default moves, for common scenerios

[undesputable]

there are certain cases or scenerios which come up often, while dealing with a girl.....many guys think they have to come up with something original everytime something happens, but most likley it wont come out that fast.....

so what are your default moves for common situations....
for example:
a girl saying im fat/ugly
a girl trying to challange you
being a brat to you in public
her throwing a tantrum on you
her complimenting you
you see a girl at the book store/the mall....etc.....

you can tell your own common situations too.

 

[rgeere]

It doesn't matter what you say as long as you take the steering wheel and put the impedence on her to act.

Plus, some girls act like brats no matter who you are unless you are really hot yourself or she wants you really bad.

 

[undesputable]

i dont think you got the point....of course it doesnt matter what you say, but sometimes nothing may come out at all....you may get too caught up in the momement or everything might happen so fast you dont get a chance to think of anything....thats why having a default thing to do for some common situations is good...bc your come back is there, you dont have to think about it, you shoot back and makes her realize that her challenges are no match for you

 

[McKindley]

I think undesputable is hitting on something people should pay more attention to.

He's hinting at a need for a Vocabulary of reactions. Everyone has a verbal vocabulary that they use when speaking. Although you probably know thousands of words, thing of how many of them you use in regular conversation. And think about how many words, and word combinations, or ways of speaking, that make you unique?

This is a concept popular with musicians, dealing with their musical vocabulary. You know how you can hear a song and tell which band/solo artist is playing even if you haven't been told yet? That's because you are accustomed to their musical vocabulary. They have a way of playing that is unique enough for you to know who it is pretty soon after the song starts.

So Undesputable is talking about acquiring a social vocabulary, which is pretty crucial. Most guys that have naturally acquired a good one think this concept is silly (much as natural DJ's think this site is silly) and guys that haven't acquired one probably completely understand what I'm talking about.

As for some of your specific questions:
her throwing a tantrum on you: with kids and adults when this happens you can only do one thing: walk away. People throw tantrums for attention. If you just walk away mid tantrum not only are you denying attention, but they look douche bags throwing a tantrum all by themselves.

Her comlimenting you: Just say thanks. I personally don't find a way to compliment a person back right after they compliment me because it looks insincere.

Girls saying you're fat/ugly: probably won't happen unless A) she's a total ***** B) you're being out of line. This has only happened to me once, and I've been fat my whole life. And I was being out of line. And she was a *****. Really, this is another one where I personally just walk away. That's the type of thing she says to make you BLOW UP you're so mad. Don't give her the satisfaction. She wants to have everyone see you scream at her. It makes her a victim.

I guess most of the situations you listed end up with me walking away right after of as it happens. I guess that's why I've moved 5 times in the past 3 years. I walk away from things a lot.

 

[rgeere]

I've never really had a problem, maybe I'm just a natural ...


Not sure if this is what you want, but you can try this thread. Remember that these sort of things comes as a 'concept' not a string of 'canned lines.'

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=61456