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[zinc4]

No advice?

 

[backbreaker]

what else is there to day. i was in a similar situtation about 10-11 years ago with a girl I met who just got out of a 6 year reolationship. She was fine as hell and had a great personality and truth be told, she liked me, but she still had feels for her ex. But i caught a case of the feels for her. I told her point blank, yeah i'm ****ing other women, lol i even showed her who the other women where what could she do I knew she was still ****ing the other guy i caught her tongue kissing him in a night club.

one day she broke down and told me what it was going to take for me to date her and i told her nothing was going to happen until 1. i was assured she liked me and wasn't just trying to get back at her ex and 2. he was not in the picture, in no way, shape or form.


she bucked, but eventually we got there. it took 4-5 months. but we got there. she was a great girl.



she's trying to use weak arse game about you being a player, don't flintch. tell her you don't give you rheart to anyone and espeically someone who toys with ex's. Tell her honstly you really like her and you can see yourself with her, but not in this situtation like it is now, she needs to get her **** together before he expects you to settle down.


I would not even flitch at her asking me am i sleeping with other girls. i wouldn't brag about it but i wouldn't deny it, **** i would lie even if i were. make her think she has competition.


Think about it. A girl that 1. wants you to not **** other girls while 2. being able to **** her EX, is not a girl you want to date anyway. if she is real, she will realize what you're saying and get her **** right.

 

[hudpes]

Ease up, Zinc, your are tense and full of want. You should care for her in a careless way - I find you amazing, but whatever, I really want you, but you can go. Let the desire for her be the underlying current, not everything. You have to sway her into a relationship, get under her skin, not fvck her until she loves you. I'm sure she's attracted to you, but clearly doesn't trust you. Make sure you present yourself to her in the right light, without validating yourself. Wear your pokerface, go about your business, no games, no pushing, be stable as a rock, and she'll realize it's her that's erratic and acting all silly. Maybe adding just a bit of a beta (not the insecurity) now and then would do you good, but keep your eyes peeled for any sh!t tests..

 

[zinc4]

what else is there to day. i was in a similar situtation about 10-11 years ago with a girl I met who just got out of a 6 year reolationship. She was fine as hell and had a great personality and truth be told, she liked me, but she still had feels for her ex. But i caught a case of the feels for her. I told her point blank, yeah i'm ****ing other women, lol i even showed her who the other women where what could she do I knew she was still ****ing the other guy i caught her tongue kissing him in a night club.

one day she broke down and told me what it was going to take for me to date her and i told her nothing was going to happen until 1. i was assured she liked me and wasn't just trying to get back at her ex and 2. he was not in the picture, in no way, shape or form.


she bucked, but eventually we got there. it took 4-5 months. but we got there. she was a great girl.



she's trying to use weak arse game about you being a player, don't flintch. tell her you don't give you rheart to anyone and espeically someone who toys with ex's. Tell her honstly you really like her and you can see yourself with her, but not in this situtation like it is now, she needs to get her **** together before he expects you to settle down.


I would not even flitch at her asking me am i sleeping with other girls. i wouldn't brag about it but i wouldn't deny it, **** i would lie even if i were. make her think she has competition.


Think about it. A girl that 1. wants you to not **** other girls while 2. being able to **** her EX, is not a girl you want to date anyway. if she is real, she will realize what you're saying and get her **** right.

At this point, I would be backtracking to bring that up....I already agreed to show her I would stop drinking and playing around.... I should have said that in the beginning no doubt though....

Hudpes, I guess it's knowing how sexually crazy about her ex she was that's pushing my buttons... That info and past stories have messed with my l mind....I feel very challenged by the entire situation..... It's almost like I'm in a competition of sorts and won't be satisfied until I win....walking away with my head up would likely be the best thing for my self respect, but on the same token, I feel like that's kind of giving up. Not caring is always the best route for me, but this one is tough for whatever reason.