Hmm, neutral doesn't sound too encouraging man. No doubt, people DO get sick, and sometimes so sick that they really cannot go to work/do the shopping/stick to their dates etc. But also, a lot of the time it's just an excuse for when they dont' really wanna do that thing (work/pay bills/date etc). This one, I'm sorry to say, does sound more like the excuse variety (or maybe just a complete invention, ie she's not sick at all). Don't lose all hope though, 'cos I might be wrong.
Here's why I think I'm right though. I know if I REALLY wanted to do something, or see someone, i would have to be REALLY sick not to do it, and if I WAS really sick, on the phone I'd be like "oh MAN, i can't believe this shyt. I REALLY wanted to come over tonight, but I'm just feeling so sick I just can't." A chick would say it in that girly apologetic voice like "I'm soooo sorry, i'm just feeling awful... is it okay if we save it for another time?) [voice rising at the end, even better if she sort of "squeaks" out the last part] Then you know it's genuine (or he/she is one good actor).
Fkkn that's chicks for you man, they are DOMINATED by their moods. See how quickly they can go hot to cold? (Assuming this one was an excuse.) Man, I've had it happen to me bro, I KNOW what it's like. For a guy, fkking infuriating... things had gone so good last time you were with 'em, you make these cool plans, you're so looking forward to it... and then BOOM, the gate shuts on you. It's just the way chicks are man. VERY little that you can do about it.
But there is ONE thing you can do that i have not yet found anything as powerful as (NB "powerful", not "foolproof") and that thing is to get them to experience sexual states. If you do this, then THAT is what she thinks of when she thinks of you. (I mean, this is before you've fkkd them or even kissed them -- those things are sexual enough by themselves, and once you've done them, those are things she automatically thinks of when she thinks of you; well, as long as you were "good" in bed or a good kisser, that is.) If you don't do that, then the things she thinks of are the other stuff you talked about, or the jokes, or maybe some "look" you gave her. Those things aren't bad, and sometimes they are enough. But they are not as powerful as if she is recalling sexual feelings when she thinks of you.
Just test this on yourself. Imagine you had a date with some hot chick right... nah, hang on...make it some chick that you wren't really all that into. And you're there and you're chatting away and shyt, but at some point during the convo, she tells you, say, in an embarrassed tone, "I feel kinda embarrassed telling you this, but sitting here talking to you, I'm getting SO turned on...". (Okay, a chick isn't very likely to tell you that...at least not on a first date, but just bear with me.) Even though you might not have been particularly attracted to this chick, when she told you that, you felt like a real stud didn't you? Now, let's say it's four days later, when YOU think of this chick, what is the first thing that's gonna come to your mind? It's gonna be that line isn't it? You're gonna recall how it felt to hear those words from her. Maybe when you recall it it won't be as powerful, but it's still a good feeling. Now, imagine she had never said anything like that. When you think of her, you're just gonna think of whatever normal convo material you guys discussed. Most likely, because you weren't attracted to her that much, you're probably not get excited at all when you think of her. See the difference?
I've got this leb boss at this pizza shop I work at. He's a gun salesman (he works in sales during the day, runs pizza shop at night.) The other night this new customer asked me how the ribs were. Me, like a fkkn rookie, go to him that look, I don't eat ribs so I'm not the man to ask, but they're really popular, we sell heaps of them. (Actually so far so good, the fkk up is the net bit.) "We had a bit of a problem with the last batch though, they were a bit tough for some of the customers, but the new batch is fine." My boss goes to me NEVER use the word "problem" to a customer. It's good that I was trying to be honest, but customers are a pack of fkkheads, and when he thinks about our ribs, all he will remember is the word "problem", that's the part that will remain fixed most firmly in his head. I actually realized my error before he even told me, and he's definitely right.
Chicks are pretty similar. The stuff that sticks in their heads most firmly is the sexual feelings. When they feel they are hot and sexy and desirable, or that they turned YOU on, that is what they remember because that is what they like to feel more than anything. Remember that song "You make me feel like an original woman...." It's the womanly way the guy made her feel that had her hooked on him -- not the jokes or the card tricks or whatever.
Now, as for practical ideas, my arsenal is pretty empty I must admit. So is th above just KBJ theory then? Well, not really. I've known for quite a while that what chicks want most is FEELINGS...but I'd been a bit hazy on WHICH feelings. I think have it nailed with the above though. Why? Because based on the chicks I've been with in the past, I mean, on "dates" I've been, on the ones that ended up hot and heavy (sex, blow, fingering) and the ones that were just "a good time", the difference was how sexual we got with each other conversationally or just "mood-wise" -- I mean here the way we looked at each other, the tone of voice etc; all the really sexually suggestive stuff. The ones that ended up good were the sexual ones, the other ones that didn't, as far as I can remember, were ones where we spent TOO long talking about "serious" stuff, even though it was in a "fun" tone and we laughed a lot. I mean, it's a date, so okay, you're gonna talk about "serious" or semi-serious stuff at least for a BIT, but the problem is when that is virtually ALL you do, or you spend TOO LONG on it.
Anyway, back to the practical stuff. So what "sexual" stuff did I use? Well, sorry for the letdown, but nothing really spectacular. Basically, I just talked about her looks. Not in a four-eyed nerd, starstruck kind of way. I mean, in a sexual way. Eg "Well, listen, just sitting here looking at you now, you are SO good looking" Usually that gets a you-just-made-my-day smile out of her and a (almost shy) "thank you". But keep it up and say more. Like one time, I pressed on, "I'm serious. I knew you were good looking and i was already attracted to you, but seriously, the more I'm looking at you, I can't believe how hot you are". (That was a specific one that I am recalling -- we were sitting in my car, and she actually started it, 'cos we were talking about what we thought of each other the first time we saw each other. I had given some friends a lift, and she was with them, and she was in the back of my car. She goes to me [what her impression of me was] "pretty fkkn hot", and that is when I came back with the above.)
Very very effective. Some people say "dont' give compliments". I think that is BS. If she likes you, she definitely wants to hear that you find her attractive. Maybe approaching with "Man, you are so hot" is not the greatest approach (then again, maybe it is, dunno), but once you've already got some attraction happening, I am CONVINCED that it is an extremely effective method. That guy skip2mylou that got banned on here (totally unfair, imo) says he used to always use this, and frankly, I believe his field reprts cos they are so similar to what I have experienced. Imo, girls LOVE it if you tell them how attracted you are to them.
Unfortunately, that's about all I have for the moment. Well, I have also talked more direct sexual stuff, but that's only AFTER I've already been with her. (Eg, we talk on the phone to each other about the "other night" and things we did to each other and how good it felt etc) That is good too, but I haven't worked out a way of introducing this kind of stuff into the conversation BEFORE I've done anything with her. Well, at least not without sounding overly crude, anyway -- eg, like "so... you like giving head?" Lol, that's too crude man, I couldn't pull it off. Even just "so... what's your fave position" is a bit too forward and I wouldn't feel comfrotable saying it. (Might be a good one though.. but i think the "backfire" potential is too high.)
