"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Definitive theory on One-i-tis (LONG)

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This might be just semantics but the way I see it is that you can only be the protector if the girl needs protecting right now or will need it at some future time.

If the girl has gone through cr@p BEFORE she`s met you then you could fall into the trap of becoming her COUNSELLOR or HEALER. I think this is one aspect of the Protector impulse in men, it definitely was for 2 of the longest LTR`s I had, and ultimately lead to the breakdown of those relationships.

I really liked and was into these women and the same from their end. They had some problems (unknown to me at the beginning, should`ve qualified better - hindsight is always in focus) and I genuinely wanted to help but I couldn`t and they didn`t want to get help (i.e. see a professional) so things fell apart.

The Protector drive in men is born out of biological and societal necessity I think. If it wasn`t we`d just go around f#cking countless women and not stick around to invest ourselves emotionally with the potential offspring and enter into a long term relationship with the woman.

Being a Protector has it`s place but great care must be taken when a man decides which woman should be bestowed with that honour.

Just my 2 cents.

Cheers,
Mav
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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