Deep sh1t - Our lives and SoSuave.com

[Sexual]

Everyone always posts that confidence essentially is the key.

Three years ago, I sat here like the rest of you and attempted reprogramming myself. As I went through the boot camp week by week, memorizing the material and using it as bedside material for many nights, I grew attached to this piece of gold that I had found. This book filled with posts had pushed me past my limits to become content with my results.

I ended the camp early in the 5th week (rejection). For over a year I conquested, woman after woman. I mean, I had no guidance. All I had was technique. The women grew less attractive, I cared less about them, and then I took a plunge that had gotten me involved in SoSuave in the first place. LTRs.

I grew lazy, turned more AFC by the day, and let her take over my life. She was apart of my everyday life, smearing whatever image I had of myself into a fawked perspective of my dreams and what she wanted them to be. She eventually destroyed me. Now we catch up to present time.

Why did this happen?? Is it because I didn't finish the boot camp? Is it because I didn't keep repeating the course? I mean, I spent a lot of time honing my skills and they still failed in the end. It's quite possible this site is all a joke, some scam to earn money and make people believe that they're amazingly suave and that it actually is possible to achieve the greatness of our fictional heroes. Most of the men on this website are so in love with this idea, and they do come off as Gods among men- but are they really??

As of now, I don't believe it's possible to change who you are..... And I want someone to help me change my point of view!

 

[Marlimus]

Read psychocybernetics by Maltz Maxwell. It takes at least 90 days to implement a life-changing habit, and in order to do so you must change your self-image. Believing that it is possible to grow and evolve is what made me the man I am. If you believe you cannot change, or grow, then you won't.

My personal creed, is that every man has the power to recreate himself in his own image and likeness. That is why I continue to grow, even though I lose small battles here and there. Its a good fight.

 

[Docs]

I grew lazy, turned more AFC by the day, and let her take over my life. She was apart of my everyday life, smearing whatever image I had of myself into a fawked perspective of my dreams and what she wanted them to be. She eventually destroyed me.

Sorry to hear.

The thing that you let her do, which you shouldn't, is letting her control very aspect of your life. Without so much as a fight, you supplicated to her demands. Just like society and how politications can be so wrong, but it will still happen. Why? Because we let it happen, and the same can be said for you. It's not a failure of the bootcamp, or a confidence issue, or even a problem that we created for you.

You cannot blame SoSuave for something you let happen to yourself, and the only thing you can do now is rebuild your life to what you can, and hope to find happiness where it lies.

 

[far from average]

Everyone always posts that confidence essentially is the key.

I ended the camp early in the 5th week (rejection). For over a year I conquested, woman after woman. I mean, I had no guidance. All I had was technique. The women grew less attractive, I cared less about them, and then I took a plunge that had gotten me involved in SoSuave in the first place. LTRs.

I grew lazy, turned more AFC by the day, and let her take over my life. She was apart of my everyday life, smearing whatever image I had of myself into a fawked perspective of my dreams and what she wanted them to be. She eventually destroyed me. Now we catch up to present time.

I don't think it's necessarily LTR's that are the problem. The problem is that you got involved with a woman who likes to change men. Of course, the new version will bore her to tears, but whatever. Say what you like about confidence, it is very hard to be that close to somebody for that long and not get at least somewhat absorbed into the relationship and give up some of your individuality.

Two things that are important and that I think get totally ignored in this forum from what I've seen:

1. Attitude is the NUMBER ONE determinant of how happy you'll be with a woman. Not looks, not other personality traits. A good attitude is worth its weight in platinum.

2. If you pick up girls as a "player" then that needs to be who you are inside. If you pick them up as a don juan but really you're more of a normal guy, that will come out in the relationship and you will have pulled the bait and switch on her. Then, when she leaves you you will piss and moan.

My cousin's friend owned a sizable australian dating service, and he emphasized one point to me over and over: No matter who you are or what you're like, there are girls who will be into that. So, just be who you are. Then you'll see why confidence is all.

 

[Sexual]

That's very interesting. I looked up the book and I'm buying it, it's only 8 bucks. I need to find myself, and maybe my perspective will be similar to your's one day, Marlimus. I don't merely want it to be a creed, but I pray it to be apart of who I am. Hopefully your response will be the answer to my request. Thank you.

Docs, a man seeks to solve problems and then to place blame, right? You stated all things I know. It's been a while since that happened, I merely described the downfall. Thanks for the input, though.

Far from average.... what in the world are you talking about.... go sit in the corner.