Default Openers

[al77]

How many guys thought what would be good to say as default openers?
From DYD I remember classic "Are you single?" but this seems a bit too forward to be a default opener.

Here is a ocuple of suggestions:

a) Are you taking a yoga class? (no pause here) You look athletic!
So next thing to say could be abything yoga\gym related...

b) EC, EC, EC.. then "I noticed you are checking me out!"
She is going to smile anyway...now lets combine it with a)
"Are you taking a yoga class? (no pause here) You look athletic!"


What do you guys think? Are these any good applied to mature women?

Any other suggestion of default openers?

 

[brat-buster]

openers

YOU: you are cuter/hotter/prettier that the average girl at (insert here wherever you are at).........But are you friendly?

HER: usually gets a laugh

YOU: Ya know I'm glad you laughed, cuz even though you are stunning, I had to make sure that you had more going for you than just your good looks before I introduced myself........my name is (your name).



This one is good in a bar or club that has a sausage fest going on.

YOU: I'll bet every drunk dumbass and his 9 friends have been bothering/drooling on/ hitting on you..............but you are....(pause)..........fantastically beautiful and I just had to come over here and find out what you are like.




This one is interesting if you are someplace like a restaurant waiting area or a pub where you can hear.

Sit down next to a girl you would like to meet and say

YOU: Hi.....(pause)........I'm going to hit on you ok?
HER: ok
YOU: First I have to ask if you are more than just another pretty face though?
HER: Of course I am
YOU: Good cuz I won't hit on you if you are not as beatiful on the inside as you are on the outside.....ok?
HER: OK



use this on on a HB10

YOU: Hiya
HER: Hey
YOU: Ya know..........it's really too bad I'm not that attracted to you.
HER: OH really.....why is that??
YOU: cuz if nothing else you seem like you might make and interesting friend.
HER: You think so HUH?
YOU: Yeah........
YOU: So how long have you beeen single?
Her: What makes you so sure I'm single?
YOU: Well......I wasn't sure but now I know for sure. And since your single, I know someone who might really like you. (sly smile here)

 

[TooColdUlrick]

there's really no such thing as a default opener. if there were, it would be used to death. the best opening is simply, "hi". or some variation of it depending on the circumstances.

just be laid back, and pretend like you already know her. assume to yourself, instant rapport. assume she's a male buddy of yours. you wouldn't open your buddy, right?

me at starbucks, across the street from my condo, the other day...cute chubby chick, obviously alone. pull up next to her...

me: do you mind? (pointing to the empty seat).
her: no, go ahead.
me: so what's on the agenda today?
her: blah blah blah
me: cool...blah blah blah

didn't bother getting her number, no intention of it at all. just chit chat.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

Originally posted by carryout kid
How about this pickup line:

or

"You must wash your pants with Windex, because something really smells like Windex. "

okay, i'm semi-smart, but i don't get it? if i was a chick, i'd say...um...this dude's creepy...i gotta go...bye.

i can't imagine that a line like that would be successful under any circumstances, even if she was in the grocery store, looking at windex.

there are pickup lines and there are openers. pickup lines are so plainly obvious, while openers are not. stick with the openers.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

Originally posted by tj
i just say hey whats up.. what do you like to do for fun?

you're putting the cart before the horse, and coming on like a freight train.

"what do you like to do for fun..."

...at the initial contact, do you really give a fukk what she does for fun? no. you know this and she knows this. it's highly unlikely this line will work--it's a pickup line, and one that's used all the time.

no doubt, chicks want to be picked up. but they want it in a certain way. they want to be picked up without being picked up. subtlety works wonders.

you want her thinking, "is he trying to pick me up or not...is he going to ask for my number...does he have a girlfriend...i wonder how big his c@ck is...?" they love that sh!t.

every chick on earth knows that,

"what do you like to do for fun..."

will be followed shortly by,

"what's your phone number"

you've telegraphed the whole thing. usually not good.

 

[al77]

Originally posted by TooColdUlrick
there's really no such thing as a default opener. if there were, it would be used to death. the best opening is simply, "hi". or some variation of it depending on the circumstances.

just be laid back, and pretend like you already know her. assume to yourself, instant rapport. assume she's a male buddy of yours. you wouldn't open your buddy, right?

me at starbucks, across the street from my condo, the other day...cute chubby chick, obviously alone. pull up next to her...

me: do you mind? (pointing to the empty seat).
her: no, go ahead.
me: so what's on the agenda today?
her: blah blah blah
me: cool...blah blah blah

didn't bother getting her number, no intention of it at all. just chit chat.

I meant _personal_ default openers: the main idea of them is when your game is off, when you are not in teh mood etc... and you see a chick you like, there should be something that you can say without doing much thinking.

"Hi" is not an openers, because she would say "Hi" back and what's next? There should be an opener....

If I meet a buddy I know somehting about him to starta convo. But I know nothing about a female stranger.... thats why it is not a bad idea to have a default opener.

You example was about natural openers: when you fly next to a chick for a couple of hours, anything you say will be good enough to start a convo.

But what if you are preoccupied with thoughts, she is slowly moving... you dont even have time to think about what to ask her... and there is nothing to comment on.
"Hi!.... Hi.......mmmm....mmm"
In that kind of situation a default opener would help tremendously.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

^^^^ "hi" is an opener. as in "how you doing", "what's up", "hey there", etc...

all variations of "hi". just dont say hi to a chick if you don't have something to follow it up with immediately (e.g. idle chit chat). this will be entirely situational dependent. if you follow hi with a lame ass pickup line, you're pretty much dead unless she never gets hit on.

as in,

"hi...cool car"
"what's up...hotter than sh!t isn't it"
"how's it going...nice melons"

do it quickly, so she can't say hi back to you until you've opened her.

a...b

you: hi...something interesting
her: oh really...yeah i know what you mean

you've opened her.

i recall one time a chick was walking by my car to hers. she was parked next to mine. she had a nice truck with a rack on the front. as we passed each other, i raised my eyebrows, tilted my head up, as in a non verbal "hi", and said,

"nice rack" with a little smile as i was pointing to her 'rack'.

she dug it.

basically if you're very witty (situational humor) and have some ballz, you will not use pickup lines anymore, you won't even consider them, you open naturally men and women alike. think seinfeld.

i'm making it sound easy, but that's because i've been "opening" in business and such for a long time. after a while, it's easy as sh!t to open chicks, especially when you're used to "opening" some VP ice cold when he KNOWS you're trying to sell him something.

 

[al77]

Originally posted by TooColdUlrick


just dont say hi to a chick if you don't have something to follow it up with immediately (e.g. idle chit chat). this will be entirely situational dependent.

you: hi...something interesting
her: oh really...yeah i know what you mean

you've opened her.

basically if you're very witty (situational humor) and have some ballz, you will not use pickup lines anymore

So a default opener is situationally dependent, "something interesting" and just witty, situational humor?

Those are accurate characteristics of course, though the hardest part is to come up with somehting witty, intersting or humours especially with respect to a situation.
This is NOT easy to come up with situational and interesting humor. Or just interesting & situational. Or Just humorous and situational.

Ever watch comedian? They do their homework, they actually compose what they are going to say... and those guys are on the top of "humorous & interesting". So average guys like me having hard time to instantly come up with situational interesting stuff.
Thats why it is good to prepare some... all right pick up lines, i.e. openers that are not lame and could be used anywhere.

The whole idea of default openers is to come up with actually the humorus and\or interesting stuff.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

^^^ you just have to practice. you don't have to be mr. funny guy. just a cool dude....whatever your style is, make it better.

 

[al77]

Can you guys give me a feedback on this opener:

"Are you taking a yoga class? (no pause here) You look athletic!"

It sounds good to me... unique and I compliment her.
But at teh same time she might think I dig her body, so she might conclude: "a player" which is a turn off for many decent women.
Any opinions?

 

[TooColdUlrick]

that's the problem with default openers and pick up lines---you're thinking about them.

"if i say this, she might think that...but on the other hand..."

you're psyching yourself out.

 

[al77]

Originally posted by TooColdUlrick
that's the problem with default openers and pick up lines---you're thinking about them.

"if i say this, she might think that...but on the other hand..."

you're psyching yourself out.

Thats right.
So what kind of opener you would use with a girl when you can't comment on anything she wears i.e. non-situational opener?

 

[allan976]

al,

When are you starting your bootcamp?

 

[irishguy]

YOU : Hey, Haven't seen you here before.
HER : Why ? Are you here a lot ?
YOU : No, its my first time.

Might get a laugh?

 

[tomyv]

My favorite, got this from a chic friend of mine, and it's worked nearly every time, although it's stupid.

"Excuse me, how much does a polar bear weigh?"

her: "I don't know"

"Enough to break the ice"

For some reason they seem to love it.

 

[Desdinova]

The best openers are when you make a statement or ask a question about your surroundings or her appearance without giving a compliment.

"I wonder how many bottles of mustard they used to paint that building yellow?"

"How many pieces of gum do you think are stuck on this dance floor?"

"That's a nifty necklace, where did you get it?"

 

[al77]

Originally posted by irishguy
YOU : Hey, Haven't seen you here before.
HER : Why ? Are you here a lot ?
YOU : No, its my first time.

Might get a laugh?

One of the best _default_ opener I have ever seen!
Very very good: some humor+situational+a bit of smart ass.

tomyv:
The idea is interesting, but it starts a bit too goofy for some chicks. She is prollthinking "What the heck he is talkign about"? I.e. it alienates her a bit at first... it might pay off later though.

Desdinova:
They are all good openers, the last one is great though it is not default (what if she doesn't have a necklace... or cool boots.. or anything like that? what is she wear usual baggy sweater and usual baggy jeans? What are you going to ask "Thats a cool style you have, are you into fashion magazines or somehting?" might be a neghit sort of).
The other two are too goofy. Do women like goofy openers?

 

[Ricky]

Opinion opener

Observational comment

Or where did you get that blank

 

[al77]

Originally posted by Ricky
Opinion opener

Observational comment

Or where did you get that blank

Ricky,

Where did you get that... is an excellent opener. One of the best. But it no way a _default_ opener. She wears a baggy clothes - what are you going to ask her - "where did you get your jeans that are 3 sizes bigger than your ass"? lol
Or if she sits somewhere, you don't even see what she is wearing...
So it is tough to make it a default opener.
It is great when she actually has something you can ask about.

Opinion opener - depends what are you going to ask. Any suggestions?

Observational comment - again, it might be great, what kind of commment you use?

 

[al77]

Originally posted by Bible_Belt
Does this rag smell like Chloroform?

I think it is a running opener. You open a chick like this and she runs away. You just invented a new category for openers.