"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The_Guy

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If your girlfriend starts talking about a deep topic, such as her problems, and you already have a serious relationship with her, should you tell her some of your problems? In other words, should you ever look for advice/or just tell your girlfriend a problem you're experiencing? My initial answer would be no, but isn't it possible it'd bond the both of you?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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pdx1138

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If you're in a real relationship I would and have.

It's some of the things you discuss when together.

Only if you have a good REAL relationship though.
 

Warrior74

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The phrasing of your question sounds like "if your girlfriend is having a b1tch and moan session, should you ***** and moan as well?" Don't participate in those. If she tells you her problems, just listen. Cheer her up a bit and carry on.

If you have something major bothering you, firstly, make a plan to deal with it. If she asks you what's eating you, you can confide in your girlfriend, it's all about how you do it and what you do afterwards. Example :

I lost my job when I lived with my girl and my daughter was 1 years old. Imagine coming home and telling the little woman that. So I get a baby sitter, we go out for dinner and I tell her that I got canned. Whole department down the tubes. I told her how upset I was and how my manager sacrificed us to save himself and all of my frustration with that sh1thole. Then after I vented about my problem, I told her the plan. The plan would keep us going. The plan would get me back on track. The plan would work and I believed in the plan. And it did. We didn't have any problems during my year of unemployment, the bills got paid and eventually I found a new job.

That's how you share your problems with your woman.

What you don't do is get emo, get depressed, or despondent. Express, emote and then tell her the plan and follow through. You're human after all, you have problems and feelings , but your a man so you solve them and make it better.
 

f283000

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If your girlfriend starts talking about a deep topic, such as her problems, and you already have a serious relationship with her, should you tell her some of your problems? In other words, should you ever look for advice/or just tell your girlfriend a problem you're experiencing? My initial answer would be no, but isn't it possible it'd bond the both of you?
You have to remember that your girlfriend looks to you as her man/leader. Women don't want an "equal" they want a real man, a man that will protect her, lead her, dominate her, give her fun etc.

However, she does not want another whiny crybaby as herself. It's her natural role to seek comfort in her man.

What you do in situations like this is comfort her, show her your wisdom and understanding, offer counsel.

You gotta remember that women now a days come with daddy issues. You sort of have to treat them like children. They want men that will offer them leadership.

Don't use her whine and cry sessions to do the same for yourself but instead show yourself as a pillar of composure and just offer her your serious advice/opinion.
 
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