MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
After Player Supreme (I think) linked it, I did some reading, and found a "Why do women go after bad boys" thread. In THREE PAGES, nobody posted a good reply, and I just had to break the cycle. My reply is on the last page, under the name "AcuraHighRoller".
http://teenforums.studentcenter.org/viewtopic.php?t=73474&start=30
Bad boys have some good qualities: Confidence. Masculinity. Excitement. Nice guys have none of those. There are so few nice guys with the above three qualities, that women will go for the bad boys who are masculine and confident over the nice guys who are sissies.
Furthermore, nice guys know not how to show interest as more than friends. Bad boys are more likely to simply go for what they want, without hesitation. This is confidence, pure and simple. Women want a guy self assured enough to go for what he wants instead of just sitting back waiting for it to come to you.
Guys need to be confident, self-assured, positive, not be afraid to be true. Don't be a wuss, don't be indecisive, don't whine about how nice guys get screwed over, and don't put on a show.
Nice guys tend to not realize that females are sexual creatures too. This isn't to say be a horndog, and I myself am staying a virgin until marriage, but DO NOT EVER be afraid of your own sexuality. Be bold. Flirt, kiss her, roughhouse with her, poke at her, mess with her, just plain have fun. It's what you did as kids, except with more refinement.
I want to choke every time I hear someone tell a nice guy "just keep waiting, you will find someone, girls at younger age like the bad boys but will eventually come around". BLEHHHHH! Why do we want some chick who has been used, screwed, and tossed by bad boys and now has some motherload of baggage, when we could have the still pure, un-jaded girl? It takes confidence, my friends. Assertiveness, respectful leadership, going for what you want, and no hesitation.
It is better to fail by being TOO bold than by not being bold enough. Boldness and niceness are not polar opposites. A guy who is nice, and who is confident/bold/assertive, is the kind of guy every sane woman wants. There's no arguing that.
This is all a little disorganized, but the main point is, it's not that Women want jerks over nice guys. It's that they want masculinity over no masculinity; confidence over cowardliness; assertiveness over passiveness; sexuality over asexuality; protector over someone who needs a protector; leader over follower; strength over weakness; strong genes over weak genes; a little danger and uncertainty as opposed to total tameness and predictability. Can you fault them for it?
A confident nice guy is a rare and valuable commodity; this is a nice guy who realizes that being a MAN in the world of dating and relationships is a capitalistic venture, that if you want something to happen, you have to make it happen. No matter what feminists might want you to think, making the move and initiating is still largely the guy's job. Don't hate it. Embrace it.
http://teenforums.studentcenter.org/viewtopic.php?t=73474&start=30
Bad boys have some good qualities: Confidence. Masculinity. Excitement. Nice guys have none of those. There are so few nice guys with the above three qualities, that women will go for the bad boys who are masculine and confident over the nice guys who are sissies.
Furthermore, nice guys know not how to show interest as more than friends. Bad boys are more likely to simply go for what they want, without hesitation. This is confidence, pure and simple. Women want a guy self assured enough to go for what he wants instead of just sitting back waiting for it to come to you.
Guys need to be confident, self-assured, positive, not be afraid to be true. Don't be a wuss, don't be indecisive, don't whine about how nice guys get screwed over, and don't put on a show.
Nice guys tend to not realize that females are sexual creatures too. This isn't to say be a horndog, and I myself am staying a virgin until marriage, but DO NOT EVER be afraid of your own sexuality. Be bold. Flirt, kiss her, roughhouse with her, poke at her, mess with her, just plain have fun. It's what you did as kids, except with more refinement.
I want to choke every time I hear someone tell a nice guy "just keep waiting, you will find someone, girls at younger age like the bad boys but will eventually come around". BLEHHHHH! Why do we want some chick who has been used, screwed, and tossed by bad boys and now has some motherload of baggage, when we could have the still pure, un-jaded girl? It takes confidence, my friends. Assertiveness, respectful leadership, going for what you want, and no hesitation.
It is better to fail by being TOO bold than by not being bold enough. Boldness and niceness are not polar opposites. A guy who is nice, and who is confident/bold/assertive, is the kind of guy every sane woman wants. There's no arguing that.
This is all a little disorganized, but the main point is, it's not that Women want jerks over nice guys. It's that they want masculinity over no masculinity; confidence over cowardliness; assertiveness over passiveness; sexuality over asexuality; protector over someone who needs a protector; leader over follower; strength over weakness; strong genes over weak genes; a little danger and uncertainty as opposed to total tameness and predictability. Can you fault them for it?
A confident nice guy is a rare and valuable commodity; this is a nice guy who realizes that being a MAN in the world of dating and relationships is a capitalistic venture, that if you want something to happen, you have to make it happen. No matter what feminists might want you to think, making the move and initiating is still largely the guy's job. Don't hate it. Embrace it.
