"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Deicide

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April 17-23
This was a shorter week in terms of length(Got out of school on Friday).
Still, I did my approaching like always. Notable approaches.
HB 8 Asian
I saw her at Wal-Mart and opened with "Hey, you look like you've been working out?" and she said she had been running. It was a short conversation and I didn't hook her in.
HB 7 Professional
I saw her at Wal Mart and I opened with "Hey, I guess you're on your lunch break from work"?". Approach was going well, until I found out she was working for my college! F*ck that! Still, she was a nice girl.
HB 7 Chinese Music
I met her walking back from class and I opened with "Hey, are you going to some hard class", and we got on the topic of music, and it was very easy to tease her due to her shy/friendly personality. I broke off from the approach myself and didn't follow her(alpha trait).
HB 7 Chinese Student
I opened her with "Hey, you look like you've been doing schoolwork all day?". She told me "Sorry". LOL I told her that it was cool, and we had a fun conversation about life in general. Then her professor who she was waiting on interrupted my approach.
HB 5 Hispanic
I opened her with a neg opener "Hey, I like your hair, but I don't know why you have it pulled up like that? It pissed her off, lol, but I was able to smooth things over and have a normal conversation. Still, I don't like her personality, and if I ever had any regrets over a cold approach, it may be this one.
HB 7 Korean Writing
I noticed her walking up the stairs and I opened her with "Hey, are you going to some interesting class", and we talked until the 2nd floor where she stopped for me. I teased her about her accent and she was laughing. Though, I should've stayed longer in the approach as I could've number closed.

HB 7 Blonde Tattoo
She was walking near me when I opened her about her tattoo visible on her upper back. We talked for a minute or so, then she got sidetracked by her friends. I ended up name closing with her, but that was it.
HB 6 Blonde
The circumstances of this approach made me nervous as hell. She was doing schoolwork at a table by herself. I waited 30 mins. to approach her because I had Japanese lab work to do. Then I finally did and my nerves killed me. I opened her with "Hey, what type of computer do you have?". Conversation went for another 30 seconds and I bailed, and she probably thought WTF.

HB 6 Colombian flaked on our date. I got a number from a HB 6 Black who showed IOI's. And I realized that I need to get over my AA and focus on approaches that are away from proximity. Like the cute girl in that far corner away from me. The dynamics of those approaches make me more nervous than usual.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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