week for approaching.
I had a date with the HB 6 Blonde, and it didn't go well. Her body language was cold towards me(she crossed her arms 10 minutes in).

HB 6 Chinese doesn't want to date me anymore.

I got a number off a cold approach in the cafeteria from an HB 7 Black.
I got called out on one of my lines by a girl I had previously approached, but I didn't recognize her. That hurt! But, that just means I have to keep evolving my openers.

During the week, I opened girls in the computer lab and attractive ones that I saw walking near me. Though, it's harder to get them hooked in those circumstances.

I was at Wal-Mart in my hometown when I saw an attractive Hispanic women.

HB 6 Colombian
I asked her if she was buying an interesting hair color, and the conversation went from there. I just teased her about her accent a little, but the conversation was full of both of us discussing travel and our lives. I got her number too.

I turned two past questionable cold approaches into good things also. I was at a food fair when I talked to a HB 8 Taiwanese and a HB 7 Japanese and turned things around by telling them who I was and being cool.

I was scared when I was outside a bar. I hesitated, but I went in. I started off by playing pool with some guys, and I approached a few sets of women.
2-set HB 7's
I saw them near the dance floor and I approached them and asked them what they had done for the weekend. I teased them about not doing much, but apparently they didn't like this, and 30 seconds later, they left.

HB 8 Brunette
I saw her at the bar and started talking to her. She acted like she was about to leave, and after a minute of convo, I couldn't get her interested.
HB 7 Blonde
I started talking to her by the pool tables. We had good conversation for a couple minutes, but I couldn't get her interested. She seemed more interested in some other guy she had seen. I talked to her friendHB 7 Brunette and I opened them with "Both of you must be good friends", and it worked. But she was moving around from place to place.
2 set HB7 and HB8 Blonde at the bar
I opened them and asked them what they were drinking. Conversation was good, but they were getting ready to leave.

So, I need to learn how to be more sexual with women at bars.

It's been 2 weeks, and I lost count of how many approaches I did that week. Between 10-20 I'd say.

 

[Deicide]

April 10-16
In this week, I did my usual amount of approaching, went to a black fraternity party, and got a number. Some notable things happened.

I realized that computer lab game is a little tough. It's not hard to open girls in there, but beyond that, people are in there to work. And socializing is at its minimum in there. Still, it's always good to open anyone. Girls that are walking by, etc...

HB 7 Black Wild HairI made a comment about her while I was looking around for the cafeteria. Then I went and sat down with her even though she had her Ipod on. Her friend later joined. She seemed a little interested in me by asking questions. I spoke some Spanish and Japanese for her as she asked me to, but looking back on it, I need to use those language tools more effectively and perceive myself as more of a challenge. I did get her number though.

I opened a 3-set of attractive women at Wal Mart, but I opened them as they were passing by with "Hey, you all must be buying posters for college?", but they answered and went away, No problem, but I should've acted and approached more directly.
At the black fraternity party, I opened 5 sets. First one I was nervous for and had no real opener, so I got blew out 30 seconds in. Second one, I opened with "Hey, you all must be good friends", and it worked! I got into the 2-set and ended up meeting another girl based on my initial success. The problem was that I couldn't transition well, and I lost the set.
Third set, I asked "Hey, what do you think of the music in here?". Unfortunately, the girls were so negative and one ended up asking if I owned the place. lol Next. Fourth set was close to the bar area. I opened by saying "I like the shirts even though they're a little crazy", and one girl had her hand over her face trying to avoid me, and the other didn't seem talkative. The fifth set was a girl near the dance floor bar who I opened with "Hey, you're dancing all over the place". I ended up teasing her about her being shy about going on the dancefloor and we talked about her piercings. By that time, I was wore out.

I also approached a waitress at a Chinese restaraunt that week, but she didn't speak much English. I think I did about 30 cold approaches this week.

I'm doing my field work, but I'm slacking on my FR's.