"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Any one know any good supplements for deep sleep? I get a fair amount of exercise every day, I bike to and from work a total of 9.2 miles.

I take magnesium acetate, zinc, fish oil, ashwaghanda and at night I take a combination supplement that has valrian root, melatonin, lemon grass and magnesium.

I just feel tired a lot of times. Sometimes I don't get enough sleep because I work 2nd shift and it messes up my sleep cycle.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Any one know any good supplements for deep sleep? I get a fair amount of exercise every day, I bike to and from work a total of 9.2 miles.

I take magnesium acetate, zinc, fish oil, ashwaghanda and at night I take a combination supplement that has valrian root, melatonin, lemon grass and magnesium.

I just feel tired a lot of times. Sometimes I don't get enough sleep because I work 2nd shift and it messes up my sleep cycle.
Hello, would you like to try Brainwaves? You can download Brainwaves app on your android or iOS devices. I recommend you the Sleep Brainwaves.(Both I schronic Tone & Binaural Beats)
 

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First of all cut all electronics, social networks and media before bed time, keep your environment cool and dark before the planned sleeping time.

Regarding supplements, well done with magnesium but I would suggest you to drop the zinc, in my case it keeps me awake, I take it before working out and it does great.

If you're not tight on diet eat some cards at dinner, they help to release serotonin.
 

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First of all cut all electronics, social networks and media before bed time, keep your environment cool and dark before the planned sleeping time.

Regarding supplements, well done with magnesium but I would suggest you to drop the zinc, in my case it keeps me awake, I take it before working out and it does great.

If you're not tight on diet eat some cards at dinner, they help to release serotonin.
Really? I thought zinc was good before bed.
 

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Really? I thought zinc was good before bed.
I've been told the same, I heard about the magic of zma and the restoring sleep it brings, on me it keeps me wake and vigilant and even when I fall asleep the quality is very low.

Agree on magnesium but personally zinc is offlimits before sleep, same for bcaa and glutamine.

I read about glutamine before night for a better GH release but if no sleep happens I cant see how GH can be released during sleep.

What works for me is, cool environment, low light, no cellphone or social media and feel good food at dinner.

Keep in mind that we are all different so dont take for granted what you read in forums, try out what works for you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've been told the same, I heard about the magic of zma and the restoring sleep it brings, on me it keeps me wake and vigilant and even when I fall asleep the quality is very low.

Agree on magnesium but personally zinc is offlimits before sleep, same for bcaa and glutamine.

I read about glutamine before night for a better GH release but if no sleep happens I cant see how GH can be released during sleep.

What works for me is, cool environment, low light, no cellphone or social media and feel good food at dinner.

Keep in mind that we are all different so dont take for granted what you read in forums, try out what works for you.
Makes sense. I googled zinc and insomnia, a lot of people had the same problem.

I do smoke about a pack of cigs a day and drink anywhere from a half a pot to a full pot in the morning. I'm sure that's a big part of it.
 

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you know this anyway man but seriously WTF you're taking health supplements and you're on the coffin nails! since you're a smoker what is probably happening is your air passages are getting clogged up at night. I always struggle with sleep so I would suggest the following number 1 with a bullet is go straight down to your local chemist / drugstore and buy a bottle of saline solution you squirt that up your schnoz preferably three times a day if you can manage but definitely morning and night. if you want some proof search on Harvard medical school and nasal irrigation. let us know how you go with that one and then we'll get to work on the rest.
 

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you know this anyway man but seriously WTF you're taking health supplements and you're on the coffin nails! since you're a smoker what is probably happening is your air passages are getting clogged up at night. I always struggle with sleep so I would suggest the following number 1 with a bullet is go straight down to your local chemist / drugstore and buy a bottle of saline solution you squirt that up your schnoz preferably three times a day if you can manage but definitely morning and night. if you want some proof search on Harvard medical school and nasal irrigation. let us know how you go with that one and then we'll get to work on the rest.
Does thishelp with snoring?
 

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Yes it will. But like most things it builds up over time so you have to do it religiously every day and if you have snoring problems you have to do plenty of cardio and keep the weight down.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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