Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Deferential regard issues with a ONS that I've known for a while

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Alright guys, long story short.

I've known this girl since she was in senior high, whilst I was in college. A cute little half Japanese - half African-American and Burmese chick :rockon: Rare combination I know, strangely for that mix of races, she wasn't a hottie, but a cutie.

A blameless innocent naive virgin who didn't know nothing about the world.

Throughout a year and a half speaking with her, we lost contact and I blew her off because I was in a LTR with a hottie who she thought was super beautiful and commented me on that. She would stalk my Facebook, read my comments and ask me what it was about. I just used to blow her off (Never answer her calls, show disinterest, talk in a condescending way towards her)

So, after a year of the stalking, I guess she finally hit the mother load, lost her virginity and changed dramatically.

Her first stop to creating hell, was me! The new and improved "her" wanted to show off. I liked what I saw and since I've broke up with my LTR, I figured I'd give her another shot.

Last week - we hit it off pretty well, instant sexual eruption between us - fvcked allover the house.

This week - Friday, I figured I wouldn't mind railing her again. What happens? she starts showing me th cold shoulder, acting as if she has better things to do? I call her back in an hour to see if she was bullshytting or actually going with it - some guy answers the phone (Captain Save a Ho3) who has recently just come out of prison - I basically get tested and came out alright, but it was the fact she put this knucklehead jailbird on the phone to show she has other interests.

How it was before? - Shyt, she has ADHD and can't put two words together, she lost her virginity and is now acting like she is Madonna on MTV. This stuff pains me to see and I hate to buckle under to the notion of "thats just how things are", the lack of respect is present.

I see where I came off the wrong stop - showed no interest BEFORE the ONS, then started showing interest AFTER the ONS. makes sense, just had to get it off my chest. Lesson learned.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yeah, I have this female friend who gets around a lot (VERY high sex drive) and she can't stand it when guys "get all weird" after the ONS. She just wants them to remain as chill as they were and fvck her every so often. I find this sentiment is present in more girls than you think. Whatever you were doing made her want your, so no need to change. Lesson learned man, carry it over to the next one.
 

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^^^truth

This isn't good news bro. Only two things makes girls give the cold shoulder after you've piped already. Either you "got wierd" after the ONS, or you're sexing wasn't up to her standards.

A girl like you described would NEVER turn down another go-around with a good D.
 
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